should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[Fuso.hp]

If you’re married and something involves money, especially winnings, it’s usually best to tell your wife. It avoids misunderstandings, builds trust, and turns the win into something you can enjoy together instead of something you have to hide.

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

Sharing these things depends on how you share your gambling issues with your family or your wife. If your wife supports your gambling and you get emotional support from sharing it with her, then you can share it, but if it seems that sharing it with her will give you a bad impression or she doesn't like it, then I would say it's better not to tell her. As always, I avoid sharing my gambling issues with my family because I know that my family will not take my gambling issue well, so if I discuss it with them, they will forbid me from doing it and then I will not be able to make a normal decision to gamble.

[junder]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

In a situation like this, you know better the character and nature of your wife, that's for sure, so you definitely know how your wife will behave when you tell her about gambling, I mean whether the response is positive or negative there, you can judge it before you talk about your gambling winnings.

You first tell your wife about other people gambling, as I said above, after that you draw conclusions.
Rather than immediately telling your wife about the therapy, she doesn't accept it, in the end you have to sleep on the terrace of the house, that's not beautiful.
But if he responds positively, what's wrong with it, he accepts and you can still sleep in the same bed as your wife, you don't have to sleep on the terrace, something like that.

I agree with what you said. We have a hunch about predicting our partner's negative or positive reaction when we tell them about our gambling.
I personally prefer to keep my losses or wins a secret, but I still don't tell them because I assume my partner won't accept my gambling habit. However, I must maintain my gambling within limits by ensuring it doesn't affect the relationship. That's what I have to do.

[bakasabo]

A person hide act of gambling from wife, others put masks to hide identity when they win jackpot. Why do people are so greedy and dont want to share wins, tell about them or are ashamed that they gamble. People are adults, but many act like children.

I think that people should tell their family that they gamble, because that might save them if they start to turn addicted. There must be someone who can look after you and tell you when to stop, until you have a huge mistake. Even if you are on winning streak or winning often, better tell someone, because they will be first to help you.

[DaNNy001]

If you have to keep quiet when you loose then you also have to keep it quiet when you win as well, because if you keep on telling her you will she will be expecting more from you even when you loose, but the best thing to do is to be quite let her think you have stopped, normally she has already told you to stop the time you told her you lost money, so you can just be quite about the whole situation, don't risk too much so your losses will not affect you physical appearance.

I believe every adult knows the meaning of the word gamble,.she knows that he cannot win always so even if he tells doesn't keep quiet about his wins and hides his losses a reasonable person wouldn't just assume that he is winning everytime. But it is good to study the type of partner you have, if you are married to someone that can't understand things as simple as that then it is better to withhold certain informations

[AmoreJaz]

A person hide act of gambling from wife, others put masks to hide identity when they win jackpot. Why do people are so greedy and dont want to share wins, tell about them or are ashamed that they gamble. People are adults, but many act like children.

I think that people should tell their family that they gamble, because that might save them if they start to turn addicted. There must be someone who can look after you and tell you when to stop, until you have a huge mistake. Even if you are on winning streak or winning often, better tell someone, because they will be first to help you.

Or better yet, have open communication with your family. Tell them the truth that not every time you bet, you will win. So they don't expect much from your gambling activities. Because they need to know what you are doing, and yes, they can assist you when you are already addicted in this game. Do remember, when you are in a terrible position, no one will assist you but your immediate family. They will always find a way how to get you out of trouble. So don't forget about your family when you are in gambling. Because if you know how to take care of your family, they will be your last resort to fix your gambling troubles.

[bettercrypto]

A person hide act of gambling from wife, others put masks to hide identity when they win jackpot. Why do people are so greedy and dont want to share wins, tell about them or are ashamed that they gamble. People are adults, but many act like children.

I think that people should tell their family that they gamble, because that might save them if they start to turn addicted. There must be someone who can look after you and tell you when to stop, until you have a huge mistake. Even if you are on winning streak or winning often, better tell someone, because they will be first to help you.

As husbands, we know our wives better than anyone else. I wouldn't want her weaknesses to be exposed just because
she discovered something I did that might upset her.

I’d rather keep this a secret not because I don't trust her, but because I want to avoid a conflict that I might not be able to handle properly and this I don't want to see to happen honestly speaking.

[jostorres]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I do tell my wife everything, to the cent. Not because it would be bad otherwise, she doesn't mind, in fact I just told her how much we have yesterday and I guarantee you if I go up right now and asked, she would not even remember. She doesn't care, not in a bad way, she just knows that I will handle whatever and it is not her duty to take care of our finances, she makes her own money too, and even I check that so that I can tell her how much she can spend or not, she doesn't understand math and finance.

As you can see, if you should tell your wife or not, depends on your wife and you, if you are like us then you should tell, if you are not like us then you could hide for any reason you want, it's your money.

[swogerino]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I do tell my wife everything, to the cent. Not because it would be bad otherwise, she doesn't mind, in fact I just told her how much we have yesterday and I guarantee you if I go up right now and asked, she would not even remember. She doesn't care, not in a bad way, she just knows that I will handle whatever and it is not her duty to take care of our finances, she makes her own money too, and even I check that so that I can tell her how much she can spend or not, she doesn't understand math and finance.

As you can see, if you should tell your wife or not, depends on your wife and you, if you are like us then you should tell, if you are not like us then you could hide for any reason you want, it's your money.

Well I like that attitude by my chief of finance in an old job, my first real big paid job always used to tell me never tell your wife everything as you cannot move like you want. For example someone may have an old mother that needs some money, not much like 100 dollars or a bit more in order to pass the month without financial trouble and usually the wives do not like that you give money to your mother, so on this context I have to agree more with my ex chief of finance than you here, still though except that I tell my wife everything, I mean she knows my credit card usage, she knows my salary but she does not know my crypto income at all.

[I_Anime]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Just keep being honest without , but try to focus more on gambling responsibly. Because if you can reduce the risk by using money you could afford to lose not the other way round , and you can sometime try talking things out with her like you are gambling for the thrill not the money , like something you usually do for fun , and make sure you are a responsible gambler,  it will make her not go complain always because she would be aware that is money you can afford to lose , though she may feel bad whenever you loss which is normal but she won’t over react again .

[Slow death]

Sharing these things depends on how you share your gambling issues with your family or your wife. If your wife supports your gambling and you get emotional support from sharing it with her, then you can share it, but if it seems that sharing it with her will give you a bad impression or she doesn't like it, then I would say it's better not to tell her. As always, I avoid sharing my gambling issues with my family because I know that my family will not take my gambling issue well, so if I discuss it with them, they will forbid me from doing it and then I will not be able to make a normal decision to gamble.

Unfortunately, most people who become addicted to gambling lose their families precisely because they hid their gambling addiction. When the family discovered the gambling and addiction, it was already too late. They would only take the addicted person for medical treatment, but by the time the addict recovered, the wife no longer wanted anything to do with him, accusing him of betrayal, of lying to her for a long time, and of destroying her life and future. That's why it's always good to have no secrets in a relationship, even if it means being forbidden from gambling forever if that's what your wife wants.

[TopT3ns]

Sharing these things depends on how you share your gambling issues with your family or your wife. If your wife supports your gambling and you get emotional support from sharing it with her, then you can share it, but if it seems that sharing it with her will give you a bad impression or she doesn't like it, then I would say it's better not to tell her. As always, I avoid sharing my gambling issues with my family because I know that my family will not take my gambling issue well, so if I discuss it with them, they will forbid me from doing it and then I will not be able to make a normal decision to gamble.

Unfortunately, most people who become addicted to gambling lose their families precisely because they hid their gambling addiction. When the family discovered the gambling and addiction, it was already too late. They would only take the addicted person for medical treatment, but by the time the addict recovered, the wife no longer wanted anything to do with him, accusing him of betrayal, of lying to her for a long time, and of destroying her life and future. That's why it's always good to have no secrets in a relationship, even if it means being forbidden from gambling forever if that's what your wife wants.

Transparency in relationships is one of the fundamental cores of averting social breakdowns that are occasioned by secretive behaviour in addressing dependency issues. The honesty early in our relationships allows us to develop a well-woven support network with our partners before it is too late and the financial or emotional harm is irreparable. By keeping to the boundaries of our partners, we will be staying on a safe and respectable track. The most precious thing in our lives is integrity of the family and we should uphold with it without any secrets that can lead to distrust.

[lombok]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Just keep being honest without , but try to focus more on gambling responsibly. Because if you can reduce the risk by using money you could afford to lose not the other way round , and you can sometime try talking things out with her like you are gambling for the thrill not the money , like something you usually do for fun , and make sure you are a responsible gambler,  it will make her not go complain always because she would be aware that is money you can afford to lose , though she may feel bad whenever you loss which is normal but she won’t over react again .

It is an actual process by separating the sources of entertainment and basic needs in order to preserve the level of the basic nature of personal relations in the wake of the imminent threat of losing money. Emotional tension with our partners can be reduced considerably in case we are able to avoid spending more than we can lose. Frank disclosure of the budget allocation will create trust that it is a mere recreational activity. Based on this transparency, we ensure that there is household peace due to the adverse effects of very indeterminate gambling results.

[Padi24]

Well I don't really know what to suggest right now since you said that your wife is only interested in the wining and not the loss, though I don't really know how you feel about her but if you're this type that don't like hiding things from your partner what you will do is to tell her only when you win as for the loss you can keep it to yourself since she don't like hearing that but she's supposed to understand that wining does not come all the time, or maybe she doesn't have a clue about how gambling works which is why she's acting that way.

[kawetsriyanto]

You must know it is the nature of a woman. She will be so happy when she knows husband is earning money. And she can suddenly be angry or unsatisfied whenever she knows husband losing the money. This is a pure nature of a woman, mate. As long as you have allocated certain amount of money for gambling and you never break the limit, I think you just continue your gambling activity and only tell her whenever you win only. You doesn't need to tell her whenever you get losses because it won't be something important for her. 

However, you need to ensure that you use safe money. And you never use the money that you allocate to fulfill the basic matters of your family, including your wife's necessities.

[Mayor of ogba]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Since you wife can't support you when you lose but blames you for gambling too much and wasting money, I think you should stop telling her about you gambling activities so that there will be peace in your family, and she won't see you as someone who is wasting money on gambling that you should have used on important things.

[aysha9853]

I think the problem is not telling or not telling, it’s that she only reacts to the wins that creates a weird dynamic where you feel rewarded for winning and punished for losing gambling already messes with your head enough, you don’t need that pressure at home too, at the same time, hiding things from your partner is never a good idea and can easily make things worse.

[danherbias07]

A person hide act of gambling from wife, others put masks to hide identity when they win jackpot. Why do people are so greedy and dont want to share wins, tell about them or are ashamed that they gamble. People are adults, but many act like children.

I think that people should tell their family that they gamble, because that might save them if they start to turn addicted. There must be someone who can look after you and tell you when to stop, until you have a huge mistake. Even if you are on winning streak or winning often, better tell someone, because they will be first to help you.

As husbands, we know our wives better than anyone else. I wouldn't want her weaknesses to be exposed just because
she discovered something I did that might upset her.

I’d rather keep this a secret not because I don't trust her, but because I want to avoid a conflict that I might not be able to handle properly and this I don't want to see to happen honestly speaking.

I like that kind of POV, but there's a chance that she will find it out from other people. So, as much as possible, we must also feed them with some honesty. That way, we might prevent chaos in the future that could lead to losing our family because of our bad habits.
Whenever I play/gamble, there will be a chance that my wife is beside and she will take a peek at what I am doing. I don't mind, I don't keep anything from her. What she will ask after she sees me gambling is "Did you win?"
It really amazes me when there are wives who understand their husbands, and I think that's because trust was built strongly.

[sotelorene]

Everyone will be happy and supportive if there partner make a big profit in whatever they are doing, for this reason I don't expect her to be mad at you when you make profit and it is also normal for her to feel or react that way whenever you make a loss and no one will be happy if their partner loss money in gambling so I will suggest you don't tell her when you make loss but do tell her whenever you make profit since it gives her joy and happiness because telling her about your loss can lead to misunderstanding some day and to prevent it, you need to stop telling her about loss.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

I believe every adult knows the meaning of the word gamble,.she knows that he cannot win always so even if he tells doesn't keep quiet about his wins and hides his losses a reasonable person wouldn't just assume that he is winning everytime. But it is good to study the type of partner you have, if you are married to someone that can't understand things as simple as that then it is better to withhold certain informations

I agree with what you said, someone that knows about gambling should already know that they can never win always but trust women, those people are very emotional and when they get emotional about things like that, even if they already know the truth, they would assume that their husband was supposed to turn a magician and cause themselve to win always. The best decision is to even hid it from them if that will mean protecting you own peace.

[Fredomago]

I think the problem is not telling or not telling, it’s that she only reacts to the wins that creates a weird dynamic where you feel rewarded for winning and punished for losing gambling already messes with your head enough, you don’t need that pressure at home too, at the same time, hiding things from your partner is never a good idea and can easily make things worse.

In that last part of your statement, better to tell things to your partner to avoid additional problem when she learned about your winnings, though still depends from how you treat your partner, as different people have their differences in views and the treatment that they've got for their partners, of you think it's not going to be easy of they'll find it out coming from someone and not from you conflict may arise so you need to weight your decision.