Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[Weawant]

Even if he is going to get angry because of what you will tell him about gambling it won’t change the fact that you still need to tell him, at least he is your husband even if the money that is going to be used for gambling is not going to come from his pocket it’s important to at least let him know of what the wife do with her free time. The feelings no matter how bad it will look it won’t be as bad as when he will have to discover it by him self so better off telling him on time and get it off your mind.

Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

He may not take it lightly when he first gets to know and that's normal because it's definitely going to shock him to know that his wife does such a but then the way you will approach him with it is definitely going to matter and have a lot to do with how he's going to react if you tell him ramosfully and promise to quit if he wants you to or regulate your habit as he wishes, you will see that amicably he's going to discuss it with you and there's definitely not going to be a big deal made out of it.

[Ever-young]

Even if he is going to get angry because of what you will tell him about gambling it won’t change the fact that you still need to tell him, at least he is your husband even if the money that is going to be used for gambling is not going to come from his pocket it’s important to at least let him know of what the wife do with her free time. The feelings no matter how bad it will look it won’t be as bad as when he will have to discover it by him self so better off telling him on time and get it off your mind.

Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

Exactly my point, telling him with her mouth is better than the husband using his hand to discover because if that happens it will be hard for the husband to forgive and secondly their might be a little clash on trust in such marriage which is what no man or woman want in their marital life.

Gambling is not completely bad and the husband will also understand if she cool her self down and give an explanation to the reason she is gambling and she is also in control of her self.

[LUCKMCFLY]

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Well, in a relationship, and even more so when you get married , because there has to be more confidence and better results in your life as a couple, you can't just think about one person what the other can do, you have to think together and make a difference there, that's why every time we decide to be with someone in a serious situation  , we Consider ourselves a couple , Because if we have to tell things, even though many times when we try to have a relationship like that, well It becomes toxic but if there must be a Communication that shows that the Things that are done like this , of Being in a Casino, of being managed within what a casino is, then that must be Communicated , We have to see those things, when it comes to money, then things must be communicated even more, because it is a budget for both, and those things are delicate, as long as there is money involved   , things are like that.

When we are generalizing things to Another level we see that many couples are somewhat toxic in the sense of communication, so they are constantly telling each other Everything , and I don't know, sometimes things can look bad in that way , I don't know I see well.

Couples who do not reach a good consensus of communication either, because obviously it results in divorce, and when there is not much that can be done , they have tried to see things from all sides and have tried to see things from every point of view Seing as it is good, if there is no way to fix things, then whatever is possible, but considering that things in the casino for some people can cause addiction, because it is something that one person needs from the other to overcome it, and If you are addicted, the other person has to take care of it, give immediate Treatment to your partner to get out of it, and that represents an opportunity for things to be handled better when there are problems.

[GxSTxV]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Well, I think it’s just bad to even think not telling him and waiting our thoughts about this matter which relate you both only especially that it’s something not that serious as you described it, you are not an addict, understand how to gamble for fun only. So, In my opinion you should already told him as long as he is okay with gambling too and nothing forbids him from gambling, or it’s the total opposite? If your husband is religious and consider gambling as a sin and something very bad, then I suggest thinking more about a good explanation and how you both can find a solution to this that would serve both of you.

In your place, I have a girlfriend and in my first days I asked what she thinks of gambling, even though she didn’t gamble before, we agreed that we can do it together sometimes for fun. Already had few sport bets together and it was so fun watching the game we have bets on it together. I wish you go through the same and that husband accepts your activity.

[terrific]

Best to hear a perspective of an actual woman than a man that are into this discussions. I can't go and read each of the posts here if they're a woman telling that their husbands to gamble.
Because most of the thoughts that we'd hear is that it's totally fine like men were designed to do these things and there's no problem as long as the husband provides everything.
And if you're the wife that gambles and wanting to expose yourself to your husband that you've been gambling, it's the same with the reasoning that as long as you take care of the house then everything is fine.

[arjunmujay]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Well, I think it’s just bad to even think not telling him and waiting our thoughts about this matter which relate you both only especially that it’s something not that serious as you described it, you are not an addict, understand how to gamble for fun only. So, In my opinion you should already told him as long as he is okay with gambling too and nothing forbids him from gambling, or it’s the total opposite? If your husband is religious and consider gambling as a sin and something very bad, then I suggest thinking more about a good explanation and how you both can find a solution to this that would serve both of you.

In your place, I have a girlfriend and in my first days I asked what she thinks of gambling, even though she didn’t gamble before, we agreed that we can do it together sometimes for fun. Already had few sport bets together and it was so fun watching the game we have bets on it together. I wish you go through the same and that husband accepts your activity.

It's better to tell your husband as soon as possible, because it's only a matter of time before your husband finds out and will be even more disappointed with you as a gambler, especially if you are addicted and spend a lot of money just to gamble.
as @GxSTxV said, by telling about your gambling activities, who knows, your husband will accept it and even be able to play together and have fun gambling. However, if on the contrary, your husband forbids you from gambling, then stop gambling.

[Orpichukwu]

Telling your husband you gamble looks responsible; what does not look responsible is keeping that away from him, because every responsible married lady always has to keep the marriage peaceful by not trying to hide anything from their husband, and the husband will also do the same thing.
 
Your husband might also be a gambler without you even knowing, or he might have told you, but he is not a chronic gambler, which means it doesn't affect his day-to-day life activity or the family's finances. If you can assure him that he doesn't have anything to worry about in terms of control and fund safety, together with not putting gambling first before your family, I don't think he will react harshly.

[Fredomago]

Even if he is going to get angry because of what you will tell him about gambling it won’t change the fact that you still need to tell him, at least he is your husband even if the money that is going to be used for gambling is not going to come from his pocket it’s important to at least let him know of what the wife do with her free time. The feelings no matter how bad it will look it won’t be as bad as when he will have to discover it by him self so better off telling him on time and get it off your mind.

Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

Exactly my point, telling him with her mouth is better than the husband using his hand to discover because if that happens it will be hard for the husband to forgive and secondly their might be a little clash on trust in such marriage which is what no man or woman want in their marital life.

Gambling is not completely bad and the husband will also understand if she cool her self down and give an explanation to the reason she is gambling and she is also in control of her self.

Better than the husband find it out on his own and create doubt with her, telling something in a manner that the husband deserves the truth is creating good relationship between the two, you are already attach to your husband and if you need to tell him something that may create bad things to your marriage better to tell him.

Telling your participation into gambling will also helps to watch you out and not to let you go on deep and get addicted, changes in mood and your actual attitude may allow him to make a good stop and prevent you to keep on playing.

[Slow death]

In my opinion, in marriage there should be no secrets, it is very important that in a marriage people know that they will live on the basis of agreement on both sides, a man cannot decide to spend money to pay bills and take that same money to gamble in some casino, I have read many cases of marriages that ended because the man became addicted to alcohol, addicted to drugs and addicted to gambling. although the casinos of gambling addictions that I have read are very low cases, still the few cases of gambling addictions that I have been able to read have left me very shocked, this is because they are stories with very beautiful beginnings, but with a very sad end. When I started reading that the guy got a good job

then he managed to marry a good woman, he had 2 very beautiful daughters, his life was very beautiful until one day he went into a store where they had a slot machine and played a little and then he started to get very interested in playing even more, then he went to other gamble, he began to play a lot to the point that he lost track of the time he had to go to work, he was always late at work until one day he was fired, at home they no longer had money to pay the bills and his wife She started fighting with him a lot until she got tired and left the house and took her daughters. he lost his wife and children and job and home. These types of stories constantly happen when the husband or wife is addicted.

[Dewi Aries]

Responsibility is not based on whether you tell other people including your husband about your gambling activities or not, because responsibility is something that is within yourself, the point is that I cannot be sure that you are a responsible female gambler even if you tell your husband. And anyway I think there are quite a few husbands who would actually allow their wives to engage in gambling activities, overall gambling has a negative viewpoint in the eyes of society and maybe even in the eyes of your own husband and it is possible that you may not get permission from your husband to engage in this activity.

One of the things that I think will be on your husband's mind is that he is worried that the money he gives you as money to meet the needs of the kitchen turns out to be used for gambling, it cannot be denied and this is a possibility that is quite potentially large to happen, no matter even though you have a good responsibility in gambling by being able to resist all the temptations that exist in gambling, I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea.

[stomachgrowls]

Even if he is going to get angry because of what you will tell him about gambling it won’t change the fact that you still need to tell him, at least he is your husband even if the money that is going to be used for gambling is not going to come from his pocket it’s important to at least let him know of what the wife do with her free time. The feelings no matter how bad it will look it won’t be as bad as when he will have to discover it by him self so better off telling him on time and get it off your mind.

Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

Exactly my point, telling him with her mouth is better than the husband using his hand to discover because if that happens it will be hard for the husband to forgive and secondly their might be a little clash on trust in such marriage which is what no man or woman want in their marital life.

Gambling is not completely bad and the husband will also understand if she cool her self down and give an explanation to the reason she is gambling and she is also in control of her self.

Better than the husband find it out on his own and create doubt with her, telling something in a manner that the husband deserves the truth is creating good relationship between the two, you are already attach to your husband and if you need to tell him something that may create bad things to your marriage better to tell him.

Telling your participation into gambling will also helps to watch you out and not to let you go on deep and get addicted, changes in mood and your actual attitude may allow him to make a good stop and prevent you to keep on playing.

And we do know that there's no secret into this world that could be burried down forever or something that cant be known. Sooner or later those things would be exposed or would be known and once caught then expect
on whats the potential arguements and words would be heard off, specially if you do have those kind of financial related problems on which you would really be having those questions on where those funds go
or your husband would really be having those questions about  your salary or income source on which it is really just supposedly to be applied and make use in families expenses and other payment or bills.
So as a wife that been dealing up with gambling on which even if you would really be saying into yourself that you do have the control or discipline but still it would really be that ideal that you should
really be telling everything into your husband so that you wont really be having those problems on the time you would be caught. Also, having those transparency and open mindedness is one of the
things we do really need to have in a relationship.

[cabron]

Responsibility is not based on whether you tell other people including your husband about your gambling activities or not, because responsibility is something that is within yourself, the point is that I cannot be sure that you are a responsible female gambler even if you tell your husband. And anyway I think there are quite a few husbands who would actually allow their wives to engage in gambling activities, overall gambling has a negative viewpoint in the eyes of society and maybe even in the eyes of your own husband and it is possible that you may not get permission from your husband to engage in this activity.

One of the things that I think will be on your husband's mind is that he is worried that the money he gives you as money to meet the needs of the kitchen turns out to be used for gambling, it cannot be denied and this is a possibility that is quite potentially large to happen, no matter even though you have a good responsibility in gambling by being able to resist all the temptations that exist in gambling, I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea.

For women to have a social life, they will need to gamble and play with their friends. A loving husband I think wouldn't want to see their wife just wake up in the morning, get dressed, and then just sit on their porch watching cars passing by.

They gotta have a social life and not just taking care of their grandkids, they are not going to redo that over again, they are done with that. Some of them just visit their dying batches and friends all over the town, I'm sure it's a very sad situation ffor these old women. I would prefer them to just gamble around with their friends.

[Lanatsa]

Responsibility is not based on whether you tell other people including your husband about your gambling activities or not, because responsibility is something that is within yourself, the point is that I cannot be sure that you are a responsible female gambler even if you tell your husband. And anyway I think there are quite a few husbands who would actually allow their wives to engage in gambling activities, overall gambling has a negative viewpoint in the eyes of society and maybe even in the eyes of your own husband and it is possible that you may not get permission from your husband to engage in this activity.

One of the things that I think will be on your husband's mind is that he is worried that the money he gives you as money to meet the needs of the kitchen turns out to be used for gambling, it cannot be denied and this is a possibility that is quite potentially large to happen, no matter even though you have a good responsibility in gambling by being able to resist all the temptations that exist in gambling, I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea.

For women to have a social life, they will need to gamble and play with their friends. A loving husband I think wouldn't want to see their wife just wake up in the morning, get dressed, and then just sit on their porch watching cars passing by.

They gotta have a social life and not just taking care of their grandkids, they are not going to redo that over again, they are done with that. Some of them just visit their dying batches and friends all over the town, I'm sure it's a very sad situation ffor these old women. I would prefer them to just gamble around with their friends.

So this is really that actually situational on which not all would really be having that kind of treatment towards gambling on which there would really be those husbands that would really be preferring for their wives on involving into something on which it would really be dealing up with some activity but im pretty much sure that most husbands wont really be choosing over gambling as a side activity on which we know that money or financial is the main thing that could really be affected possibly with their families overall budget and finances on which it would be common sense for us to know that its not something ideal for
someone to deal off with. If we do talk about socilization then there are other things on which she could be able to deal with or engaged with and not necessarily that would be pertaining about gambling.

Agree into those sentiments above that it would really be best that you should really be telling your husband while its still early rather than on making yourself that missed out on doing so
or keeping it as a secret forever on which its true that there's no secret that could be hold up forever. Time will come that it would be bust up sooner or later.

[Dewi Aries]

Responsibility is not based on whether you tell other people including your husband about your gambling activities or not, because responsibility is something that is within yourself, the point is that I cannot be sure that you are a responsible female gambler even if you tell your husband. And anyway I think there are quite a few husbands who would actually allow their wives to engage in gambling activities, overall gambling has a negative viewpoint in the eyes of society and maybe even in the eyes of your own husband and it is possible that you may not get permission from your husband to engage in this activity.

One of the things that I think will be on your husband's mind is that he is worried that the money he gives you as money to meet the needs of the kitchen turns out to be used for gambling, it cannot be denied and this is a possibility that is quite potentially large to happen, no matter even though you have a good responsibility in gambling by being able to resist all the temptations that exist in gambling, I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea.

For women to have a social life, they will need to gamble and play with their friends. A loving husband I think wouldn't want to see their wife just wake up in the morning, get dressed, and then just sit on their porch watching cars passing by.

They gotta have a social life and not just taking care of their grandkids, they are not going to redo that over again, they are done with that. Some of them just visit their dying batches and friends all over the town, I'm sure it's a very sad situation ffor these old women. I would prefer them to just gamble around with their friends.

Do you think having a social life is only possible when they gamble? No, they can build social relationships with many people through other mediums and not just in the world of gambling, I understand that by gambling in a physical casino then you will be able to make many new acquaintances because you will meet many visitors who gamble at the same time as you, but if you mean more social relationships then I would say that a wife can improve social relationships with others in other ways such as hanging out with friends once a week on holidays, or exercising every morning with her neighbors in a group or going to one of the entertainment venues.

So you can't say that having an active social life can only be achieved by gambling, in fact this activity has the potential for a much worse situation when one day they have lost their responsibility in gambling activities which means they can end up like other addicts who have already fallen. For me, the saddest thing is when a woman who has full responsibility as a housewife ends up with an addict, because this can lead to arguments with her husband due to the excessive allocation of money to her gambling activities which makes them have problems making ends meet.

[retreat]

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Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

He may not take it lightly when he first gets to know and that's normal because it's definitely going to shock him to know that his wife does such a but then the way you will approach him with it is definitely going to matter and have a lot to do with how he's going to react if you tell him ramosfully and promise to quit if he wants you to or regulate your habit as he wishes, you will see that amicably he's going to discuss it with you and there's definitely not going to be a big deal made out of it.

Something that is covered up will sooner or later find its way to the open. So before that happens, it's a good idea for her to tell her husband about this, even though this will make her husband angry or disappointed with her, but that doesn't matter, rather than later her husband finding out himself and being even more disappointed with what his own wife did.
There have been many cases of marital breakdown due to gambling, as a result of the wife/husband not wanting to be transparent with their partner and instead ignoring the matter. So instead of making the problem worse, telling your partner about your gambling activities is the best thing.

[JahriMeayer]

After analysing your points, it sounds you are responsible at gambling. If a person can have control over him, can manage funds as well as emotion and always keep himself in discipline then its okey. So its good to go if you wanna continue. Now you wanna tell your husband about your gambling, right? As I don't know how he thinks about gambling, so it could be difficult to advise cause many people in our society doesn't have good impression regarding gambling. they think, gamblers are irresponsible & consider gambling as offense. So first try to have an idea about his mentality then try to tell him with better explanation cause he is your partner & he deserves to know about your activities. Otherwise his impression could be difficult when he found you gambling.

[Marvelockg]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

so first off, you know your husband better than any one else and you are obviously in the best position to tell what his reaction will look like if he finds out you're into gambling. I know quite a handful of ladies that gambles and it doesn't even show in their life and the way they go about doing things. As long as you know you can manage your emotion and wouldn't allow it comes to the stage where you will start to mismanage the resources that's in your desposition for house hold management, then it doesn't make a difference if you gamble or not. But the only issue that's worth taking into account is that if you have children that are quite young, you might need to ensure you don't expose them to gambling at an early age so it doesnt affect them negatively so you would want to ensure you've fixed that right before getting started.

[Nwada001]

After analysing your points, it sounds you are responsible at gambling. If a person can have control over him, can manage funds as well as emotion and always keep himself in discipline then its okey. So its good to go if you wanna continue. Now you wanna tell your husband about your gambling, right? As I don't know how he thinks about gambling, so it could be difficult to advise cause many people in our society doesn't have good impression regarding gambling. they think, gamblers are irresponsible & consider gambling as offense. So first try to have an idea about his mentality then try to tell him with better explanation cause he is your partner & he deserves to know about your activities. Otherwise his impression could be difficult when he found you gambling.

Even when the person doesn't know how the husband will react to the whole issue, it's better, as she brought up the discussion here, and most of the advice that was given to her was to tell her husband.
 
It's better she tell him first than for the husband to find out by himself that one will be a total different case, so the only thing that she will do if she has not done it is to mind the approach that she will use in telling the husband in other words not to make the case look somehow, and as I have seen, the Op is a very reasonable lady who knows her way around and is also in control of her gambling activities.

[UchihaSarada]

What you said shows that you have been involved in gambling for a long time before you can practice such principles. It's not easy, especially for a woman like you. But I am wondering  that you have been involved in gambling for so long and your husband still doesn't find out?

Your gambling now may be your personal hobby, but we won't know for sure if this hobby will have any impact on your family's finances in the future, right? Therefore, it is necessary for you to let your husband know about your gambling.
Share honestly and I believe he will understand and may even be happy that you were able to participate in gambling in such a disciplined way. Who knows, maybe you and he can participate in gambling together.

[hyudien]

After analysing your points, it sounds you are responsible at gambling. If a person can have control over him, can manage funds as well as emotion and always keep himself in discipline then its okey. So its good to go if you wanna continue. Now you wanna tell your husband about your gambling, right? As I don't know how he thinks about gambling, so it could be difficult to advise cause many people in our society doesn't have good impression regarding gambling. they think, gamblers are irresponsible & consider gambling as offense. So first try to have an idea about his mentality then try to tell him with better explanation cause he is your partner & he deserves to know about your activities. Otherwise his impression could be difficult when he found you gambling.

That makes sense, indeed if you can control yourself, including what you said, by being able to manage your finances and emotions, maybe it will be fine. But all of that can change at any time quickly, because gambling can usually influence our thinking to become messy and tends to lead our thinking to take big risky actions, such as accepting a bad defeat, of course this can trigger emotions and can make everything happen. so messy.
yes, I agree with you, it is true that most people have different views on gambling, even though we gamble responsibly, such as being able to manage our finances well and controlling our emotions too, there are still those who have a less favorable view of gambling. it will comment negatively, including the winnings obtained at gambling, maybe it will also be viewed negatively.