Gambling by financial dependents.

[maydna]

Not only 18+ also under 18 is now addicted on gambling. Gambling is more prevalent among the youth. bnd all the gamblers are now sitting at home and gambling on their phone or computer so it is difficult to understand who is addicted to gambling and who is not. but family members can make some guesses by seeing his financial status change and by seeing some of his unusual behavior. and everyone has a motive for gambling that they will be financially strong in less time

Yes my younger brother I think is totally addicted to gambling. After few days I see a lot of changes in him sometimes he behaves strangely at home.  For money he misbehaves with all the people. Sometimes he takes the money without telling. I know from his classmates that he is addicted to gambling. Now I don't know how to get him back from gambling.

All family members behavior can be detected from what they do daily, which is starting to be different from usual. And it will be the job of the other family members to start approaching him and asking what's wrong with him. It's just to make sure that he's okay, and usually, if there is a really serious problem, he will tend to do something unusual that can confuse all the family members.

This is the importance of us being able to take care of each other so that we can immediately assist a family member experiencing problems. We don't know how they socialize outside because if they are young people, they don't want to be exposed to too much social exposure by their family members. And today's younger generation, accustomed to technological sophistication, can use it for their needs and even gamble easily using their cell phones outside the home.

[coinerer]

Not only 18+ also under 18 is now addicted on gambling. Gambling is more prevalent among the youth. bnd all the gamblers are now sitting at home and gambling on their phone or computer so it is difficult to understand who is addicted to gambling and who is not. but family members can make some guesses by seeing his financial status change and by seeing some of his unusual behavior. and everyone has a motive for gambling that they will be financially strong in less time

Yes my younger brother I think is totally addicted to gambling. After few days I see a lot of changes in him sometimes he behaves strangely at home.  For money he misbehaves with all the people. Sometimes he takes the money without telling. I know from his classmates that he is addicted to gambling. Now I don't know how to get him back from gambling.

It is very difficult to get a gambling addict out of gambling if he does not try and has no self-control. But keep him under watch all the time and make him aware of its downsides as a family.  And have one of his best friends try to convince him how important it is for him to get out of gambling. It may be possible to get him out of gambling that way but there is no guarantee that it will really work and how long it will take him to get out of gambling will depend on how deeply addicted he is.

[shogun47]

Not only 18+ also under 18 is now addicted on gambling. Gambling is more prevalent among the youth. bnd all the gamblers are now sitting at home and gambling on their phone or computer so it is difficult to understand who is addicted to gambling and who is not. but family members can make some guesses by seeing his financial status change and by seeing some of his unusual behavior. and everyone has a motive for gambling that they will be financially strong in less time

Yes my younger brother I think is totally addicted to gambling. After few days I see a lot of changes in him sometimes he behaves strangely at home.  For money he misbehaves with all the people. Sometimes he takes the money without telling. I know from his classmates that he is addicted to gambling. Now I don't know how to get him back from gambling.

All family members behavior can be detected from what they do daily, which is starting to be different from usual. And it will be the job of the other family members to start approaching him and asking what's wrong with him. It's just to make sure that he's okay, and usually, if there is a really serious problem, he will tend to do something unusual that can confuse all the family members.

This is the importance of us being able to take care of each other so that we can immediately assist a family member experiencing problems. We don't know how they socialize outside because if they are young people, they don't want to be exposed to too much social exposure by their family members. And today's younger generation, accustomed to technological sophistication, can use it for their needs and even gamble easily using their cell phones outside the home.

This would as a prerequisite mean that the family still lives under one roof or how should it be possible for family members to have an eye all the time on the activities of someone who could be gambling too much? And even then it is unrealistic because if that happens and the family puts pressure on someone who gambles so much, how would they check activities when someone goes outside and plays on their mobile. This idea to observe someone's activities around the clock doesn't make a lot of sense. It would make more sense to offer someone alternative activities that the person enjoys, that the person chooses something more meaningful to do than gambling. Observation isn't a sustainable solution at all.

[EarnOnVictor]

Not only 18+ also under 18 is now addicted on gambling. Gambling is more prevalent among the youth. bnd all the gamblers are now sitting at home and gambling on their phone or computer so it is difficult to understand who is addicted to gambling and who is not. but family members can make some guesses by seeing his financial status change and by seeing some of his unusual behavior. and everyone has a motive for gambling that they will be financially strong in less time

Yes my younger brother I think is totally addicted to gambling. After few days I see a lot of changes in him sometimes he behaves strangely at home.  For money he misbehaves with all the people. Sometimes he takes the money without telling. I know from his classmates that he is addicted to gambling. Now I don't know how to get him back from gambling.

It is very difficult to get a gambling addict out of gambling if he does not try and has no self-control. But keep him under watch all the time and make him aware of its downsides as a family.  And have one of his best friends try to convince him how important it is for him to get out of gambling. It may be possible to get him out of gambling that way but there is no guarantee that it will really work and how long it will take him to get out of gambling will depend on how deeply addicted he is.

The best antidote to gambling addiction is to first find a good purpose for that person, with that, it will be easier to be convinced, if not, it could still work if such could help by fighting it within, but in most cases, it's a harder task. Most people become gambling addicts due to desperation, they want the money by all means, and before they know it, they find themselves gambling so much and uncontrollably. I knew this in practice as I'd suffered from the addiction in the past, only that I did not cross the red line. This is despite that I'm a very cautious and careful person, yet, it crept in. This was because I was desperate to earn at that time, however changing my mindset and fighting within helped me overcome.

This is why I say two things help better and faster, and they are 1. Finding a good earning purpose for the person.
2. Such must be willing to fight within amidst help if necessary.

[Westinhome]

All family members behavior can be detected from what they do daily, which is starting to be different from usual. And it will be the job of the other family members to start approaching him and asking what's wrong with him. It's just to make sure that he's okay, and usually, if there is a really serious problem, he will tend to do something unusual that can confuse all the family members.

This is the importance of us being able to take care of each other so that we can immediately assist a family member experiencing problems. We don't know how they socialize outside because if they are young people, they don't want to be exposed to too much social exposure by their family members. And today's younger generation, accustomed to technological sophistication, can use it for their needs and even gamble easily using their cell phones outside the home.

If the family members was found involved in gambling,the first person to oppose will be your wife or your mother.The gamblers attitude will be changed when he involved in the gambling,first he reduce the amount of money he giving to the family.By this the family members will think where he spending the money.At first they will check the gamblers spending money on any bad habits like drinking alcohol and smoking.If they find so,he will be escape from the family members.Because the family members will not check further,incase the gamblers don’t have any habits.Then he will easy find by the family members about his gambling activities.

[Cuenta Alternativa]

It is very difficult to get a gambling addict out of gambling if he does not try and has no self-control.

It is difficult sometimes even if he wants to and he tries, so if he doesn't want to and it is a relative who tries to force him he has a bad prognosis.

In the case of someone who is just 18 years old, the legal age to gamble as mentioned in the thread, I think the best thing to do is to try to normalise it by informing them of the potential risks. If it's your child, it's better to go to the casino with them one day, and spend some time gambling in a controlled way but also explain to them how many people you've met who have had serious problems with gambling.

I think this is better because at the end of the day, being of age, he is going to do what he wants and if you try to convince him not to do it out of fear, what will happen is that he will do it on the sly.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

All family members behavior can be detected from what they do daily, which is starting to be different from usual. And it will be the job of the other family members to start approaching him and asking what's wrong with him. It's just to make sure that he's okay, and usually, if there is a really serious problem, he will tend to do something unusual that can confuse all the family members.

This is the importance of us being able to take care of each other so that we can immediately assist a family member experiencing problems. We don't know how they socialize outside because if they are young people, they don't want to be exposed to too much social exposure by their family members. And today's younger generation, accustomed to technological sophistication, can use it for their needs and even gamble easily using their cell phones outside the home.

If the family members was found involved in gambling,the first person to oppose will be your wife or your mother.The gamblers attitude will be changed when he involved in the gambling,first he reduce the amount of money he giving to the family.By this the family members will think where he spending the money.At first they will check the gamblers spending money on any bad habits like drinking alcohol and smoking.If they find so,he will be escape from the family members.Because the family members will not check further,incase the gamblers don’t have any habits.Then he will easy find by the family members about his gambling activities.

Though I don't completely understand perfectly what you meant, but let me say that, as a gambler, your family finding out you are a gambler or not solely depends on you and your attitude towards them, using myself as an example, I've been gambling way before I got married, though it's not been regular, I became more of a regular gambler since the begining of 2022, but then, in all of this year's, my wife and kids have never for once suspected me to be a gambler, and that is because I never gave them a reason to ever suspect me, so my gambling life have been really peaceful.

As a man, there are some thing you don't let your family know about, cus they know, you will either have to stop doing it, or be ready for fights every day, most especially, when the woman ask for anything and you refuse to give to her.

[maydna]

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This would as a prerequisite mean that the family still lives under one roof or how should it be possible for family members to have an eye all the time on the activities of someone who could be gambling too much? And even then it is unrealistic because if that happens and the family puts pressure on someone who gambles so much, how would they check activities when someone goes outside and plays on their mobile. This idea to observe someone's activities around the clock doesn't make a lot of sense. It would make more sense to offer someone alternative activities that the person enjoys, that the person chooses something more meaningful to do than gambling. Observation isn't a sustainable solution at all.

That's not what it means. Family members can keep an eye on each other's family members by paying attention to their day-to-day behavior so that if something is different, they will know and can approach it more closely to discuss it. If a family they are used to being open to each other, they can tell what is going on, and other family members will know that pressure is on them so that other family members can immediately provide assistance.

We can't offer anything more meaningful if we don't know what happened to family members. For this reason, we can chat with each other or pay attention to their behavior to know if something is wrong with them. If a person wasn't used to being in his room for long periods, a mother or sister would be suspicious and might ask him what was wrong. So watching his behavior like that will vary from one family to another.

~snip~

If the family members was found involved in gambling,the first person to oppose will be your wife or your mother.The gamblers attitude will be changed when he involved in the gambling,first he reduce the amount of money he giving to the family.By this the family members will think where he spending the money.At first they will check the gamblers spending money on any bad habits like drinking alcohol and smoking.If they find so,he will be escape from the family members.Because the family members will not check further,incase the gamblers don’t have any habits.Then he will easy find by the family members about his gambling activities.

Our wife, mother or sister will be against what we do in gambling. And if they find out we are already involved in gambling, they will probably use all kinds of ways to get us out of gambling and maybe quit gambling for good. They will do everything to ensure we won't gamble again, and the ways they do won't be the same as what other people do, and often we will see ways that are out of the ordinary.

They will be too easy to be suspicious of our new habits and will make sure that everything is still okay. Perhaps we will be interrogated for a long time by them to make sure that we are still the same person who has not done anything wrong.

[shogun47]

~snip~

This would as a prerequisite mean that the family still lives under one roof or how should it be possible for family members to have an eye all the time on the activities of someone who could be gambling too much? And even then it is unrealistic because if that happens and the family puts pressure on someone who gambles so much, how would they check activities when someone goes outside and plays on their mobile. This idea to observe someone's activities around the clock doesn't make a lot of sense. It would make more sense to offer someone alternative activities that the person enjoys, that the person chooses something more meaningful to do than gambling. Observation isn't a sustainable solution at all.

That's not what it means. Family members can keep an eye on each other's family members by paying attention to their day-to-day behavior so that if something is different, they will know and can approach it more closely to discuss it. If a family they are used to being open to each other, they can tell what is going on, and other family members will know that pressure is on them so that other family members can immediately provide assistance.

We can't offer anything more meaningful if we don't know what happened to family members. For this reason, we can chat with each other or pay attention to their behavior to know if something is wrong with them. If a person wasn't used to being in his room for long periods, a mother or sister would be suspicious and might ask him what was wrong. So watching his behavior like that will vary from one family to another.

Ok but even then if a gambler is very good at hiding it, it's difficult for a family to find out about it. Drugs and alcohol is so much easier because when you are wasted, you are wasted. No questions need be asked whether you have a problem when you are wasted five times a week.

But gambling is a different issue. Unless someone crosses the line and starts stealing money or borrowing money in excess of what has ever been usual in the past, it is still complicated to find out about it unless the person himself approaches their family and tells the truth. To get back on topic here, financial dependence can also mean several thing. Even if someone earns tons of money but has a costly lifestyle based on long-term obligations, financial dependence is still a thing. If there are existential dependencies and money is at risk that would have to be used otherwise, the problem can quickly overwhelm even someone who seems to be financially independent to outsiders.

[Wiwo]

Though I don't completely understand perfectly what you meant, but let me say that, as a gambler, your family finding out you are a gambler or not solely depends on you and your attitude towards them, using myself as an example, I've been gambling way before I got married, though it's not been regular, I became more of a regular gambler since the begining of 2022, but then, in all of this year's, my wife and kids have never for once suspected me to be a gambler, and that is because I never gave them a reason to ever suspect me, so my gambling life have been really peaceful.

As a man, there are some thing you don't let your family know about, cus they know, you will either have to stop doing it, or be ready for fights every day, most especially, when the woman ask for anything and you refuse to give to her.

So the bottom line is that,  being able to meet your family's needs is the primary foundation that guarantees a peaceful and interfered life, You are no far from the truth because the only way your gambling life could become a problem is when you are using the money that is meant to run your family to gamble away,  this will result into a grave problem in the family,  but as long as you do everything under moderation and never get caught up in the cycle of those who can't control their gambling life you won't have any issue.

But on a general note,  I think it is too much risk to take by choosing gambling as a means of earning income because gambling should only be meant for fun and nothing more than that.

[Onyeeze]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.
 for this young boy?

What I want you to understand in gambling is that children don't have to engage in gambling and children engaging in gambling it will leads to many negative information concerning gambling, what I want you to understand concerning gambling is that gambling will make you to steal when you are participating in gambling without having your own money and when you lacks money to play gambling it will lead the child to steal and again in advanced countries they have a specific year someone will grow before participating in gambling,  like eighteen year should be the average someone can reach before participating in gambling, but that is really necessary what is necessary is having job and earning your own money, when you have your source you can gamble without stealing

[libert19]

Gambling is not a good thing, although it has it's perks here in this forum. From the looks of it, he looks like a responsible boy but he must take care that it doesn't become a habit, if bad habits take a root they are hard to get rid of, better just don't have them in first place.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that.

Some people are great liers, I wouldn't put much trust on response unless I know the person very well.

[maydna]

~snip~

Ok but even then if a gambler is very good at hiding it, it's difficult for a family to find out about it. Drugs and alcohol is so much easier because when you are wasted, you are wasted. No questions need be asked whether you have a problem when you are wasted five times a week.

But gambling is a different issue. Unless someone crosses the line and starts stealing money or borrowing money in excess of what has ever been usual in the past, it is still complicated to find out about it unless the person himself approaches their family and tells the truth. To get back on topic here, financial dependence can also mean several thing. Even if someone earns tons of money but has a costly lifestyle based on long-term obligations, financial dependence is still a thing. If there are existential dependencies and money is at risk that would have to be used otherwise, the problem can quickly overwhelm even someone who seems to be financially independent to outsiders.

Not necessarily because the relationship between the members is close, they will know if there is something different with the other family members and will ask them directly. And it doesn't take long for those family members to know there's a problem or that all is well.

If someone has a lot of money but has an expensive lifestyle, it will depend on how much money they have but the money will surely run out if it is not managed properly. Especially if they use their money to gamble and don't limit it properly.

And back to the topic. It seems that it is necessary to discuss this gambling problem with his nephew so that he understands that having a gambling habit is not good and will even have a bad effect on that person. Hopefully, his nephew can understand the conversation and won't come close to gambling again, even though he's an adult. But it also depends on how he wants to avoid gambling.

[LUCKMCFLY]

~snip~

Ok but even then if a gambler is very good at hiding it, it's difficult for a family to find out about it. Drugs and alcohol is so much easier because when you are wasted, you are wasted. No questions need be asked whether you have a problem when you are wasted five times a week.

But gambling is a different issue. Unless someone crosses the line and starts stealing money or borrowing money in excess of what has ever been usual in the past, it is still complicated to find out about it unless the person himself approaches their family and tells the truth. To get back on topic here, financial dependence can also mean several thing. Even if someone earns tons of money but has a costly lifestyle based on long-term obligations, financial dependence is still a thing. If there are existential dependencies and money is at risk that would have to be used otherwise, the problem can quickly overwhelm even someone who seems to be financially independent to outsiders.

Not necessarily because the relationship between the members is close, they will know if there is something different with the other family members and will ask them directly. And it doesn't take long for those family members to know there's a problem or that all is well.

If someone has a lot of money but has an expensive lifestyle, it will depend on how much money they have but the money will surely run out if it is not managed properly. Especially if they use their money to gamble and don't limit it properly.

And back to the topic. It seems that it is necessary to discuss this gambling problem with his nephew so that he understands that having a gambling habit is not good and will even have a bad effect on that person. Hopefully, his nephew can understand the conversation and won't come close to gambling again, even though he's an adult. But it also depends on how he wants to avoid gambling.

Sometimes leaving things like these in the hands of the family is not good, there are always some who can find out or imagine it but they don't say anything so as not to get into trouble, sometimes some people are delicate with their lives, and it's normal and one like A person cannot be interfering in the lives of others, it is not good because that brings problems and a series of things that are not good, so this type of thing when it comes to games is delicate, casinos and games Like sports betting, some people have it as a taboo or as something that those who believe that they do it are addicted or that they no longer have a way out that they do it because they have to and they have it as a vice, so this type of thing sometimes has to be done. eu avoid it even in the same families that is where they can do things the most to get themselves into trouble, there are some people or players who have the casino as something additional in their lives to have fun and not as something bad that will harm their lives, because The more control they have over the things they do, they move away from being an addict.

When talking about habit, things can be very counterproductive, because a person who doesn't like the game and another talks about the game, it will cause that person to cause some contempt, rejection, or something like that, I say this because There are many people who are of that style and it is not the idea, the habit of playing and if they already have it as a habit, it is not always bad and one knows how to play, knowing how to play, I mean how to bet, how to control oneself and knowing that any movement can lead to a total problem because without money it is something that cannot be carried out with anything, then creating the habit is only less, because we are people who by repetition at least 21 times we already seized it as a habit and as a learning that is not forgotten, that is what we as humans, as people do so that it can stay in our minds and apply it all the time.

[Wakate]

Gambling is not a good thing, although it has it's perks here in this forum. From the looks of it, he looks like a responsible boy but he must take care that it doesn't become a habit, if bad habits take a root they are hard to get rid of, better just don't have them in first place.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that.

Some people are great liers, I wouldn't put much trust on response unless I know the person very well.

Gambling is not bad at all but it does not make sense when a teenager start to gamble when he has not gotten to the stage of age that require them to gambler. We should never look at it with a mere decision. Anything can happen and the teenager might become influenced by friends and the worse might happen. I can't even advise people to go into gambling unless they have a good decision why they want to gambler because when it become excess, it won't be easily controlled at all which can always lead to gambling addiction.

[libert19]

Gambling is not a good thing, although it has it's perks here in this forum. From the looks of it, he looks like a responsible boy but he must take care that it doesn't become a habit, if bad habits take a root they are hard to get rid of, better just don't have them in first place.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that.

Some people are great liers, I wouldn't put much trust on response unless I know the person very well.

Gambling is not bad at all but it does not make sense when a teenager start to gamble when he has not gotten to the stage of age that require them to gambler.

Op stated he's 18 year old, on most sites required age to gamble is 18.

[Josefjix]

Gambling is not bad at all but it does not make sense when a teenager start to gamble when he has not gotten to the stage of age that require them to gambler. We should never look at it with a mere decision. Anything can happen and the teenager might become influenced by friends and the worse might happen. I can't even advise people to go into gambling unless they have a good decision why they want to gambler because when it become excess, it won't be easily controlled at all which can always lead to gambling addiction.

We make decisions every single day, we either turned out to be victims of these decision or become gainers. Gambling is not intended for people who do not have an employment position or an uninterrupted source of finances; yet, because gambling is impulsive and dangerous, it can be used to supplement one's income. Gambling is life-threatening for teenagers who get involved in, and having spent budgeted money to place bets is completely unacceptable. A terrible firm will also have a detrimental impact on the psyche, raising the level of vulnerability to gambling.

[lienfaye]

What will be your advice for this young boy?

Although he is just playing to enjoy the game, has discipline and already 18 years old (able to gamble legally), it can't deny the fact that he is still a student who's depending on his parent. He's not earning his own money yet, and that is one of the basic rule before starting to gamble. If you don't earn your own money yet then refrain from playing.

Thus I understand his mother if she is worried and suspecting her son stealing their money because she is already aware of her son's gambling habit. He can say he is not stealing and he's a responsible gambler but, who knows right? We really can't tell. So much better for this young man to quit playing and focus first on his studies. In time, if he is already capable to stand on his own, earning money from his hardwork then he can decide what he wants to do in his life.

[maydna]

~snip~

Sometimes leaving things like these in the hands of the family is not good, there are always some who can find out or imagine it but they don't say anything so as not to get into trouble, sometimes some people are delicate with their lives, and it's normal and one like A person cannot be interfering in the lives of others, it is not good because that brings problems and a series of things that are not good, so this type of thing when it comes to games is delicate, casinos and games Like sports betting, some people have it as a taboo or as something that those who believe that they do it are addicted or that they no longer have a way out that they do it because they have to and they have it as a vice, so this type of thing sometimes has to be done. eu avoid it even in the same families that is where they can do things the most to get themselves into trouble, there are some people or players who have the casino as something additional in their lives to have fun and not as something bad that will harm their lives, because The more control they have over the things they do, they move away from being an addict.

When talking about habit, things can be very counterproductive, because a person who doesn't like the game and another talks about the game, it will cause that person to cause some contempt, rejection, or something like that, I say this because There are many people who are of that style and it is not the idea, the habit of playing and if they already have it as a habit, it is not always bad and one knows how to play, knowing how to play, I mean how to bet, how to control oneself and knowing that any movement can lead to a total problem because without money it is something that cannot be carried out with anything, then creating the habit is only less, because we are people who by repetition at least 21 times we already seized it as a habit and as a learning that is not forgotten, that is what we as humans, as people do so that it can stay in our minds and apply it all the time.

It depends on the condition of our family because by talking to our family as the people closest to us, maybe they understand us better than people outside our family circle, so they can know what to do immediately. This is more about trusting the people closest to us who live and live with us every day so that they can find a solution for us so that we can deal with it immediately. But if fellow family members don't care about each other, it will be useless if we talk to them because they will just say, you should go to a psychiatrist and let him help you solve your problem. It's not a good solution because the person can get desperate and can't realize that he needs the presence of the people closest to him to help him.

It will depend on one's habits because it also looks at what one does on a daily basis. But those habits can change, especially if they want to change their bad habits into good habits that can also change their bad lifestyle to be healthier, more orderly, and can make them more comfortable than before. Everything can be learned because the most important thing is how someone wants to learn something new, and has the will and intention to change it for the better. Perhaps learning what we need takes time, but if it's worth it, we should give it a try because, who knows, it might do us good.

[Blitzboy]

What will be your advice for this young boy?

Although he is just playing to enjoy the game, has discipline and already 18 years old (able to gamble legally), it can't deny the fact that he is still a student who's depending on his parent. He's not earning his own money yet, and that is one of the basic rule before starting to gamble. If you don't earn your own money yet then refrain from playing.

Thus I understand his mother if she is worried and suspecting her son stealing their money because she is already aware of her son's gambling habit. He can say he is not stealing and he's a responsible gambler but, who knows right? We really can't tell. So much better for this young man to quit playing and focus first on his studies. In time, if he is already capable to stand on his own, earning money from his hardwork then he can decide what he wants to do in his life.

Imagine him on a basketball court instead of a poker table. While playing hoop, someone says, "Hey! You shouldnt play basketball since you're not in the NBA!" Right, ridiculous?

But you're right about financial independence. I know he's living off his parents' money, but financial discipline is important. Lets not assume stealing. Like accusing every basketball player of doping because they're talented.

Studies are vital, no doubt. But everyone needs a break to decompress. Why not let him play if he's skilled and disciplined? When financially independent, he'll decide. Lets not judge and assume him until then, okay?