Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[SmartGold01]

But always gamble responsibly. Just 1% to 5% of your income is enough and it should not be more than that amount.

This is what i have decided since I started involving myself thus, wouldn't want to go above that specific amount you made mention because there is a reason for that since I also contributes to family I wouldn't want what would affect our living. Despite my involvement I still do my parts as wife and nothing much then will have to pass to my husband very soon as you all suggested, though i am gradually reading all comments contributions here.

[bitzizzix]

If you tell your husband or partner about your gambling activities, you must accept the consequences if your husband gets angry or forbids it. And you have to obey his wishes, because a wife has to obey what her husband says, especially if it is for the good.
And it's a bit strange for me if your husband doesn't know about your gambling activities because husband and wife will always be together, especially at home. And how stupid would your husband be if he didn't know about your gambling activities and also didn't pay close attention to you so that your husband didn't know about it or even suspected it.
And once you tell him about your gambling activities, and your husband doesn't get angry and let it happen, then you're in luck.

[bakasabo]

And it's a bit strange for me if your husband doesn't know about your gambling activities because husband and wife will always be together, especially at home. And how stupid your husband would be if he didn't know about your gambling activities and also didn't pay enough attention to you to know about them.
And after you tell him about your gambling activities, and your husband doesn't get angry and let it happen, then you are lucky.

True. Either there is a huge harmony in the family, or there is completely none of it and each partner does not bother what other does, thinks, feels. It will be irresponsible secretly gambling, that telling or not doing it. The truth always comes out, no matter if it is sweet or bitter.

Question to SmartGold01 - why did not you tell your husband about gambling at first place? But rather searched for answers and comments on the forum? Answer to this is the answer to your question about telling or not telling about your gambling activities to your husband.

[Apocollapse]

So a married person can still able to hide something from his/her spouse, now I wonder what did you hide from him aside from gambling? how many times you cheated your husband?

I thought married people will try to being transparent with their spouses since you're live with them everyday, sooner or later they will finds out, as we know it's the best to being honest than someone caught you.

[Cantsay]

For me I would advise that you tell him everything, personally I wouldn’t want my wife to keep secret like this from me – I might be upset if I finally get to know about it myself.

But make sure you let him understand that you gambling was necessary for your Bitcointalk activities, so that you can get to know about what it is that you’re promoting and since you have already started that you can control yourself and not a compulsive gambler then everything should go smoothly unless he’s the type who doesn’t tolerate things like gambling or one that his doctrines are against, but I believe as husband and wife you should be able to figure it out.

Just remember, the sooner you tell him the better for you.

[Sim_card]

OP, you need to be open to your husband and there should be nothing to hide because if he finds out by himself, he will get mad at you for keeping your gambling activities secrete, and this might somehow affect your marriage. You should know the best time to tell him, when he is in a happy mood, I think that will be the best time to tell him, and when telling him make him know that you are doing it because you need little experience in the gambling field. Also tell him that it is temporary and after some time, you will quit. Gamble occasionally since you are a woman and don't let it get into your head. Whatever the outcome of your discussion will be just calm down and take things step by step.

[Kelvinid]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

The worst thing that happens in a relationship is if someone a husband or wife keeps a secret. This is a wrong idea because if I were your partner, I would be totally angry.

Keeping secrets should not be done once we already have family especially when it talks about finances, and that much more about gambling.
To be considered a responsible wife, you must not gamble unless your husband approves it. In fact, we've heard that a couple separated because of gambling, and I was afraid this might happen to you if you don't tell.

[Marvelman]

I agree with most here.  For how long can you keep this up? As his wife, you know you should be open with him about what you're doing, especially something as risky as gambling.  Even if you don't think you're addicted or anything, but I worry that if you keep gambling in secret you could end up losing more money than you can afford. 

Before this gets out of hand, you need to come clean.  It's the right thing to do and  you owe him the truth.  I hope he'll understand and you can deal with that together.  Even though it may be difficult, I think openness and honesty are important in a marriage.

[Wexnident]

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Tell him, I don't think it's a big issue really. It's nothing special imo so I don't particularly see any big reason to hide it as well. Your husband also works as a sort of stopper for you in case you suddenly spiral down into gambling too much since having someone who knows that close to you can keep you in check. If an argument ensues then don't run away from it. You married each other so I reckon arguments are something you guys are supposed to tackle, not run away from anyway and I reckon discussing about habits, both good and bad, are a part of that.

[angrybirdy]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Since both of you are married, I think He has the right to know this thing especially that this activity involves money. For me, it would be better if your husband knows that you gamble, so that at least he has an idea of ​​what you are doing. Also, he can help you when unexpected events occur due to gambling. it's good for him to know especially since you mentioned the thing that you don't do even if you participate in gambling, you just have to explain it to him properly and mention that you are a responsible gambler. You know? it feels easier when you don't hide anything from your husband.

[_act_]

Two people married to be one. Even as their may be some things that you may keep from each other, gambling should not be there. But the best is for you to not keep anything away from each other. Just tell him if you are not comfortable not telling him. But make sure you are using just little amount for it, do not gamble too much and do not let gambling take your time. If you gamble in the appropriate way, there should not be a problem.

[Ultegra134]

For me, women shouldn't be involved in gambling no matter how conscious you're in maintaining a good gambling habit but it's not really a good idea for a woman to be involved in gambling or gambling related activities due to some certain reasons because if a woman gets involved in gambling, her duties as a wife will begin to fade because she might not be too focused on her family again.

Sometimes, in her quiet times she will start reminiscing about the games that she gambles with and it will distract her from her normal daily duties as a wife. Even if she tells her husband about her gambling habits and her husband sees reasons with her and possibly gives her advice and clues on how to go about her gambling habit but me I can't encourage a wife to be involved in gambling though if it's a woman that's not married that one is quite different because she has time to herself unlike married ones.

The heck are you on about? Where do you live? Under a rock? Are you one of those men who feels like women are subject to wife duties such as cleaning, cooking, etc. while you're allowed to gamble and sit on the couch doing nothing to contribute to the house you're also living in? What kind of nonsense is this, and how can you have such a foul way of thinking in 2024?

@SmartGold01, You're asking; thus, it's something that has been bothering you. If so, then you should go ahead and be honest about it. Personally, I wouldn't like to find out one day by myself because you forgot a casino website was open or whatever. Plus, if you're honest about it, you wouldn't have to worry about doing it in secret anymore.

[danherbias07]

Revenge. Never do this brother.
Why can I say that? Because I've been there. It doesn't end well so I am passing the torch to you. There are times when we think that gambling sites will give back what we have lost, but the better idea would be to forget about it. They won't give back, it's a fucking bad joke. It would be better to start all over again than expecting something that would not come.

About responsible gambling, as long as you are not hurting the budget for the family then I think it's okay. Some would say it's still not right, but for me, that's the only possible way to control yourself.
We will always be on the path to try and take back what is taken from us so chasing losses will be a norm. But if you could possibly control that bad emotion and play in a professional way, then I think you will be okay. There's a limit for everything and I do believe the limit in gambling is if you feel like you are losing and cannot afford another bet, don't force it. Gambling sites will always be there waiting for us but our budget could sometimes not cover it anymore so it's better to just get out and try again next time.

[hyudien]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

In my opinion, you should tell your husband because he is the head of your family who has the right to know what his wife is doing. Moreover, this is about trust in the family, don't hide your gambling activities which will result in a lack of openness in the family. As a husband, I would forbid my wife from getting involved in gambling because her job at home is to be a good mother and take care of the children. What I mean here is that some family rules vary from place to place, so if that happened to my wife, it would give her some kind of reprimand because she was hiding her gambling activities outside of my knowledge as her husband. And to be honest, I strictly forbid it.

Don't feel as if you have control over your gambling emotions because the situation is temporary. You've only started gambling for just a few weeks and feel able to control all the risks and consequences? Be open with your husband even if it's a little bitter, but once again if you continue to hide it, that's not a good choice either.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

In my opinion, in as much as you are not a compulsive gambler and you have not yet lost your mind to gambling, then you don't have any problem with your choice to gamble. If peradventure you started noticing some reckless symptoms of gambling addiction in yourself, then there is a need to talk to your husband about it but where there is no such for now, you are safe and you are enjoying the fun of gambling and also making some money.

Few days ago, there was a thread I came across, Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling?, the image in that thread was what baffled me because it looks like the woman has lost more that she expected.

@Smartgold01, if you finally tell your husband That you are now a gambler, how do you think he will react? And if perhaps he ask you to stop gambling there after, will you obay him?  

Like I said before, as long as you are gambling responsibly and you are not gambling off the money that is not supposed to be used for gambling, then you are safe.

[alastantiger]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Are you gambling with the funds meant for family upkeep? Is your gambling habits preventing you from fulfilling your duty as a wife to your husband? How about your kids and extended members of your family. If you are using one percent of your income for gambling and your are doing everything responsibly, then yo do not need to tell your husband about it. If you have had enough of your gambling and want to quit, then do so quietly. If he doesn't ask you, then do not tell him so that the relative peace and mutual respect which I want to believe you are enjoying in your home will still continue.

[Fiatless]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Firstly, I think you should be open to your husband. In marriage, both parties should always know about the financial and other activities of their spouse because it promotes trust and understanding. So I suggest your husband should know about your gambling activities. Another issue is your husband's view about gambling. Have you ever discussed anything about gambling with him and what was his reaction? If he is comfortable with gambling then you might have a soft landing but if he is against it, you have to be ready for his reactions.

The fact is that I would not want my wife to be engaged in gambling because it is not in line with our cultural and religious beliefs. I think the mother should focus on raising children rather than gambling. My wife could analyse games and come up with predictions but I will not want her to be an active gambler. Even if she is a responsible gambler, I will still prefer to be the gambler and let her focus on other activities. In summary, If you think he has a negative view about gambling, you might consider discussing it with him or consider quitting. But if he has a positive view about gambling, I don't think he would stop you from gambling.         

[bluebit25]

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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

IMO, you should share the issues that are on your mind with your husband. I don't see anything that would make your husband object to you gambling seriously. And even if your husband has a negative attitude towards gambling, explain your point of view clearly. I think in a marital relationship there should not be any secrets, sharing to understand and accept each other. But remember your attitude and responsibility towards gambling, as you said. To be honest with gambling, there will be situations where you can lose control, but don't let things go too far and make mistakes make you regret.

[carlfebz2]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

We should really put up into your minds that there's no secrets that could be hidden or would really be kept forever on which if you are really that been bothered on everyday that he might caught you
then it would really be better that you should really be telling him, but of course you should really expect that there would really be those main questions would be asked. It would really be that impossible that your husband wont really be talking about financial spending on where you do get it? Even if you would really be telling yourself that you are on having that good control but it
is impossible that it wont really be raising up those questions that your husband would be mainly thinking.

This is why it would really be always best that you should really be telling him about it or else then it would really be that resulting into huge quarrel because
it would really be that impossible that you wont really be that having those questions or interrogations about gambling thing on which we do know
that this is something that would be a lasting kind of discussions and questions asked.

[robelneo]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You're the wife you are in a better position to answer this, I know you already know the answer to your question and you just want to validate your answer, follow your hunch, on running a family wife's decision is always correct, and besides honesty is the best policy more so inside our home.
Ask yourself what if your husband found out in an unexpected way or from other people, so respect your husband and your family and do the right thing.
You can't go wrong if you follow your hunch and be honest about what you feel you should do.