Do you blame someone for your gambling losses?

[Helena Yu]

I really don't understand people who are blaming others in loses , i mean in the first place before you bet its your choice to do it and if you lose then you shouldn't blaming others as they are not the one who bet it. Those kind of people should be avoided as for sure it will lead to altercation or even a fight.  Even my self no matter what fault or loses that I've been through i wont be blaming others.

It's because people are really obsessed with money due to the current capitalism society.

We have seen many family have conflict about heritage or business which is money, people are want to get promoted on the company they work including destroying someone career, people like to corrupt more money as long as they have a chance etc.

The same happen like blaming someone for your gambling losses, this can pressuring him and feel wrong, this has a small chance to get your money back.

[livingfree]

Pathetic people.

These are the people that you should avoid if you ever encounter one or two in real lives. They can't accept the reality that they've lost and trying to prove that it's not their fault that they've lost their money as they gamble.

Believe me, these people are no good and you don't want to be associated with them because they don't take things accountable for what they've done. Trying to run away and blame what they did to anyone that's just a fantasy, they should really get lost.

No one is exempt of making mistakes, we all make them, the difference is how we react to them, someone that is willing to accept the responsibility for their mistakes and does what is necessary in order to never repeat them is a person that over the long run is going to develop a very strong character, but those that refuse to accept the responsibility for their actions are people that you do not want in your life, because you never know when they are going to make a mistake and blame you for it, even if you had nothing to do with it.

While it's true that we all make mistakes but for these folks, they don't want to take the responsibility for making that mistake and that's why they're pathetic.

I guess that these people's relative don't want to be associated with them anymore after knowing this incident.

Pathetic people.

These are the people that you should avoid if you ever encounter one or two in real lives. They can't accept the reality that they've lost and trying to prove that it's not their fault that they've lost their money as they gamble.

Believe me, these people are no good and you don't want to be associated with them because they don't take things accountable for what they've done. Trying to run away and blame what they did to anyone that's just a fantasy, they should really get lost.

You are right. They will only blame other people if something is not the way they want and in this case, after playing gambling and losing, they will blame other people or even the gambling machine. Among our many friends, there must be friends like that and we shouldn't need to get too close to them so we don't get into trouble either.

They will never grow up if they only blame others and don't want to introspect themselves. Yet by introspection, they will see whether their actions are right or wrong. And if it goes wrong, they can fix it so it doesn't happen again.

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

[SirLancelot]

Nope, I never blame anyone for my gambling losses because I always responsible with all of my bet.

I think this mother and son are looking a loophole how to get their money back, so he choose to create a fake story. I have seen such kind case in my country where an employee create a fake story where he got robbed when he want to go to bank for distributing the salary to every employees in his company. The truth is he store those money in his house lol.

This particular case of the OP is pathetic, such people should be severely sentenced as they are evil and should not be appreciated in society. How can someone be so callous and dubious blaming a financial institution for the money they actually spent themselves? Well, it's still difficult for me to believe such a story despite being a practical case as they pleaded guilty.

People are just evil, this is beyond gambling blames to me.

I agree with you that it is way beyond gambling blame in my opinion, it's simply a big crime since the money in question is not small. If the person who is being blamed for this actually is considered guilty but in reality he/she is innocent, how would that mother and her son live their life in peace knowing that they've made someone spend their life in prison while they are roaming free when the other person wasn't guilty at all.

But, I don't think that they have any souls or any feelings of regret since they already tried to put the blame for losing their own money on someone else only in the hope that they might get their money back.

[Emitdama]

I don't blame others but when I am playing slots I don't want anyone to talk to me,not even my closest family members as when I see bad runs and bonus rounds giving me empty spins my level of rage is at the highest.This way I would start yelling if my wife talks to me for anything she may need,she knows that I gamble but she also knows that I have recovered addiction in 2020 and is still with me,I would yell and tell her that you are the most unlucky person in the world as I am in rage at those moments and she knows and does not say anything.

That is why I play most of the time when I am alone rather than with people around me as bad situations will be created then.

Good thing online gambling is invented. It is perfect for the people like you who have that mental condition. I'm like that actually, not that I will blame people around me but because I am afraid that people in my network will judge me and I also don't want these people to be influenced by my hobby because if they lose I know that I am the one who will be blamed for this.

I'm fine playing in real casinos because I don't personally know the people playing there. All I know is we all have the same interest and that makes me feel happy especially when I see their positive reactions, and the cheerful crowd around me. That is the best feeling that can't be experienced when playing online.

[Fredomago]

That's so wrong. Well, they will be investigated if what they say is true. But I doubt they are. Not taking responsibilities for her own mistake, that's not a good lesson for the kid and he might do this kind of trick too when he grows up, worse this will be like his job.
Gambling advertisements always tells us to gamble responsibly, and this is not how it is. It was said for a reason because we will end up like this case of the mother and son if we don't control out gambling habit. I don't blame anyone with all my losses, better, I actually keep it to myself because I am shy to let others find out that I lost my bet.

I really don't understand people who are blaming others in loses , i mean in the first place before you bet its your choice to do it and if you lose then you shouldn't blaming others as they are not the one who bet it. Those kind of people should be avoided as for sure it will lead to altercation or even a fight.  Even my self no matter what fault or loses that I've been through i wont be blaming others.

You said it right, if possible, just stay away from those kinds of gamblers. People who can't accept mistakes and failures are always looking for someone to blame. You might just have a fight if you will not avoid those people. We can't tell what's in their mind when they are blaming someone when they lose their bets.

Acceptance is something that is missing from those gamblers. They just can't believe that they mistakenly analyze the outcome and they continue to find someone to point their fingers and blame.

[Ziskinberg]

That's so wrong. Well, they will be investigated if what they say is true. But I doubt they are. Not taking responsibilities for her own mistake, that's not a good lesson for the kid and he might do this kind of trick too when he grows up, worse this will be like his job.
Gambling advertisements always tells us to gamble responsibly, and this is not how it is. It was said for a reason because we will end up like this case of the mother and son if we don't control out gambling habit. I don't blame anyone with all my losses, better, I actually keep it to myself because I am shy to let others find out that I lost my bet.

You're exactly not alone with having that kind of feeling and that is how normal people react, of course, it is kind of embarrassing if people around us especially the ones who knows us that we lost big time in gambling and they will start to think that we're addicts because we let those situations to get ahead of us, or happened to us without realizing the consequences first.

But for this mom and son, the investigation was already halted because there is no need to go on further as they already pleaded guilty for their own crime and they are even lucky enough because the jail time that was given to them was not that extreme and even the fines are not that high after blaming somebody for their own losses.

[Josefjix]

That's so wrong. Well, they will be investigated if what they say is true. But I doubt they are. Not taking responsibilities for her own mistake, that's not a good lesson for the kid and he might do this kind of trick too when he grows up, worse this will be like his job.
Gambling advertisements always tells us to gamble responsibly, and this is not how it is. It was said for a reason because we will end up like this case of the mother and son if we don't control out gambling habit. I don't blame anyone with all my losses, better, I actually keep it to myself because I am shy to let others find out that I lost my bet.

It's reasonable; the victim's mother did what any caring mother would do; being protective of her kid is every woman's top duty. Unfortunately, they were tracked down and apprehended with enough evidence to lock them up for a long time. Gambling, depending on how we use it, can be a positive or harmful supplementary side hustle. I've seen countless examples where gamblers sell their properties simply to pay off their debts or because they are confident in placing bets. However, a large sum of money was lost, and the victims were unable to bear their losses; rather, they were desperate to replace their money, and accusing an innocent person is completely inappropriate. They will served the necessary jail term, they would only wished for a fair judgement for their crimes.

[mirakal]

Pathetic people.

These are the people that you should avoid if you ever encounter one or two in real lives. They can't accept the reality that they've lost and trying to prove that it's not their fault that they've lost their money as they gamble.

Believe me, these people are no good and you don't want to be associated with them because they don't take things accountable for what they've done. Trying to run away and blame what they did to anyone that's just a fantasy, they should really get lost.

You are right. They will only blame other people if something is not the way they want and in this case, after playing gambling and losing, they will blame other people or even the gambling machine. Among our many friends, there must be friends like that and we shouldn't need to get too close to them so we don't get into trouble either.

They will never grow up if they only blame others and don't want to introspect themselves. Yet by introspection, they will see whether their actions are right or wrong. And if it goes wrong, they can fix it so it doesn't happen again.

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

It literally depends if they are sincere about the acceptance and not just a passive way of accepting the mistake, because if it's the latter, they might able to find themselves again in the very same position where they will blame somebody or anybody in-case they will experience another heart breaking loss. But yes, there are some people who are truly sincere and had a wake up call about what they have done.

[livingfree]

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

It literally depends if they are sincere about the acceptance and not just a passive way of accepting the mistake, because if it's the latter, they might able to find themselves again in the very same position where they will blame somebody or anybody in-case they will experience another heart breaking loss. But yes, there are some people who are truly sincere and had a wake up call about what they have done.

Yes, we do know that there goes those that change entirely and feeling truly sorry for the mistake they've committed. But not all are found with that sincerity.

As for these gamblers that have done it, I guess that they've known this or prepared that if things didn't go well after they gamble. They'll finally come up to the idea that they've come up with and that's about blaming others or pretending that they were hacked and someone accessed their accounts without their permission.

Easy way out, right? But if there will be people that will believe them, could be a few.

[Hispo]

Someone an undeveloped mind will always find a way to not blame himself but save face and blame someone else for their failure. It could be just an excuse but then there is just quit a lot to say when you as a parent teaching your kid to gamble together without care in losing it all. Not a good model indeed.

Bad behavior indeed and it is not worth the example of a parent to behave, who knows what he thinks to bring his child to play gambling and throw stones and then hide hand.

Obviously kids do not belong to the casino in any way, shape or form. Actually, assuming the child would grow up to become a gambler with problems of addiction then sooner or later would blame his old father of all the money and misfortunes he had to suffer for many years.

And believe it or not, those kind of situations are more common than you think, unfortunately. Parents in this country do not allow children to do anything related to adulthood but still encourage them to learn card games, like poker or Truco.  

Well there are really indeed corners in the world on which it is really that turning out that gambling is really that main thing that they could be able to deal with. We know that parenting does really play a huge role
when it comes on raising up your kids. If you do let them engage on their early years then for sure on what you would be expecting on which it would turn out for them to be a gambling addict.

I have got a good example of bad parenting and has to do with that "corners of the world" explanation.
There was a time here in my country when people were struggling economically because massive inflation and reckless political moves by out leaders and out of no where, electronic roulette houses started to appear in every corner.

People started to partake on it, adults and even children, the operators really did never care, they wanted people to buy tickets on the animal and they think could appear the next time. 

Parents saw that completely normal, almost like an innocent thing, that children were gambling a few dollars at the time with the hope of bringing 10$ back home...

[carlfebz2]

Someone an undeveloped mind will always find a way to not blame himself but save face and blame someone else for their failure. It could be just an excuse but then there is just quit a lot to say when you as a parent teaching your kid to gamble together without care in losing it all. Not a good model indeed.

Bad behavior indeed and it is not worth the example of a parent to behave, who knows what he thinks to bring his child to play gambling and throw stones and then hide hand.

Obviously kids do not belong to the casino in any way, shape or form. Actually, assuming the child would grow up to become a gambler with problems of addiction then sooner or later would blame his old father of all the money and misfortunes he had to suffer for many years.

And believe it or not, those kind of situations are more common than you think, unfortunately. Parents in this country do not allow children to do anything related to adulthood but still encourage them to learn card games, like poker or Truco.  

Well there are really indeed corners in the world on which it is really that turning out that gambling is really that main thing that they could be able to deal with. We know that parenting does really play a huge role
when it comes on raising up your kids. If you do let them engage on their early years then for sure on what you would be expecting on which it would turn out for them to be a gambling addict.

I have got a good example of bad parenting and has to do with that "corners of the world" explanation.
There was a time here in my country when people were struggling economically because massive inflation and reckless political moves by out leaders and out of no where, electronic roulette houses started to appear in every corner.

People started to partake on it, adults and even children, the operators really did never care, they wanted people to buy tickets on the animal and they think could appear the next time. 

Parents saw that completely normal, almost like an innocent thing, that children were gambling a few dollars at the time with the hope of bringing 10$ back home...

When you are on the verge or economic difficulty or simply speaking about having not much money then this is where desperation would kicks in on which us parents would really be definitely be just agreeing
on what they are seeing.We cant know if those decisions are really against into their principle or just simply accepting it because there's nothing they can do and they would be needing to gamble
for them to earn more. Yes, its a bad mindset to have but when you are on such situation then you wont really be following your pride and principles in life.

These people are pretty much aware about on how do gambling work and it is really just no sense on why the heck they are doing gambling if they do know that they could lost up money instead of earning.
We cant really dictate on how parents should be raising up their kids on which i do agree on what said that even how hard you to train and tell them about the good ways, but due
to some external factor there's always a chance that they would lost off track which is something thats inevitable.

[ethereumhunter]

I will only blame someone if they're the ones that talked me into placing a gamble that I knew wasn't likely to play out. Gambling platforms always warn their users to be up to a certain age to be able to use thier platform and if you proceed to accept the terms and conditions, you have no moral right to blame anyone for your losses. Just like Bitcoin trading and investment, any bettor should always stake an amount of money he or she can afford to lose.

Gambling addiction isn't an easy thing to overcome, it's better to stay away than fight the addiction. It's ideal to not give gambling predictions without proper analysis in order to avoid blames.

If the invitation does not easily persuade us of friends or other people, we will not have the problem of losing money at gambling. And so we don't get into trouble, we have to be able to say no to people who ask us and avoid them every time we meet them. This is to avoid blaming himself for inviting us to gamble and lose. But we should already know that playing gambling can result in defeat and for ordinary people, they also know that even though they may not know how the process works.

And before it's too late to become addicted to gambling, we must be able to avoid playing gambling too often. And to fight the desire to return to gambling, we must have other activities to keep thoughts of gambling away.

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

Only they can change themselves for the better. I also believe that if they want to change for the better, they have to be strong-willed, not complain, and always try because the temptation to go back to gambling will be even more intense at that time. This is why they have to take it seriously and realize that what they did was wrong. And maybe there's nothing wrong with asking for help from other people, including our family members, because they know us better.

[livingfree]

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

Only they can change themselves for the better. I also believe that if they want to change for the better, they have to be strong-willed, not complain, and always try because the temptation to go back to gambling will be even more intense at that time. This is why they have to take it seriously and realize that what they did was wrong. And maybe there's nothing wrong with asking for help from other people, including our family members, because they know us better.

And before they do that, take the accountability first and pay for the penalty that's given to them whether it's jail time or fine that they need to pay.

That's the start that they're about to do better by doing those things. But with those and they still negate to their mistake, they're hard headed and that's not a good sign that they'll change for better.

Betterment will only come to them by doing the right thing of what should be done after they've been caught and admit they've lost and no one's to blame but them.

[carlisle1]

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

Only they can change themselves for the better. I also believe that if they want to change for the better, they have to be strong-willed, not complain, and always try because the temptation to go back to gambling will be even more intense at that time. This is why they have to take it seriously and realize that what they did was wrong. And maybe there's nothing wrong with asking for help from other people, including our family members, because they know us better.

And before they do that, take the accountability first and pay for the penalty that's given to them whether it's jail time or fine that they need to pay.

That's the start that they're about to do better by doing those things. But with those and they still negate to their mistake, they're hard headed and that's not a good sign that they'll change for better.

Betterment will only come to them by doing the right thing of what should be done after they've been caught and admit they've lost and no one's to blame but them.

Acceptance is the start of being a better person. If they can embrace and accept those mistakes, then they've got a good chance
to learn more about it and start working on it to become a better person.

But like how you describe it, if they can't accept those failures and they are not willing to accept those bad things that they've done, they're hard-headed
will continue to grow to do worse.

It will be depending on how they will take this matter and how they will arrange to settle this problem that they've created.

[darewaller]

I really don't understand people who are blaming others in loses , i mean in the first place before you bet its your choice to do it and if you lose then you shouldn't blaming others as they are not the one who bet it. Those kind of people should be avoided as for sure it will lead to altercation or even a fight.  Even my self no matter what fault or loses that I've been through i wont be blaming others.

It's because people are really obsessed with money due to the current capitalism society.

We have seen many family have conflict about heritage or business which is money, people are want to get promoted on the company they work including destroying someone career, people like to corrupt more money as long as they have a chance etc.

The same happen like blaming someone for your gambling losses, this can pressuring him and feel wrong, this has a small chance to get your money back.

This is what they say that money is the root of all evil because people can do all sorts of bad things just to get more of it. Luckily some people values their morality more than the money. Like me for example, it does not really matter if I am earning small but as long as I am earning it the right way that I am not hurting other people. Doing good stuffs is the one that can make us happy and not totally the money.

@xSkylarx they already know it but blaming other is only their alibi because maybe they are too shy for the public to know that they gamble all their money but it is too late already. This is a lesson or a reminder for those who are planning to do an unwanted activity, that regrets are only experienced at the end.

[Vaculin]

Although I believe that someone can change for better but it should start with them. And it can only happen if these mistakes they've made will be admitted by them.

They have to recognize that their actions were wrong and it's not going to do any better if they'll repeat it.

Only they can change themselves for the better. I also believe that if they want to change for the better, they have to be strong-willed, not complain, and always try because the temptation to go back to gambling will be even more intense at that time. This is why they have to take it seriously and realize that what they did was wrong. And maybe there's nothing wrong with asking for help from other people, including our family members, because they know us better.

And before they do that, take the accountability first and pay for the penalty that's given to them whether it's jail time or fine that they need to pay.

That's the start that they're about to do better by doing those things. But with those and they still negate to their mistake, they're hard headed and that's not a good sign that they'll change for better.

Betterment will only come to them by doing the right thing of what should be done after they've been caught and admit they've lost and no one's to blame but them.

As per the OP's shared article, both the mother and son was convicted for a total 7 years jailtime after they pleaded guilty to the crimes they did and the article also said that they got a fine of 150,000 Naira each ($324). Seems little enough, right? But for a third world country like Nigeria, these money is large enough for them to start reflecting from their sins.

Hopefully, after what happened to them, they will renew themselves and start doing things legally instead of gambling and then blaming somebody for the losses.

[QueenVera]

The case of the mother and child is a very funny one and what should be asked is, who then gambled the money that was transferred from their account to the casino  and who gave them access to the casino  that the funds  was transferred  to?
Most times the news and stories from the forum has always helped me make better gambling  decisions  so as to stay out of trouble and stay more in profits and I hope that we also try as much as possible  to learn from all these stories.
Well on the long run, I think the judgement of the law against  them was fair enough as they were trying to get someone  else involved in their mess rather than staying remorseful.

[n0ne]

At some point the mom an son have accepted what they've done. Atleast for that jail sentence could've been reduced, and it is upto the law of the country. They shouldn't have done it. It is the country where the politicians even after getting caught on corruption continues on the power. People are equal before the law is no more. I don't say the mom and son is right, out of emotions they would've planned and executed it to get back what they've lost. People doesn't have the mind to accept loss, as well as they're spend beyond their ability. When one is able to overcome these things gambling will be enjoyable.

[Wakate]

That's so wrong. Well, they will be investigated if what they say is true. But I doubt they are. Not taking responsibilities for her own mistake, that's not a good lesson for the kid and he might do this kind of trick too when he grows up, worse this will be like his job.
Gambling advertisements always tells us to gamble responsibly, and this is not how it is. It was said for a reason because we will end up like this case of the mother and son if we don't control out gambling habit. I don't blame anyone with all my losses, better, I actually keep it to myself because I am shy to let others find out that I lost my bet.

I really don't understand people who are blaming others in loses , i mean in the first place before you bet its your choice to do it and if you lose then you shouldn't blaming others as they are not the one who bet it. Those kind of people should be avoided as for sure it will lead to altercation or even a fight.  Even my self no matter what fault or loses that I've been through i wont be blaming others.

There is a kind of bet I would make and I would blame the person that ask me to make that particular bet especially when I am forced or compelled with the assurance of winning the bet. I had made multiple bets on boxing and other friend sport bets that gave me bad luck and I never bother to accuse anyone of my loses because I knew that sometimes, luck might not fall on your side that's why I would never blame anyone of my gambling loses depending on whether they are the one that initial the gaming or gambling activity or not.

[livingfree]

~snip~

Acceptance is the start of being a better person. If they can embrace and accept those mistakes, then they've got a good chance
to learn more about it and start working on it to become a better person.

But like how you describe it, if they can't accept those failures and they are not willing to accept those bad things that they've done, they're hard-headed
will continue to grow to do worse.

It will be depending on how they will take this matter and how they will arrange to settle this problem that they've created.

Hopefully, we get some update news about what happened to them and if they're able to say something about this. Other wise, all of those things that everyone has said counts and they'll have to spend the jail time that has been the verdict upon them.

~snip~

As per the OP's shared article, both the mother and son was convicted for a total 7 years jailtime after they pleaded guilty to the crimes they did and the article also said that they got a fine of 150,000 Naira each ($324). Seems little enough, right? But for a third world country like Nigeria, these money is large enough for them to start reflecting from their sins.

Hopefully, after what happened to them, they will renew themselves and start doing things legally instead of gambling and then blaming somebody for the losses.

That's why if there could be some follow up news or updates about them, that would be good but then. If they're already inside the jail, none will be interesting anymore to them to the media there.