Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[redsun114]

If you are comfortable asking this question publicly then definitely you should talk to your husband and explain to him that you are gambling just in your spare time and not at all addicted or losing too much money. Look men are not evil, it's just that we want to make sure our life partner is not indulging in any wrongdoing or wasting money on something meaningless like gambling.

I feel that "how" you tell him is more important than "when" you tell him because if you tell him with a guilty face then it will look bad and despite all your efforts, he will believe you have a gambling problem. If you take the time and prepare yourself how you are going to tell him, then it will be much better. You might as well ask him what he thinks about gambling and if he has ever done it himself. Based on his answers you can plot how to inform him about your gambling habit.

[aioc]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

[TravelMug]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

I don't think she intentionally doesn't want to tell his husband, maybe she was just enjoying but at some point, maybe she feels guilty and that's why he ask the advise of the majority of members here who might have been in the same situation before.

And even if we haven't experience the same, I think the best advise that we can give is to really tell it right away to his husband. And then explain everything and I have a feeling that being his better half, he will understand what she is going through, so no harm done.

[madnessteat]

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

[suzanne5223]

I understand what you are trying to say and yes there shouldn't be anything secret between her and their husband which is the reason why I said she knows her husband more than us and his level of understanding will determine her decision.
Having said that, let's be honest with ourselves. Is there a relationship that didn't have something one side hid from his/her partner? I'm not talking about something that involves cheat or disrespect.
Some things are hidden from partners due to the respect, and love we have for the person.

I agree about on having that secrets which arent supposed to be shared and not really just that means that you dont respect your partner but rather it is really just that showing that you are really that mindful about on the possible effects that it could give once it would really be known. This is why there are really indeed things in life on which it is really that better that you should really be keeping it as a secret forever on which it would really be just that a normal approach. I agree into those points somehow that when it comes to things like this one on where something it is really that totally against with your husband likings then it would really be just that right and something that worth for it to be told into him because it would really be that creating a potential conflict if things been known.

Just like on what everybody is saying that we do know on what are the risks of gambling that could give, even if we do say that you are really having that good control but when
things becomes a hobby then it would really be that turning out to be something that will really be a default activity and knowing gambling where you would really be gonna need to spend
and this is something that you would really need to look up.

I agree with what you said. However, when gambling turns into a hobby it shouldn't be considered gambling anymore cause that's abusive because gambling is not meant to be a hobby but a game of chance that should be considered participating sometimes that's why casino always advises their user to gamble responsibly.
If a woman or man gambles as a hobby then he/she needs help and it's better to inform the partner about it.

[rodskee]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You have a bright  knowledge about gambling before you even started betting and this made you far
from becoming addicted so why not tell your husband ? how long have you been married ? because I may understand
if you are newly wed but if being together for years now ? then I see no problem for him understanding you.

and besides you are in crypto world , enjoying signature campaign and as we knew most of the campaign
now requires gambling posting so how could you communicate in gambling section when you don't understand what is
gambling and how being gambler is?

just continue with limited time and funds in gambling , and tell your husband what he needs to know.

[sompitonov]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

I agree that you need to share even the smallest things with each other, because it is important, because there are almost no such people to whom you can say this. Many will not understand, even friends may stop picking up the phone after this when they see that you are calling them. In general, concealment can cause the onset of mistrust, and this gives rise to other negative feelings. And as mentioned above, the most unpleasant thing for me personally was if I learned such things from a friend and not my girlfriend. It looks like everyone knows but me, I don’t know what could be worse. I know real stories where something similar happened and they were just about gambling.

[junder]

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

It is true, I agree with you, if indeed she gambles by being responsible for everything can control everything well including with her finances she has nothing wrong with telling her husband about her gambling habits, because with her telling her husband of course her husband can give a clear comment her husband will give advice or what is the goal for her own good as well as her own family relationship, because gambling is related to money and families can be destroyed because of unstable finances.

also indeed family relationships will be good if there is a sense of trust in each other, and by being open without hiding anything one of them, of course I also if I don't know my partner likes to do things secretly and he tells me I will talk about it, if it can't be eliminated from his habits, then find a way so that it doesn't have a bad impact on the relationship that is being carried out. because as you said, we have to think about it well by considering everything well so as not to take the wrong step.

[maydna]

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

Perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable telling her husband that she's a responsible gambler. But her husband should know about her gambling activities so that there are no secrets between them. We don't know what will happen if her husband doesn't find out about her gambling activities. Perhaps his trust will immediately decrease, and what's worse is that her husband could leave her because he has been dishonest. By telling her secrets about her gambling activities, at least it can let her husband know and perhaps she can stop gambling with her husband's help. Hopefully, she can make the right decision by telling her husband about his gambling activities.

[irhact]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Don't hide things from your hundred or loves ones, something as serious as gambling need to be told to your husband so he doesn't get angry when he finds out that you have been gambling with money that could have used for other things in the house. Regardless of it being your money that you're using to gamble and not the family money, you still have to tell him so it doesn't spoil your marriage. Gambling has spoiled alot of families, If you love him tell him on time.

If he finds out he'll think you're hiding other things from him and he'll never see you the same again to trust you so don't hide anything from your husband. If you're scared that he'll ask you to stop gambling, take your history of gambling to him so he can see that you're not just losing money but making some profits while you enjoy yourself and also make him to know that gambling won't interfere between your duties as a wife.

[pawanjain]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I have an alternative solution for you. As you already know the Don'ts of gambling you can start practicing it and control your gambling habits.
Once you have done that and are fully in control of your gambling habits then casually gamble in front of your husband.
He will ask you about it and then you can say him you were gambling casually and then you will know how to proceed based on the reaction of your husband.
If he says to stop then you will find it easier to stop since you are in control of your habits.

[gabbie2010]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I think it better you tell than letting him know your gambling activities by himself of course as a responsible wife after informing him you should let him know that you had a total control of your gambling activities and assure him that your gambling activities wouldn't affect the family financially for instance your husband might suspect that  part of the money meant for buying of stuffs is being diverted to gambling and be transparent from every deals involving both of you moreso you shouldn't let your kids knew that you are involved in gambling activities lastly you should try as much as possible to control your emotion in case of losses by avoiding transfer of aggression to your husband or kid/s.

[Gheka]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Don't hide things from your hundred or loves ones, something as serious as gambling need to be told to your husband so he doesn't get angry when he finds out that you have been gambling with money that could have used for other things in the house. Regardless of it being your money that you're using to gamble and not the family money, you still have to tell him so it doesn't spoil your marriage. Gambling has spoiled alot of families, If you love him tell him on time.

If he finds out he'll think you're hiding other things from him and he'll never see you the same again to trust you so don't hide anything from your husband. If you're scared that he'll ask you to stop gambling, take your history of gambling to him so he can see that you're not just losing money but making some profits while you enjoy yourself and also make him to know that gambling won't interfere between your duties as a wife.

In relationships that have progressed to marriage, honesty is also a fundamental part and it builds sustainability, but it is not necessary to reveal all secrets to our partner because the first stage of marriage is just cultivating and observing as well as planting the gardens of the soul, if we trust enough, the door of the soul will automatically open. Living together is always very easy to know each other's secret actions and I think the husband here already knows the problem but as long as it's not at a level worth considering, respecting and waiting for the other person to open up is also a good point.

[MAAManda]

You have to tell your husband about your current situation, apart from being open about your situation, you will also have more control from the external side.

Don't know whether you will become a problem gambler or not in the future, but you will feel guilty someday (if you become a problem gambler), so, try to talk to him and ask him to understand you. I know this isn't easy because I also experienced the same thing some time ago.

Yes, it is one of the pros on which if ever you do find yourself that get addicted then there's your husband would really be able to save you up if you are really that not really tending to stop but it would really be that impossible that your husband wont really be stopping you on the time that he would really be able to know that you are dealing up with gambling not unless if that husband or both of you does have that same interest
on which stopping cant really be possible. I do agree on some points on here that you would really be ending up yourself on being that too secretive into your relationship if you do keep on hiding something from your husband. Dont wait out that things turns out to be worst before you would really be confessing something.

Its true that huge problems would really be coming out if you've been caught on doing something that the other one isnt really that knowledgeable about. There are ones who are really that
that might be that tolerating their wifes activity but it is really that impossible that someone wont be skeptical into this kind of activity on which we do know
that it could bring out some devastation into your finances.

Big problems start from small problems, covering up habits is a small thing, but it will become a big problem someday because gambling in particular (in the case of problem gamblers) will have a negative impact on other aspects. That's why I advise OP to be open with her husband about her current situation, even though there will be cons, OP will find more pros.

[madnessteat]

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

Perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable telling her husband that she's a responsible gambler. But her husband should know about her gambling activities so that there are no secrets between them. We don't know what will happen if her husband doesn't find out about her gambling activities. Perhaps his trust will immediately decrease, and what's worse is that her husband could leave her because he has been dishonest. By telling her secrets about her gambling activities, at least it can let her husband know and perhaps she can stop gambling with her husband's help. Hopefully, she can make the right decision by telling her husband about his gambling activities.

In my opinion, she's not doing anything to make her husband leave her. What does it matter what she spends her free money on - going to cafes with her friends, going to the movies or gambling. She's having fun without inconveniencing her husband. At least I think so. But in fact a lot depends on how her husband treats gambling. It's quite possible that he doesn't tolerate it. Let's hope their marriage doesn't fracture after her confession.

[Natsuu]

Absolutely! Just let your husband know about your interest in gambling and assure him that you're being responsible about it, doing it for fun and not risking too much. Keeping open communication helps in any relationship!

[maydna]

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In my opinion, she's not doing anything to make her husband leave her. What does it matter what she spends her free money on - going to cafes with her friends, going to the movies or gambling. She's having fun without inconveniencing her husband. At least I think so. But in fact a lot depends on how her husband treats gambling. It's quite possible that he doesn't tolerate it. Let's hope their marriage doesn't fracture after her confession.

Yes, perhaps that's okay from the point of view of those of us who don't know what type of husband he is because, after all, there are types of husbands who don't like dishonesty between husband and wife. Indeed, there is no problem if the wife goes to spend her money with her friends or with her husband, but this is gambling, and in some places, it is considered inappropriate to do so even though there are husbands who can accept their wife's gambling. But most husbands probably don't like it if their wives gamble because it's usually their husbands who gamble

Yes, we can only wish their marriage well, especially after she admitted to her husband that she gambled. I think it would be better if she could be honest with her husband about his gambling activities so that later, there would be no misunderstandings between them.

[angrybirdy]

Absolutely! Just let your husband know about your interest in gambling and assure him that you're being responsible about it, doing it for fun and not risking too much. Keeping open communication helps in any relationship!

it's easy to tell the truth particularly to our spouses, especially if you know there is nothing wrong with your actions and as you've said, you are a responsible in your actions and decisions, you can explain it to him properly so that you will understand each other. always remember that having a good communication and comprehension is the key for a healthy relationship.

[Johnyz]

Absolutely! Just let your husband know about your interest in gambling and assure him that you're being responsible about it, doing it for fun and not risking too much. Keeping open communication helps in any relationship!

it's easy to tell the truth particularly to our spouses, especially if you know there is nothing wrong with your actions and as you've said, you are a responsible in your actions and decisions, you can explain it to him properly so that you understand each other. let's always remember that having a good communication and comprehension is the key for a healthy relationship.

It’s always good to be honest with your partner, you just have to do it properly so your husband wont misinterpret your gambling activities. Its better to tell him now because for sure he will still find out, its just a matter of time. Always be responsible, gambling can ruin your family and I’d hope that your husband will understand your sincere explanation and won’t force you to stop gambling because it can be very addicting.

[erep]

Absolutely! Just let your husband know about your interest in gambling and assure him that you're being responsible about it, doing it for fun and not risking too much. Keeping open communication helps in any relationship!

it's easy to tell the truth particularly to our spouses, especially if you know there is nothing wrong with your actions and as you've said, you are a responsible in your actions and decisions, you can explain it to him properly so that you understand each other. let's always remember that having a good communication and comprehension is the key for a healthy relationship.

It’s always good to be honest with your partner, you just have to do it properly so your husband wont misinterpret your gambling activities. Its better to tell him now because for sure he will still find out, its just a matter of time. Always be responsible, gambling can ruin your family and I’d hope that your husband will understand your sincere explanation and won’t force you to stop gambling because it can be very addicting.

You must consider your decision before you gamble, so the interest in starting gambling will not be realized if you decide not to gamble because you are worried that your husband will not accept this fact even though you can gamble with responsibility and strict rules that limit you from gambling, I think different in this case because I would not approve of my wife gambling, she is the financial treasurer in the family and the wife's duty in the household is to be responsible for her family, I cannot imagine what would happen if my wife gambled and was addicted to gambling, she is sure will lose family savings and financial management will collapse due to gambling.