Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[bitbollo]

What If your husband was not talking about the same?!
Well, if you are not wasting money or hiding a big win personally I find it absolutely normal to have hobbies and passions that we don't share with those who live next to us.
I don't see anything wrong with even talking about this passion... I think this Is just a personal choice and no more.

[uneng]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

As I understand the concept of marriage and mutual trust which it involves, I think there shouldn't be secrets between husband and wife, especially regards activities they are practing in their routines. I think you would be bothered if your husband was doing something in secret and you didn't know... So the same is valid for him regards you. "Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you"*. Treat them as you wished to be treated. Think about it and you will reach the answer you are looking for. It's already inside you. Just need to find it now.

*Confucius

[goldkingcoiner]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I think you have done your research and prepared yourself for any and all pitfalls. Most people are not as careful when they go into gambling. You show responsibility and a logical mind. I think that there is no harm in letting your husband know about your gambling, although he might still be against it, he will see that you are not just throwing money around without a plan.

You could make a spreadsheet of your losses and wins so you have data to back up your claims of responsible gambling. If you do gambling right, then your losses should only be considered peanuts. 

[Blitzboy]

I can relate to your precarious balance between personal and marital interests. You've done well to learn about safe gambling. Healthy gambling involves not chasing losses, gambling for fun, and minimizing financial risk.

Secrecy is key to your circumstance. I value honesty in relationships, especially in difficult topics like gambling. Not just gambling, but trust and openness in your relationship. Sharing this with your partner may soothe your guilt and spark a conversation about shared hobbies and interests.

Review your relationship dynamics las Every couple communicates and sets boundaries differently. If your husband is accommodating, he may appreciate your honesty and support your passion as long as it is pleasurable and not financially or emotionally draining. Its complicated, but its about balancing personal interests with relationship health and openness.

[usekevin]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct

The revenge gambling was the biggest mistake doing by the gamblers,because they can’t accept the loss in the gambling site.The reason was they used the real money in the gambling,this also leads to the biggest loss in the gambling site.If the gamblers accept the loss and move on means it will be far better one.Only few gamblers recover the loss in the gambling site,Since it based on the luck.The gamblers who loss try to recover the loss by managing the next profit in the gambling site.The game based on the luck and the tactics,So we don’t know the result of the game 100 percentage favour us.

• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

The second mistake made by the gamblers,actually most of the gambler is get the all in to the gambling site.Their was the might in the gambling,if we use more money.It’s possible to recover the most of the loss,but with my experience it’s not true.The gamblers use hundred percent of the income to the gambling site and worry at the end.The gambling will give us entertaining,but rich using gambling site was not sure thing.

[target]

People value honesty so yes it should be responsible of you to tell something about it as long as you are also responsible for the money you spend gambling.

It's just you who knows how your husband may react to this and if you think he will protest in how you spend your money then I guess this is a big discussion for both of you. Its a personal choice and it depends on how you see your husband.

[Dewi Aries]

After I saw your list of precautions to minimize something unwanted happening, it seems like it doesn't matter if you don't tell your husband, because looking at the list you showed, all of that will really keep you safe and comfortable. and can make you a responsible gambler. But on the other hand, you must maintain the understanding that gambling is a high-risk activity, the percentage of wins is much smaller than losses, and every gambler will always find many things that look tempting there, so it is not uncommon in such conditions to change their mindset and beliefs. and ultimately makes them gamblers who expect to win.

Therefore, you must remain  firm in self-control, correct understanding and also maintain good awareness, and if at any time you feel that there is a change in your gambling approach, for example, such as starting to be a little excessive, then I think at that time you you have to tell your husband.

[vs2014]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

[MAAManda]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You have to tell your husband about your current situation, apart from being open about your situation, you will also have more control from the external side.

Don't know whether you will become a problem gambler or not in the future, but you will feel guilty someday (if you become a problem gambler), so, try to talk to him and ask him to understand you. I know this isn't easy because I also experienced the same thing some time ago.

[Onyeeze]

In a situation like this, what I will encourage you now to do is to make sure that you have not inform and let him find out by itself and with this when it ask you will explain to him, because I know that since it's your husband he will surely find out because one day you may win a big amount of money and that money you can't not be spending it in secret, so if you wish to tell him you can tell him but don't give him a full gist of how long you being playing gambling because if you do it will be angry with you, only the thing you can tell him to win his soul and it will support to continue gambling is when you have win gambling and you show him what you win in gambling with the cash.

[stomachgrowls]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You have to tell your husband about your current situation, apart from being open about your situation, you will also have more control from the external side.

Don't know whether you will become a problem gambler or not in the future, but you will feel guilty someday (if you become a problem gambler), so, try to talk to him and ask him to understand you. I know this isn't easy because I also experienced the same thing some time ago.

Yes, it is one of the pros on which if ever you do find yourself that get addicted then there's your husband would really be able to save you up if you are really that not really tending to stop but it would really be that impossible that your husband wont really be stopping you on the time that he would really be able to know that you are dealing up with gambling not unless if that husband or both of you does have that same interest
on which stopping cant really be possible. I do agree on some points on here that you would really be ending up yourself on being that too secretive into your relationship if you do keep on hiding something from your husband. Dont wait out that things turns out to be worst before you would really be confessing something.

Its true that huge problems would really be coming out if you've been caught on doing something that the other one isnt really that knowledgeable about. There are ones who are really that
that might be that tolerating their wifes activity but it is really that impossible that someone wont be skeptical into this kind of activity on which we do know
that it could bring out some devastation into your finances.

[Oasisman]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

The fact that you are a married woman, it is your responsibility to let your husband know what you're up to and how do you manage your finances inside and outside of the household. In fact, you both need to be honest with each other. I think your husband would be totally fine with it as long as you are able to control your finances when it comes to gambling and other expenditures.
Afterall, gambling is a form of an entertainment. As a man, I wouldn't hold back my wife if she loves to gamble, but the again as long as she can manage to control her finances I wouldn't interfere.
Don't wait for it till your husband find outs about it, he might get mad that could spark an argument. There will be a possibility that he won't let you gamble anymore.

[Miles2006]

I will advice you inform your husband and if he doesn't support with your idea of gambling then you should stop to avoid stress, I don't know if you feel comfortable keeping it a secret, this question you asked although people will make different comment but the decision is yours to make and I believe you will make the right decision.
This kind of issue depends on your marriage and if the communication between you and your husband seems strong then you might end up telling him unknowingly to you, this is quite strange cause it's very rare seeing women gamble cause they can't control their emotions and might end up stopping the process but seeing this seems encouraging.

[Mr.suevie]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I don't know how strong your relationship is with your husband and how the house affairs are being and by this I mean the things you both like but I believe honesty is one way to go in order to set a strong relationship between a man and a woman. I have an Aunt who also gambles and she even calls me sometimes to actually send her games to play and her husband is fully aware of it and they all take it as fun and whenever you go visit them, you would see the two talking about games but they just do it for fun as they hardly play but at first I actually thought the whole thing was wrong but to some extent I really see that parties are okay and that's the best thing so I think concealing such habit isn't healthy at all in a relationship.

[Odusko]

First, if your husband is in this forum or on any other discussion forum, he should be aware of what gambling is and how it affects and at the same time the strength of women in gambling,  this is very vital to the point that some husband already knows that women are stronger and much more effective in risk-taking than men and at that, they will allow the wife to gamble as long as she has fun and also not becoming overly involved in gambling,  so your husband will practically understand with you.
The risk will be more if you don't tell him at all and he gets to know about it in the long run, this has been the most propelling case that we have had for quite a while now as regards to how men feel with their wives gambling,  mostly online gambling.

[suzanne5223]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Glad you already know what to do and avoid in gambling but I hope you understand that these things are easy to say and difficult to follow when gambling. It's just like a newbie who's started trading with a demo account balance and her trading is profitable but when she tries real trading she understands everything is totally different.
Having said that, i believe you know your husband more than every one of us here and you ought to his level of understanding and maturity, the things he likes and dislikes. All these things will give you a hint if you can tell him about your involvement in gambling.

[Nwada001]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Yes, it's worth telling him. No matter the level of self-control that you have over your gambling habit, and you know you are going to go off limit, it's still going to be a good thing that you let him know of your involvement in gambling.

This is because it's better you tell yourself than for him to find out himself, and it will be as if you have been hiding something that was not supposed to be hidden from him in the first place, which might make it seem as if you have other hidden motivation that you are yet to talk about.
 
Providing you are gambling with your own personal money and you don't allow your gambling activities to affect your financial habits I don't think there is going to be any negative reaction from him. If you can assure him you won't get distracted from taking care of your family and performing your wifely duties, then you don't have anything to worry about.

[Oilacris]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Glad you already know what to do and avoid in gambling but I hope you understand that these things are easy to say and difficult to follow when gambling. It's just like a newbie who's started trading with a demo account balance and her trading is profitable but when she tries real trading she understands everything is totally different.
Having said that, i believe you know your husband more than every one of us here and you ought to his level of understanding and maturity, the things he likes and dislikes. All these things will give you a hint if you can tell him about your involvement in gambling.

Getting responsible in gambling venture is hard because not all would really be successful when it comes to this and this is why it is really that good that shes really that having the control and having awareness on the actions that she's making.It is really just that shes in torn in neither telling or not on what she's been into into his husband on which just like on what most people been saying on here
that it is really just that right that she would be telling the things that shes really that into. It would be always best on having a relation which it doesnt really have that kind of secrets
and having those kind of hiding on something on which it is really just that less stressful that you are really that hiding something from your loved ones.
Its not something a healthy i should say for long time.

[Gozie51]

• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

You have listed all the things to avoid in gambling ideally and I'm not surprised that this is also coming, many gamblers say they don't want to enrich themselves with gambling and they want to do right all the things to do for them to be a profitable gambler  Like you want to restart your gambling and having fun not profit lol.

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Well if you want disclose to your husband, I don't see that as a problem especially if you have been making very good profit and not wasting his money on gambling. If you tell him that and he has been complaining you are extravagant he will trace it to your gambling losses immediately and you know that will not be funny. My conclusion is if you have been profiting then it is okay but if not then no need, you only manage yourself until you decide to stop. Don't tell a man you have been gambling with money meant for the family and losing it.

[kro55]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You should let him know about your activities so that you can see his reaction if he can understand on what you are doing or not. If he find it disturbing since he doesn't want to get involve with this activity and find it as bad hobby to take then respect his decision then decide if its really worth to continue or just follow your husbands like if he advice you to quit doing this activities.

But if he support you and tell that you are fine then make sure you don't gamble to much then always try to follow his advices so that their will be no trouble created since if you insist and not follow certain things he want you to do or avoid then it can start a conflict that you might regret later on. So come tell him since its really worth to discuss this matter and make sure he's in good condition telling this since timing is also important so he will not get surprised about what you are trying to tell to him.

A wife who helps her husband to gamble never seems responsible to me, it can be happening only in dream, lol. It must be accepted that gambling brings a lot of money at a certain time, it does not mean that gambling should be made a career, right? Gambling instills greed in people, degenerates morals if he fail to keep control. You know, there are also examples of people who lose every penny and come on the road after losing money in gambling. In addition, many commit serious crimes to collect gambling money.

I just said the possible reason why any wife wants to prevent her husband from gambling, this is fear, they are fearing her husband will end up becoming greedy. If she does not prevent her husband from gambling and does not try her best to attract him on herself to find relaxation but rather encourages him gambling then she is really a dream wife, lol. I need one of this type ..