should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[panjul07]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Based on the question, I assume that your wife is not even knowing that you are doing gambling, am I right?
Because if your wife know that you are gambling, she will always ask about your gambling activity unless she does not care about it.
If your wife know that you are gambling, better to tell her any result you get so she can help you to control your gambling habit.
However I believe that you know the personality of your own wife so you can predict what will happen if you tell her about winning or losing.

[Leahized]

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

Yes you are right, if gambling we should not share with family and wife. This can lead to bad situations. Because many times it is seen that the wife does not agree with us, that's why the opposite can happen. Although money is very important in married life and gambling can win big if ever. We often share gambling with family when we are happy. But if they agree with us, then there will be no problem. But if the family moves out, there may be loss of respect. Many such incidents happened to my neighbor. i seeThere is no problem when they secretly gamble and lose.

[Cryptmuster]

Based on the question, I assume that your wife is not even knowing that you are doing gambling, am I right?
Because if your wife know that you are gambling, she will always ask about your gambling activity unless she does not care about it.
If your wife know that you are gambling, better to tell her any result you get so she can help you to control your gambling habit.
However I believe that you know the personality of your own wife so you can predict what will happen if you tell her about winning or losing.

Why did you decide that your wife would be interested in what is going on with your betting? If it does not affect your budget in any way and you rarely talk about it, she may not even know when you place bets or whether you place them at all. If your wife knows that you treat this as entertainment, it will not spark any interest from her. Talking about every single bet is unnecessary. You can place several bets a day, there will be wins and losses…

[pawanjain]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Better would be not to tell her about it in any case, neither win nor the loss.
But at the same time you will have to make sure you are gambling within your limits.
Gambling responsibly is the only thing any wife would want if she's fine with occasional gambling.
I do the same in my case and never convey her about any of my wins or losses.

[LogitechMouse]

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So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Learn to SHUT YOUR MOUTH!!! I'm not angry with that one, but I want to emphasize it because... there's something wrong with how your wife reacts when it comes to money.

Like seriously? I mean if you win, she's happy, but if you lose, she's angry? I don't want to say anything about your wife, but you know what I mean when I said it. Just keep quiet whether you win or you lose. Keep those winnings to yourself, but make sure that the money you're spending on gambling will not affect you financially or it's just your spare money. I mean keep it a secret whether you win or lose. Luckily, I don't have a wife like that or that would be disastrous to our marriage. I gamble, and she gambles as well, but it doesn't affect us financially since we're only spending a small amount and we're willing to lose that money.

[Versatile_choice]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Based on the question, I assume that your wife is not even knowing that you are doing gambling, am I right?
Because if your wife know that you are gambling, she will always ask about your gambling activity unless she does not care about it.
If your wife know that you are gambling, better to tell her any result you get so she can help you to control your gambling habit.
However I believe that you know the personality of your own wife so you can predict what will happen if you tell her about winning or losing.

His wife is already aware that he's a gambler which he have been sharing his wining experience with her and according to op that whenever he shared his wining experience with her that she normally becomes really sweet to him, but she's not always happy when he shares his losing experience with her. So I think the only way to avoid such from happening is by sharing your wining experience with her maybe you can keep the losses to yourself or better still you can keep the both to yourself, but it is good to share your gambling habit with your partner just like @ panjul07 said she could be of help when things is going wrong.

[Dunamisx]

We can't know your partner than yourself, we may only bring to you some suggestions that may help your decision making process, but the choice is left on you to decide what you want and how you wanted your home to be, the choice is yours, if you think allowing her to know is the best for you, then you can go ahead, but if you think it's getting more worse and the conditions keep getting complicated, you may prevent her from knowing.

[Pandu Geddon]

Better would be not to tell her about it in any case, neither win nor the loss.
But at the same time you will have to make sure you are gambling within your limits.
Gambling responsibly is the only thing any wife would want if she's fine with occasional gambling.
I do the same in my case and never convey her about any of my wins or losses.

If your wife doesn’t mind the gambling you do, there’s actually no problem with sharing any experience. Your wife can also act as an alarm for you when you start to cross the line. Let your wife manage your finances, and of course, the funds you can use for gambling. Hiding your gambling activities from your wife won’t be good, especially if something bad happens when your finances start to get chaotic, and you’ll regret not sharing your experiences and involving your wife in controlling your gambling. Some gamblers can do everything on their own, but there are people who need someone else for certain control.

[Antotena]

We can't know your partner than yourself, we may only bring to you some suggestions that may help your decision making process, but the choice is left on you to decide what you want and how you wanted your home to be, the choice is yours, if you think allowing her to know is the best for you, then you can go ahead, but if you think it's getting more worse and the conditions keep getting complicated, you may prevent her from knowing.

I think some people are not emotionally ready and have the capacity to handle their wife. Women will act the way you showed them your character. It's possible that OP has made it a culture that anytime he make money from gambling, he became a lover man and does all different things for the wife and then lockup when there is nothing. So she has emotionally become an entitled to that lifestyle which is not helping him at the moment, thr foundation is broken.

There should be love everytime when there is money and when there is no money. Gambling is never something to be even celebrated with anyone. If you make good wins from gambling, make it a habit and not tell anyone. If you want to show it, get good things for her but it should never be an obligation that you must explain to anyone that this is where the money is coming from, don't tell them you make or lose from gambling, as you are doing this make sure you gamble safe.

[Sonia_123]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

You understand your wife more better, if she supports your gambling activities, then  no problem, if she does not, just continue with your way of life in as much as you are meeting up all your responsibilities and your gamble responsibly for her not to suspect any of your activities, but latter try your best to find a way you will tell her, make her realize all your wins from gambling and how it has being of help to the family by pointing out the visible areas which you have spent the money wisely in that way, she will just have to accept it, so that it will not lead to a bigger problem when she eventually finds out.

[ZeroVinsonN]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

No to me I will rather hold my peace than telling my wife about my winnings or not it's very bad communicating with your woman about your gambling habit,when. You win or lose , don't let her know your side hustle, because if she knows your secret now ,when you didn't win she will be using it against you, calling you gambler ,so hold it and never let her knows

With respect it's not even about your wife using it against you, the idea is that your wife should be aware of your investment plans but that's just what is it's about, investment plans, gambling isn't an investment plan so personally there is no practical reason to tell your wife about it, even for safety reasons, if she knows then she might be opposed to it as she might see it as a waste of money so best to respect her enough to not tell her about your habits.

[YOSHIE]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

In a situation like this, you know better the character and nature of your wife, that's for sure, so you definitely know how your wife will behave when you tell her about gambling, I mean whether the response is positive or negative there, you can judge it before you talk about your gambling winnings.

You first tell your wife about other people gambling, as I said above, after that you draw conclusions.
Rather than immediately telling your wife about the therapy, she doesn't accept it, in the end you have to sleep on the terrace of the house, that's not beautiful.
But if he responds positively, what's wrong with it, he accepts and you can still sleep in the same bed as your wife, you don't have to sleep on the terrace, something like that.

[Yablee0]

It’s normal for a wife, especially if she’s not a gambler. If you want to keep her happy while you gamble, just don’t tell her about the losses. Keep it to yourself, cry it out if you have to, but no need to bring that stress to her. But if you hit a big win, that’s the part she deserves to know, she’ll love hearing that, especially if you buy her something she likes as a gift.

That’s just part of having a healthy marriage, some things are better kept quiet if you know they won’t make her happy.

That's true boss, what woman want is when things are all good and nice perhaps they likely get upset when things aren't working out. For me I think is just better I keep my entire gambling stuff to my self without letting her know anything about it, maybe  sometime when I win big I can do show her some love to keep the fire of love burning in the family but letting her know the way about of the funds is something I wouldn't do because that will just be her area of concentration of bringing out issues anytime I lost.

[HelliumZ]

We can't know your partner than yourself, we may only bring to you some suggestions that may help your decision making process, but the choice is left on you to decide what you want and how you wanted your home to be, the choice is yours, if you think allowing her to know is the best for you, then you can go ahead, but if you think it's getting more worse and the conditions keep getting complicated, you may prevent her from knowing.

It's true that no one knows my wife better than the one who has her. No one knows what my wife is like except me, and I alone decide how I will react to my wife. But in this case, there is nothing else to do except for me and me again. In this case, in the incident that the OP shared, if the wife wins in gambling, she is happy and if she loses in gambling, the wife quarrels with her husband. In this case, there must be a good understanding between the husband and wife, in which case both defeat and victory depend entirely on uncertain fate, so the wife must learn to accept fate and the two of them must work together to create a good understanding and create a family bonding happily.

[Ishicryptic]

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

Yes you are right, if gambling we should not share with family and wife. This can lead to bad situations. Because many times it is seen that the wife does not agree with us, that's why the opposite can happen. Although money is very important in married life and gambling can win big if ever. We often share gambling with family when we are happy. But if they agree with us, then there will be no problem. But if the family moves out, there may be loss of respect. Many such incidents happened to my neighbor. i seeThere is no problem when they secretly gamble and lose.

I know that wives likes good news, they will be very happy when you do something and earn good money but if that same thing takes from you by not earning from it they won't be happy. Many men will rather gamble in secret or if their wives knows about their gambling she won't know exactly how much they are staking, they hide these things to mentain peace in the home. But again it depends on the type of wife that you married as a man, if she's the understanding type you can discuss with her about your gambling. My wife knows that I gamble sometimes and that I use small amounts for it and she doesn't bother about it, I can buy her something from my win and tell her that it's proceed from my win and we would laugh about it.

[Julien_Olynpic]

Some people only begin to understand a simple, yet not always obvious, truth with experience: don't tell anyone about your gambling, not even your wife. Especially not your wife. Women are emotional and often irrational. After all, you have your money, and you have every right to keep part of your life secret. There's a good Russian proverb on this topic: "The less you know, the better you sleep." Keep your gambling secret (and, of course, gamble responsibly), and you'll always have a good mood and strong relationships.

[arwin100]

Some people only begin to understand a simple, yet not always obvious, truth with experience: don't tell anyone about your gambling, not even your wife. Especially not your wife. Women are emotional and often irrational. After all, you have your money, and you have every right to keep part of your life secret. There's a good Russian proverb on this topic: "The less you know, the better you sleep." Keep your gambling secret (and, of course, gamble responsibly), and you'll always have a good mood and strong relationships.

But how can you last to make it secret? Because hiding something to your wife will create trouble to your relationship. Much better if you tell it early then explain your side that you are just having fun and spend small amount only. For sure she would understand you as long as you didn't struggle financially, because our wife will provably support us especially if they see us happy with what we are doing.

I'm not really fan of hiding something because if they accidentally know what we are doing especially if we spend lots of money  on gambling for sure this is when the trouble starts.

So try the nicest approach since telling truth early will not give us long term problems.

[Leahized]

I know that wives likes good news, they will be very happy when you do something and earn good money but if that same thing takes from you by not earning from it they won't be happy. Many men will rather gamble in secret or if their wives knows about their gambling she won't know exactly how much they are staking, they hide these things to mentain peace in the home. But again it depends on the type of wife that you married as a man, if she's the understanding type you can discuss with her about your gambling. My wife knows that I gamble sometimes and that I use small amounts for it and she doesn't bother about it, I can buy her something from my win and tell her that it's proceed from my win and we would laugh about it.

It's really lucky for you because you got a wife who kept it a secret even though you were a gambler. But not all wives are the same. So many times it can be seen that despite the big win they don't think it is worth it. Especially those who follow the rules of religion. Since gambling is against religion, such wives often create obstacles. Then if he reveals everything to his wife and sometime it will be seen conflict will arise. That's why I think it's best to keep gambling a secret from family and everyone. It is true that all wives are very happy to hear something good. But we should think about all these things.

[Smartprofit]

I think women are more security-conscious than men. Men are more prone to risk.🙋 Women bear greater responsibility not only for themselves but also for their children.

Therefore, when a woman💃 hears about a big loss, the immediate thought that comes to mind is: "Things are really bad in our family! We're on the brink of financial disaster. My husband is addicted to gambling, and our family is in danger!" It's also important to consider that women are highly emotional. They are capable of processing several parallel thought processes simultaneously (men can't; their brains function differently). As a result, women can very quickly jump to unexpected conclusions. For example, they might conclude that the family is on the brink of financial disaster (even if nothing terrible has happened yet, just a small gambling loss).

Therefore, in my opinion, it's not a good idea to tell your wife about your gambling losses. After all, in most families, it's the man who is responsible for the family's financial well-being.  At the same time, a man is also responsible for ensuring his gambling addiction doesn't damage the family budget. Otherwise, his wife will find out. Sooner or later... And her reaction could be very negative!

[Crypto Library]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Actually, my wife and my family don't like the gambling and as well that's why I always try to hide my gambling activities from the family and wife and yes even if I win on a bet, even that was the jactpot prize I would not be easy to share that with my wife.

And another big reason for not telling him is that I rarely gamble and even when I do, I always end up gambling within the funds I have the ability to lose. And when I do, most of it is sports betting. So basically, in my case, since I gamble responsibly, I think it's better not to tell anyone about my losses and wins than to tell anyone about it from a safe zone.