Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[Dewi Aries]

and when it comes to marriage, we should all inform them especially if there is money involved because it can even start or cause a fight and misunderstanding, maybe in the end it will even be reprimanded. Others say that our partners don't need to know all the moves, but for me, when you enter the world of marriage, what you have will automatically become his too, so they should really know everything and if you have respect your partner, you won't keep secrets because at the end of the day, you two will be on your side and will help each other especially if there is a problem.

To me it depends, while being honest in your marriage is key, at the same time you do not really need to tell your partner everything you do if it is not that significant, so assuming a person is earning thousands of dollars per month and they gamble a few bucks each week, that is not enough for me to raise some kind of alarm for being dishonest or anything, as each person within the marriage should have some freedom to spend some money in whatever they want, and only once the amount of money you spend reaches a certain point, then you must tell your significant other about what you are doing.

Of course honesty or openness is the key to harmony in a relationship and I understand that there may be some things that do not need to be told to your partner, but this is gambling buddy which involves money and also involves the risk of losing money, and you also said it above that a partner is advised to tell about his habit if it is significant and is not the possibility of losing a large amount of money an undesirable thing? And wouldn't that be a significant event? Of course, so what we have to look at here is the context of the habit which is gambling which over time can increase a person's interest in gambling and of course the consequence is destroying the financial balance.

So maybe there are two things that can trigger problems here, first your partner might scold you for not being open with them and the second is experiencing financial problems when gambling has become a priority for you which is possible over time for someone to experience an increased interest in gambling, on the other hand even though for example the amount allocated is not too large, it is possible that one day they try to put a larger amount and the impact can disrupt family finances.

[entertheabyss]

Everyone of us have responsibility in the system. Telling your husband that you engaged in gambling activities as a woman have automatically ruined the plans for the possible future with the husband. Almost 90% of men in the world don't give room of feel happy to watch or acknowledge their wives gambling because they're suppose to be their companion and supporting wife, caring for the children and taking good care of the household, ensuring to execute the budgets for the family and everything will change because the wife does gamble.

[Zlantann]

That is very true what you say, whenever a relationship or anything else that involves two people, if it is based on lies, then things will never work well, because a person who is used to cheating or something like that, it is difficult for another person to do it. will take it in a good way, no one likes to be deceived, sometimes we as human beings are used to the hypocrisy of hearing what we want to hear and that is full of the world, even in the forum, only those who are authentic and say what What is or the truth because others consider him rebellious or irreverent, but since he is who he is, he is not afraid of anything, so this is what we must see, in a relationship whether we like or not the tastes of the other person, the couple. You must agree with what they do, with what they feel, otherwise everything will be a deception, there can be no deception, especially when it comes to money.

There is no need to hide your behavior from your partner. Any behavior you think will not be condoled by your spouse should be stopped, this is the price we should pay to sustain our marriage. I don't wish to marry a gambler but if she is a responsible gambler and she is compatible with me, I wouldn't mind spending my life with her. But we have to do everything possible to shield our children from learning before the gambling age. My concern is that our family might raise gamblers if we are not careful. However, if she hides her gambling activities from me because she wants to pretend, this will not go down well with me because she just wants to deceive me. Notwithstanding it is important to acknowledge that some cultures frown at women gambling and this is the case in mine location. This means we would also have to keep the gambling activity secret from neighbors, friends, and families.

[madnessteat]

Everyone of us have responsibility in the system. Telling your husband that you engaged in gambling activities as a woman have automatically ruined the plans for the possible future with the husband. Almost 90% of men in the world don't give room of feel happy to watch or acknowledge their wives gambling because they're suppose to be their companion and supporting wife, caring for the children and taking good care of the household, ensuring to execute the budgets for the family and everything will change because the wife does gamble.

Where do you come up with such notions? We have long lived in a world where women have all the same rights as men. So why do you think a woman can't gamble?

SmartGold01 in her initial post clearly explained that she has no gambling addiction and has full control over her gambling expenses. I assume she can combine her family responsibilities and gambling.

Do you think it would be better if her husband accidentally finds out that she likes to gamble? In my opinion this option is more likely to lead to divorce.

[LUCKMCFLY]

There is no need to hide your behavior from your partner. Any behavior you think will not be condoled by your spouse should be stopped, this is the price we should pay to sustain our marriage. I don't wish to marry a gambler but if she is a responsible gambler and she is compatible with me, I wouldn't mind spending my life with her. But we have to do everything possible to shield our children from learning before the gambling age. My concern is that our family might raise gamblers if we are not careful. However, if she hides her gambling activities from me because she wants to pretend, this will not go down well with me because she just wants to deceive me. Notwithstanding it is important to acknowledge that some cultures frown at women gambling and this is the case in mine location. This means we would also have to keep the gambling activity secret from neighbors, friends, and families.

Well, in case you are in a country that, due to their religion or something, they are prohibited from playing, then that is very understandable, although I see that as something that does not have much to do with anything bad, but each religion has its beliefs. and that is respected, however when you have a partner you can give yourself some freedoms, but everything changes when you have children and a family, things change a lot because that is something else, in fact you forget about yourself to be able to give them everything, so I think that the sense of responsibility changes much more with them, well that's what happened to me, one no longer thinks so much about one's own benefit because if one sees that one's children are well and one goes to second place, those who prioritize themselves themselves first before their children, they should not complain when their children grow up because they do not have that affection, that love towards their parents.

[Shamm]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

In my own it's good to you and your family once you will tell them especially your husband  that you are involved in gambling and secretly you are playing some games. Once you already said that on your husband then one thing for sure it will shock but afterwards you and your husband talk about gambling and if he gonna tell you that it's okay to gamble then thats a good one but if not I don't think so. Cause it will matters how you involve in gambling and if they found out that you are too long involve in gambling that your husband will got angry for sure.