Gambling is Addictive...Pay Attention to your Gambling Habit!!!

[FlightyPouch]

So am urging everyone out there playing to play, but try not to make it a lifestyle, try to always play with only money youve decided to loose, play for the fun and don't expect anything back... Play and don't get addicted.

Well, that is the hard part of being an addict to gambling. You will never know something is wrong until someone told you so and do something that would make you realize that, in terms of your friend, his wife and child left him. It is hard to just say use money you could lose or just play for fun since even though you're like that you are also hoping you could get something out of it since you're gambling.

You can't just also say don't get addicted because not all of us can control ourselves. When I as in his shoes I thought that I am just having fun, I thought that I got it under control but even though you don't have money, you will still go there and watch other gamblers play. Sometimes you might even think of begging money on those big winners so you could also play. It is hard but it is great that you are helping him since that would be a huge thing for him. Be there for him, also invite other friends you could also introduce him to other people that could accompany him,

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[Timelord2067]

Sounds like it time to pull that band-aid off of their finger, or cut the apron strings.  Either way, you're going to have to wean your friend off of lending money from you.  True, they may hit on others to fund their habbit, but if you give others the tip-off that you've been put out lending to this person, others might also keep their wallets closed (you might also find out your friend is lending from others in which case it really is time to pull the plug).

[kawetsriyanto]

~ withdraw money from his wife's account without her permission, the woman complained and complained, got tired, took their only son and left him alone.

It's so bad. Something like this shouldn't happen, how can think like gambling more important than family. That's why we need to control ourselves and think realistically. Don't expect too much to earn regular money from gambling, even think to be rich suddenly by gambling. If we expect too much, then we will lose our mind and use every single money on our pockets/ATMs. He must regret it so much one day, broke his family because he cannot control his desire in gambling!!

[abel1337]

~ withdraw money from his wife's account without her permission, the woman complained and complained, got tired, took their only son and left him alone.

It's so bad. Something like this shouldn't happen, how can think like gambling more important than family. That's why we need to control ourselves and think realistically. Don't expect too much to earn regular money from gambling, even think to be rich suddenly by gambling. If we expect too much, then we will lose our mind and use every single money on our pockets/ATMs. He must regret it so much one day, broke his family because he cannot control his desire in gambling!!

There are many lives ruined that have the same situation as OP's friend. Without the control into your own emotions in every aspects of life can turn into mess, It's just it is so bad in gambling addiction because it involves money in it.

He needs professional help because him alone will not resolve his addiction. He will always go back to his habit. Even advice from friends will be futile. It is easy to give piece of advice, but when it comes to actual implementation, his friend will go crazy. His level of addiction really needs a professional one to address his problem. Need to know the root cause of his habit and start from there.

I agree with this, The actual implementation is the most hard step, Resisting the will not play gambling is a very troublesome experience for some addicts and they don't know how to control themselves from not playing. Some professionals suggest putting them into rehabilitation centers and for me it is somehow effective since they are giving limitations to their patients so they can heal slowly with the vices they want to get rid.

[LogitechMouse]

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These are just some of the few effects of getting addicted to gambling.

Your friend has affected his lifestyle because of gambling. Because of gambling, he also got left by his family and now living alone. I can't feel any sympathy from him because from the start, we know that gambling can be really addictive and once you got addicted into it your life can change and this is what happened to your friend. Your friend isn't cursed though. Its just that he got addicted into gambling maybe because he find himself happy when he gambled for the first time and that happens more often that he became addicted into it.

If you can help your friend that would be better though especially now that he really is addicted and alone, your help would be beneficial for him. Thanks for sharing then and I hope that some take this as an eye-opener especially those addicted ones.

[maydna]

~ withdraw money from his wife's account without her permission, the woman complained and complained, got tired, took their only son and left him alone.

It's so bad. Something like this shouldn't happen, how can think like gambling more important than family. That's why we need to control ourselves and think realistically. Don't expect too much to earn regular money from gambling, even think to be rich suddenly by gambling. If we expect too much, then we will lose our mind and use every single money on our pockets/ATMs. He must regret it so much one day, broke his family because he cannot control his desire in gambling!!

There are many lives ruined that have the same situation as OP's friend. Without the control into your own emotions in every aspects of life can turn into mess, It's just it is so bad in gambling addiction because it involves money in it.

Perhaps, it is happening in reality which wife doesn't know where her husband spends the time. Sometimes, playing gambling can give pleasure to us, but in the next minute, playing gambling can attract us to go deeper into gambling, especially if we used another money. If that happens, we might lose control of our minds and emotions, and if that happens for a long time, then that can become an addiction.

If we want to play gambling, we need to make sure that we don't use our family's money to buy our needs. But in the end, if we still can't control ourselves, that money will be used for playing gambling too because we will forget about the needs, and we only remember about how to win the gambling games. Gambling is addictive, but if you have control over your mind and body, you can avoid the addiction.

[Shasha80]

Thank you for sharing the story about your friend's, who became addicted for playing gambling. There are many valuable lessons
that we can take from the story in the opening post. That don't play gambling too often, then limit the amount of money to play
gambling. If we are addicted to gambling, it will damage our lives. Not only will our money run out, however, the relationship with
the family can also be disturbed. So controlling ourselves when playing gambling is very important, don't make gambling a source
of income.

[rhomelmabini]

~ withdraw money from his wife's account without her permission, the woman complained and complained, got tired, took their only son and left him alone.

Don't expect too much to earn regular money from gambling, even think to be rich suddenly by gambling. If we expect too much, then we will lose our mind and use every single money on our pockets/ATMs.

This is one of the reasons someone gets into gambling wanted to be rich suddenly. That's a fact really but it's a rare scenario you'll be rich suddenly without the underlying risks but most of the time it always on going to get rekt. The next time the one that will be sudden is problems if you can't moderate to gamble and you still loses as well.

[bitcoinisbest]

This is the serious problem of addition and have seen so many falling in this trap and finding it difficult to come out untill they have lost their money etc. It is important for their partners, family, friends and the person itself to have strong will power and change the mind form gambling to do something new. Take a break, go on a vacation or do what you love the most after gambling. Th break from gambling is very necessary and, in this phase, all should be supporting that person because it is not easy to come out. Also, for newcomers it is a lesson that for fun if you are gambling its fine but moment you lose control then problem arises.

[Janation]

Hats off to you buddy for taking care of your friend.

That is the best thing you can do right now, let him feel your comfort so he could understand how bad he is right now. He should admit to his problems that way he could fix that and in the long run, fix his broken relationship with his wife and his son. I feel bad for his son because he will be the most affected in this. I think as long as you love your family, you could stop gambling for them so instead of your gambling habit, pay attention to the relationships that you have with your family and your peers. That could help us gamblers in the long run.

[swogerino]

In this kind of situation only guidance and help from you will not work as although you are helping him you are also making possible for him to continue in this loop like forever.The best solution would be to try and convince your friend that he is in a loop and there is no other solution except professional help to save his life and the one of his family.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

People like that, who's so into gambling will never listen to anybody. Its only after he losses everything then he'll realize what his mistakes are. Probably, let him be for now, because his mindset right now is focused on recovering his losses. That's why he'll never stop until he wages the last money he has. When that time comes never give him anything, even if he begs you. You can always help him by giving food.

Most of time it happened. Gamblers who are very drunk to this activities will never listen to anyone. They rather lose more than to think of  stop doing it. Lots of addicted gamblers suffered from heavy
depressions after realizing that they've losses a lot.

Amount that they can't afford to think back, some takes their own life can't accept this huge mistakes in life.

I even forgot to mention, another thing gambling did to Bassey which I don't like at all is Alcohol, during weekend, Bassey spends his Saturdays and Sundays in a gambling shop, after loosing so much, in other to avoid thinking about it, he goes on drinking alcohol, he drinks to stupur, goes home and if his wife troubles him in any way, he will unleash all the anger on and beat her to hell, it's majorly the reason why the woman left in other not to be killed before she realizes it, i was among those who advised her to leave Bassey alone for now, maybe when he gets better, she can come back, i personally have a thing or two am addicted to, but this is too bad to compare, many times, the company have queried and trethenedto sack him, ive always been the one pleading to give him time, that he will heal

[michellee]

~ withdraw money from his wife's account without her permission, the woman complained and complained, got tired, took their only son and left him alone.

It's so bad. Something like this shouldn't happen, how can think like gambling more important than family. That's why we need to control ourselves and think realistically. Don't expect too much to earn regular money from gambling, even think to be rich suddenly by gambling. If we expect too much, then we will lose our mind and use every single money on our pockets/ATMs. He must regret it so much one day, broke his family because he cannot control his desire in gambling!!

That can happen to many people who play gambling because they can use other money in their pocket when they feel have fun on those games. They will not think that gambling can make them lose in just one second because they believe they have good luck this time to win a lot of money. They will think that the next round will be for them, so they increase the amount to place bets, but suddenly, what they want can not happens, and they only lose the money. He will regret it because he uses more money for playing gambling.

[Lhaine]

This is the serious problem of addition and have seen so many falling in this trap and finding it difficult to come out untill they have lost their money etc. It is important for their partners, family, friends and the person itself to have strong will power and change the mind form gambling to do something new. Take a break, go on a vacation or do what you love the most after gambling. Th break from gambling is very necessary and, in this phase, all should be supporting that person because it is not easy to come out. Also, for newcomers it is a lesson that for fun if you are gambling its fine but moment you lose control then problem arises.

this is what this persons need a support from his family and friends by not giving him a money that he can use to continue his addiction which we know that it doesn't help them to stop it.

By giving or lending him money, he will think that its ok to continue that addiction as if nothing wrong is happening , help him  by not giving him money and teach them what other habbit he can do aside from gambling.

[iv4n]

I even forgot to mention, another thing gambling did to Bassey which I don't like at all is Alcohol, during weekend, Bassey spends his Saturdays and Sundays in a gambling shop, after loosing so much, in other to avoid thinking about it, he goes on drinking alcohol, he drinks to stupur, goes home and if his wife troubles him in any way, he will unleash all the anger on and beat her to hell, it's majorly the reason why the woman left in other not to be killed before she realizes it, i was among those who advised her to leave Bassey alone for now, maybe when he gets better, she can come back, i personally have a thing or two am addicted to, but this is too bad to compare, many times, the company have queried and trethenedto sack him, ive always been the one pleading to give him time, that he will heal

I am reading and I can't believe! If he is acting like this he deserves a few slaps that will put him back on his place! I understand gambling, I understand drinking...but to raise hand on a woman, that's the line nobody should cross! And if he has kids, you didn't say anything about that, problems will just become bigger!
First you say he is your friend, you need to think about that, if you think of him as close friend you should do something about this, if he is just a guy from the work that's another story. Some people don't understand when you talk to them, they need extra incentive to understand. Someone needs to help him understand what he is doing in his own way! I strongly believe that every problem can be solved, in one way or another, but it's you who needs to think do you wish to deal with the problem? Do you want/wish to spend your time, energy, maybe money to solve this problem? Are you ready to go all the way?

[adzino]

Lol, I am sure it is not "curse" that has made him addicted to gambling and lose every time. It is a habit he has picked up that is ruining his life. Perhaps it is time you confront your friend and help him? Since he has already told you about his addiction, you can now try and help him fix his problem. Get his family involved too. But, if he doesn't want any help, it is useless helping him. You will just be wasting your time and energy as he will never change! Try helping him for first few days. Check if there is any improvement and if there is, then continue helping, or else he just a lost cost and stop lending him money.

[Ucy]

Betting for fun could aswell get your friend addicted again, and not just greed or his attachment to the huge prizes. If there is nowhere else he could derive fun, he could keep betting just to have fun and "waste money". I'd rather advice him to quit gambling altogether and instead learn to be profitable/successful bettors.

try to always play with only money youve decided to loose,

I guess you mean 'bet with little amount or amount you afford to lose"? I think if you do this you are no longer taking big risk which is Gambling (and as long as you betting on good/safe games). You are betting responsibly and not gambling. It's irresponsible to gamble.

But you said you are not a gambler and still say you gamble(that's abit contradictory)... I guess that means you still take huge bet risk, even in once in a month/awhile basis?

when I sald am not a gambler, and still say I gamble, I actually meant am not really what should be considered a gambler, and yes, I do place bet ones or twice every month, I personally don't know what you consider as huge risk but for me, i dont take huge risk, my bets is usually between 5 to 10 usd, 10 usd is a threshold I set for my self and ever since I did, I've never crossed it, and am glad cus when I was fully into gambling, I sometimes spend up to 100 usd in a week and still end up winning nothing, am glad I was able to easily pull my self out early cus if I had let it eat deep into me, maybe I would have been worst than my friend is right now, and we both would have no one to help us get out.

Well, you can't say you are not a drunkard and still say you get drunk. I think it should be: *I am not a drunkard, I occasionally drink.*
Anyone with sound mind reading this^ will understand that you drink (occasionally) & probably no longer get drunk.
Drunkenness is  analogous to Gambling while Betting is analogous to Drinking. Too much of both (drinking & betting) than you can handle still makes one a drunkard or gambler.
So you clearly no longer gamble. An occasional $10 bet (depending on how wealthy you are) doesn't look like gambling.

[LogitechMouse]

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It will help him yes but I don't think that this will be the scenario forever or in the long run at least.
There will be a time where this will end. Where comfort will end.

Still good that the addicted gambler has a friend who is willing to help him to go out from his addiction but his help isn't enough. He still needs to help himself in order to win on this or he needs the help of professionals for him to get out from gambling addiction.

For me, this is the reason why I don't spend too much in gambling. I don't want myself to end like this.

[In the silence]

It is difficult to avoid gambling especially when you are addicted so for everyone who is just starting to gamble do not be greedy and always have self-limitation. And of course a reminder to everyone we always advise our friends who are addicted to gambling because they need us because it is difficult to avoid gambling. They need advice, friends, family members so that they can overcome the addiction caused by gambling.

[rodskee]

Just never Leave Him now because he has nothing to lean on,Wife and child already leave Him so if there is anyone
he can turn on that is you.

Please never let down of your friend.

i use to have a friend that being involved in Drug and gambling addiction but he did not make it,after losing everything
 Suicide is what end His life.

So if you have sympathy and concern to your friend?be with him now.