Gambling by financial dependents.

[indah rezqi]

If a boy below 18 years of age who has no income gets involved in gambling and after getting involved he becomes addicted to gambling then when he cannot manage money for gambling but he can go in wrong direction to manage money. We see many drug addicted boys and girls who, if they don't get money for drugs, misbehave with family members and commit various misdeeds. A boy under the age of 18 who is involved in gambling must be brought out of gambling addiction and the family must supervise the matter so that the boy does not become addicted to gambling. Because it will not be good for the family if the boy gets addicted to gambling and he can definitely commit such misdeeds.

You are right, mate, but the problem with some kids is that they can actually keep their habit as a secret from their parents, it's after they must have become too addicted, that's only when their parents or guidance are going to find out and by that time it might have been too late. Like you said, that's the reason why we have some young people in the street misbehaving and doing all sort illegal just to get money to gamble with.

It's hard to say if a child is involved in gambling, unless taken unawares. In as much as the underaged player no longer stays with his guardians, they'll be no way to go around the situation, other than inviting him home and recommend a rehab program or therapy session. Thus, Parents have to deal with this carefully, to retain the sanity of their wards.

Therefore, the player's pocket money should be restricted, or cut into half, such that whenever he asks for more, he'll be required to return home. Afterwards, the kid with addiction can directly be asked questions, regarding what mostly consumes his/her funds. Then, followed up with a professional therapist.

Of all the situations, if underage children are addicted to gambling and they no longer live with their extended family, then it is quite difficult to detect their gambling activities. Therefore, the challenge for parents to supervise them is also very difficult, simply put, parental control is very limited. One solution to this in my opinion is to communicate openly, as you said inviting them home and talking to them like adults. We know that social control is no longer running in many environments, adults who see underage children making mistakes no longer have the initiative to reprimand or remind them. So each parent is fully responsible for guiding their children so that they do not act beyond the limit. Meanwhile, Parents must teach children about financial management, how and where money is better invested. I think in all neighborhoods and families, have their own traditions in educating children.

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A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

This problem cannot be simply left and nothing can be done.

The first thing she should do is hide the money not at home, but in a place where it is impossible to get to it, otherwise, if she leaves it at home, in a fit of losing, he will do everything to get to it, there is no doubt about it, so why tempt him with this money.

The second is to start communicating with those of your friends and relatives who have a similar problem. Even if you can’t find such people, like-minded people will help on the forum and other sites. You should not underestimate this situation, because if bad things start to happen, you should always be prepared for them and take quick action so that things don’t get worse.

[Accardo]

It's hard to say if a child is involved in gambling, unless taken unawares. In as much as the underaged player no longer stays with his guardians, they'll be no way to go around the situation, other than inviting him home and recommend a rehab program or therapy session. Thus, Parents have to deal with this carefully, to retain the sanity of their wards.

Therefore, the player's pocket money should be restricted, or cut into half, such that whenever he asks for more, he'll be required to return home. Afterwards, the kid with addiction can directly be asked questions, regarding what mostly consumes his/her funds. Then, followed up with a professional therapist.

We know that social control is no longer running in many environments, adults who see underage children making mistakes no longer have the initiative to reprimand or remind them.

Interesting you came up with this, usually, it was helpful, but recently elderly people (in my locality) began to misuse the power of social control by complaining over little things which wasn't a huge problem. They failed to realized that young people move on quickly, sooner, nobody listened to such cautions from strangers who are not their parent. I miss those days, but, personally, I didn't like it either when they began complaining about dress codes and all that, it wasn't relevant.

That was the reason it's dying down in recent times. For instance, I asked a friend about his take on such complaints from elderly people, he blatantly told me he avoids people who complains a lot about his appearance and all that. Assuming they focused on addressing addiction and cautioning people who are actually going astray, there would have been some quality respect left in social control.

[AmoreJaz]

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With communication we can open up any problems and can find the best solution to solve the problem. In my opinion, there should be no boundaries between parents and children, because if there are boundaries, it will create a relationship that ultimately makes communication not run smoothly.

As effective as communication is in bonding and building great relationship in a family, it's sadly not always applied. It's hard for most modern parents like us dealing with Gen-Z kids because of the preponderance of what is consumed on the internet. Those days, kids used to go out to gamble and that could mean parents having movement control over their children. That's not the case now as kids can lock themselves up in rooms or wherever and access any gambling sites they want.

As for someone who's financially dependant on others indulging in gambling, it's a bad idea for me. I judge it irresponsibility when I see someone gamble on funds that aren't theirs.

That's the dilemma of parents nowadays, as most young gen are into all kinds of gadgets, you can't totally know what they are doing. Unless, you will restrict the sites that they can visit, so you need to do a very good security and privacy settings on their phones or gadgets.

But still, as a parent, you need to instill the good values starting at the very early age. So while they are growing up, they have this good upbringing that they can always rely on in especially in their challenging times, when they are being influenced by their peers and other people. If they are secure with themselves, they will do the right thing no matter what.

[Franctoshi]

In this kind of situation, the parents should call their kid and educate him on the risk involved in gambling, not by leaving him without guiding him else the child go extent sourcing for funds which could also lead him to try to steal from their, then secondly every access that the kid may have towards the parents funds should be denied, in the sense that they should avoid keeping cash big cash or no cash at home where the kid would have access to.