Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[Dewi Aries]

and when it comes to marriage, we should all inform them especially if there is money involved because it can even start or cause a fight and misunderstanding, maybe in the end it will even be reprimanded. Others say that our partners don't need to know all the moves, but for me, when you enter the world of marriage, what you have will automatically become his too, so they should really know everything and if you have respect your partner, you won't keep secrets because at the end of the day, you two will be on your side and will help each other especially if there is a problem.

To me it depends, while being honest in your marriage is key, at the same time you do not really need to tell your partner everything you do if it is not that significant, so assuming a person is earning thousands of dollars per month and they gamble a few bucks each week, that is not enough for me to raise some kind of alarm for being dishonest or anything, as each person within the marriage should have some freedom to spend some money in whatever they want, and only once the amount of money you spend reaches a certain point, then you must tell your significant other about what you are doing.

Of course honesty or openness is the key to harmony in a relationship and I understand that there may be some things that do not need to be told to your partner, but this is gambling buddy which involves money and also involves the risk of losing money, and you also said it above that a partner is advised to tell about his habit if it is significant and is not the possibility of losing a large amount of money an undesirable thing? And wouldn't that be a significant event? Of course, so what we have to look at here is the context of the habit which is gambling which over time can increase a person's interest in gambling and of course the consequence is destroying the financial balance.

So maybe there are two things that can trigger problems here, first your partner might scold you for not being open with them and the second is experiencing financial problems when gambling has become a priority for you which is possible over time for someone to experience an increased interest in gambling, on the other hand even though for example the amount allocated is not too large, it is possible that one day they try to put a larger amount and the impact can disrupt family finances.

[entertheabyss]

Everyone of us have responsibility in the system. Telling your husband that you engaged in gambling activities as a woman have automatically ruined the plans for the possible future with the husband. Almost 90% of men in the world don't give room of feel happy to watch or acknowledge their wives gambling because they're suppose to be their companion and supporting wife, caring for the children and taking good care of the household, ensuring to execute the budgets for the family and everything will change because the wife does gamble.

[Zlantann]

That is very true what you say, whenever a relationship or anything else that involves two people, if it is based on lies, then things will never work well, because a person who is used to cheating or something like that, it is difficult for another person to do it. will take it in a good way, no one likes to be deceived, sometimes we as human beings are used to the hypocrisy of hearing what we want to hear and that is full of the world, even in the forum, only those who are authentic and say what What is or the truth because others consider him rebellious or irreverent, but since he is who he is, he is not afraid of anything, so this is what we must see, in a relationship whether we like or not the tastes of the other person, the couple. You must agree with what they do, with what they feel, otherwise everything will be a deception, there can be no deception, especially when it comes to money.

There is no need to hide your behavior from your partner. Any behavior you think will not be condoled by your spouse should be stopped, this is the price we should pay to sustain our marriage. I don't wish to marry a gambler but if she is a responsible gambler and she is compatible with me, I wouldn't mind spending my life with her. But we have to do everything possible to shield our children from learning before the gambling age. My concern is that our family might raise gamblers if we are not careful. However, if she hides her gambling activities from me because she wants to pretend, this will not go down well with me because she just wants to deceive me. Notwithstanding it is important to acknowledge that some cultures frown at women gambling and this is the case in mine location. This means we would also have to keep the gambling activity secret from neighbors, friends, and families.

[madnessteat]

Everyone of us have responsibility in the system. Telling your husband that you engaged in gambling activities as a woman have automatically ruined the plans for the possible future with the husband. Almost 90% of men in the world don't give room of feel happy to watch or acknowledge their wives gambling because they're suppose to be their companion and supporting wife, caring for the children and taking good care of the household, ensuring to execute the budgets for the family and everything will change because the wife does gamble.

Where do you come up with such notions? We have long lived in a world where women have all the same rights as men. So why do you think a woman can't gamble?

SmartGold01 in her initial post clearly explained that she has no gambling addiction and has full control over her gambling expenses. I assume she can combine her family responsibilities and gambling.

Do you think it would be better if her husband accidentally finds out that she likes to gamble? In my opinion this option is more likely to lead to divorce.

[LUCKMCFLY]

There is no need to hide your behavior from your partner. Any behavior you think will not be condoled by your spouse should be stopped, this is the price we should pay to sustain our marriage. I don't wish to marry a gambler but if she is a responsible gambler and she is compatible with me, I wouldn't mind spending my life with her. But we have to do everything possible to shield our children from learning before the gambling age. My concern is that our family might raise gamblers if we are not careful. However, if she hides her gambling activities from me because she wants to pretend, this will not go down well with me because she just wants to deceive me. Notwithstanding it is important to acknowledge that some cultures frown at women gambling and this is the case in mine location. This means we would also have to keep the gambling activity secret from neighbors, friends, and families.

Well, in case you are in a country that, due to their religion or something, they are prohibited from playing, then that is very understandable, although I see that as something that does not have much to do with anything bad, but each religion has its beliefs. and that is respected, however when you have a partner you can give yourself some freedoms, but everything changes when you have children and a family, things change a lot because that is something else, in fact you forget about yourself to be able to give them everything, so I think that the sense of responsibility changes much more with them, well that's what happened to me, one no longer thinks so much about one's own benefit because if one sees that one's children are well and one goes to second place, those who prioritize themselves themselves first before their children, they should not complain when their children grow up because they do not have that affection, that love towards their parents.

[Shamm]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

In my own it's good to you and your family once you will tell them especially your husband  that you are involved in gambling and secretly you are playing some games. Once you already said that on your husband then one thing for sure it will shock but afterwards you and your husband talk about gambling and if he gonna tell you that it's okay to gamble then thats a good one but if not I don't think so. Cause it will matters how you involve in gambling and if they found out that you are too long involve in gambling that your husband will got angry for sure.

[vs2014]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

How far did you go to dig out this thread though 😂? With last comment here being in the month of April, I can imagine how deep it was buried before you dug it out.

Anyway, saying if difficult for gamblers to control their emotion is a wrong statement, you should not generalize such things because we all are different, and if you particularly find it difficult to control your emotions any time you Gamble, then understand that it might not exactly be the same for another gambler.
And saying that gambling is not fun venture because it involved money that is earned hard leaves me more curious to want to understand what your perspective towards gambling really is, because as I understand, people go to movies, spend money there, people even pay money to watch players play various type of sports games, people go to clubs, parties, and spend their hard earned money, what is all this for if it's not to have fun? What do you think makes gambling different from all this that I mentioned?

[Oilacris]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

How far did you go to dig out this thread though 😂? With last comment here being in the month of April, I can imagine how deep it was buried before you dug it out.

Anyway, saying if difficult for gamblers to control their emotion is a wrong statement, you should not generalize such things because we all are different, and if you particularly find it difficult to control your emotions any time you Gamble, then understand that it might not exactly be the same for another gambler.
And saying that gambling is not fun venture because it involved money that is earned hard leaves me more curious to want to understand what your perspective towards gambling really is, because as I understand, people go to movies, spend money there, people even pay money to watch players play various type of sports games, people go to clubs, parties, and spend their hard earned money, what is all this for if it's not to have fun? What do you think makes gambling different from all this that I mentioned?

Necroposting is really just that bad or simply violates forum rules and this is why it would really be that important that you do really know on what the forum rules are so that you wont really be
finding yourself having that problem on which causes up some problem later on. So that for that @vs2014 guy then you should really be refraining on doing this.
Going back to the topic, as a wife whose really that getting involved with gambling but on a secret way then it would really be best that you should really be telling this
into her husband because on the moment that she got caught then it would really be that a huge problem because once trust could be broken then it would really be that broken forever.
We can forgive but we cant be able to forget and we do know what gambling could bring out that devastative thing into our finances if we wont really be that careful towards it.
Even if you do say that you do have those qualities and actions above but sooner or later the spending you would be doing will really be lots.

[Fortify]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Anything you have to keep secret in a relationship is going to do harm over the long term. I understand that it is frowned upon for different reasons in some countries or cultures, but anywhere it is legal should not bring feelings of shame upon someone if they are doing it responsibly. If you're throwing 20 bucks a week on it as a form of entertainment and have it under control, then it is very similar to other forms of entertainment - some people pay to watch people in the theater, donate to their favorite online streamers or buy loot boxes in games. It's when you start going too deep down the rabbit hole and throwing away lots of money, even money that you have not solely earned, then it starts to enter much murkier territory.

[darkangel11]

Everyone of us have responsibility in the system. Telling your husband that you engaged in gambling activities as a woman have automatically ruined the plans for the possible future with the husband. Almost 90% of men in the world don't give room of feel happy to watch or acknowledge their wives gambling because they're suppose to be their companion and supporting wife, caring for the children and taking good care of the household, ensuring to execute the budgets for the family and everything will change because the wife does gamble.

Where do you come up with such notions? We have long lived in a world where women have all the same rights as men. So why do you think a woman can't gamble?

SmartGold01 in her initial post clearly explained that she has no gambling addiction and has full control over her gambling expenses. I assume she can combine her family responsibilities and gambling.

Do you think it would be better if her husband accidentally finds out that she likes to gamble? In my opinion this option is more likely to lead to divorce.

I feel like he might be living in a Muslim country. Many countries cultivate traditional marriage where a woman stays at home, cooks and takes care of children, while the husband works and brings money home.
You might not know this, but in some of these countries women can't drive cars, can't walk alone in the street at night, cannot touch a man that is not a member of the family... I'm not surprised there are people who think women can't gamble.

[nimogsm]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

I already answered a similar message in the next topic, but don’t you consider, for example, playing cards with friends for some symbolic bets as entertainment? You don’t have to play for houses or cars, the budget for the whole evening can be equivalent to several packs of cigarettes and no more.
It’s just a normal way of spending time and spending very little money. Besides, if this game is played once a month, it won’t hit the budget.

[Julien_Olynpic]

I believe that it does not matter whether you are a man or a woman in order to place bets. Both have the right to gamble. But this is just a matter of responsibility. If you are a responsible player and are confident that your game will not cause problems for your family, then you do not need to tell anyone that you are playing. It's another matter if this leads to some problems. Here you will have to tell your husband about the source of these problems. I think many players have a chance of becoming addicted. Sometimes this problem can only be solved together.

[satscraper]

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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Depends on whether your husband is gambler or not.

If he is a gambler then I think he  will able to take your sudden admission of being in the same class  in stride.

If he is not a gambler, then  try to lead him on gambling, let's say, by visiting the local casino. I think atmosphere there will be  conductive to his positive reaction on your admission.
 

[junder]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

but of course everyone has the right to do what they like, if they gamble because they like it, that's no problem in my opinion, it's just that they need to gamble responsibly. Apart from that, there is no definite profit that can be obtained from gambling, even if the person who gambles has a good attitude, such as being responsible for everything he does or gambling in a healthy manner without overdoing it, it is not a problem. The problem is those who gamble excessively, so Not only does he harm himself, but other people around him are also affected by this, which actually needs to be prevented.

Gambling involves money and luck, even though we lose more often, but if we are lucky then there will be wins that can bring joy. I found my brother who didn't know anything about gambling, but he always saw me gambling so at some point he was curious. wanted to try it and before that I warned him not to overdo it and to be able to control himself. However, when he started gambling he was able to get a win that could be said to be big, this is where luck comes into play. Don't put too much hope in gambling because it can cause problems, do gambling appropriately and be patient for luck to be on your side.

[michellee]

I think gambling is not for you and since you don't enjoy it much then refrain. First of all it is difficult for a gambler to control his emotions because he will play even if he wins and he will play even after losing. Gambling will not give you guaranteed profit results and here is uncertain money calculation. Moreover there will be losses and wins in every game so gambling is no different from there. You agree in one word that playing gambling with all the money is foolish and it can put you in financial crisis. Before i conclude and i never think of gambling as fun because it has to do with money that we have to earn hard.

When he can not enjoy playing gambling, he doesn't have to still playing gambling. He can do many activities than playing gambling and enjoy the activity. Playing gambling can cause loses control and that can leads him losing his money. 

Gambling is just for fun and not for makes money. That is what we must understands so when you feels it is difficult to enjoy gambling games, you must stops it and search for the other things. It is better to prevents ourselves from lose the money so we don't feels sad of loses the money.

Playing gambling with all of the money is not a good idea because you may loses all of your money. When you lose your money in gambling, you will difficult to buy other things you wants. That is why you must always be careful when playing gambling but it is better to stops gambling if you feels that is not right.

[Poker Player]

Where do you come up with such notions? We have long lived in a world where women have all the same rights as men. So why do you think a woman can't gamble?

SmartGold01 in her initial post clearly explained that she has no gambling addiction and has full control over her gambling expenses. I assume she can combine her family responsibilities and gambling.

Do you think it would be better if her husband accidentally finds out that she likes to gamble? In my opinion this option is more likely to lead to divorce.

I have never had a problem with it. When I started dating a girl and the relationship took hold I would immediately tell her that I play poker. I explained it to her in a calm way so that she would understand because many people associate gambling with problems, vice and things like that. So far I haven't had any problems, but gambling behind your husband's back when you've been with him for years and one day he comes out of the blue, I don't know how it will look like.

[LUCKMCFLY]

I have never had a problem with it. When I started dating a girl and the relationship took hold I would immediately tell her that I play poker. I explained it to her in a calm way so that she would understand because many people associate gambling with problems, vice and things like that. So far I haven't had any problems, but gambling behind your husband's back when you've been with him for years and one day he comes out of the blue, I don't know how it will look like.

And you won't have any problems, because that's how things are done, we can't stop doing what we like for a woman or any woman, since it's our essence, it's what we are, therefore what you did is what every man should do, there are circumstances where those things are hidden perhaps for fear that they won't like it and I think that is a lack of courage on the part of a man, one should always be what one is, and if she doesn't accept it then nothing can be done, she's not the right one, I've seen cases where those things are hidden and sometimes it's a reason for breakups, it's very ugly to see those things, especially in close friendships, and that happened to a friend from university, a very good friend of mine, when he was feeling bad, drinking a lot of alcohol, I saw him in a tavern and he told me the whole story and obviously it was because she didn't like him going to the casino, that he said he was going to look for women and spend money, so I told him: "There are more than 5 billion women in the world and you die for one, just one?" After he understood the magnitude of my words I felt that he changed and began to feel better, and a week later he found another woman, and he looked for me and said, you were right, there are all these women, and one is better than the other, there are many and I ahhh well, and the worst thing is that there are guys who kill themselves, commit suicide just to lose 1 woman.

[OgNasty]

This is one I've never heard before.  I couldn't imagine having a significant other that would encourage you to gamble your funds away.  I would likely be a bit offended it I had a significant other that would encourage this behavior.  I would assume she's either a degenerate living through you because she lacks the intelligence to figure out how to gamble on her own, or she thinks so low of you that your only chance at supporting her financially would be to get lucky in a casino.  Either way, something is up if your significant other is encouraging gambling with your money.  At least that's what I'd think.

[SmartGold01]

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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Depends on whether your husband is gambler or not.

If he is a gambler then I think he  will able to take your sudden admission of being in the same class  in stride.

If he is not a gambler, then  try to lead him on gambling, let's say, by visiting the local casino. I think atmosphere there will be  conductive to his positive reaction on your admission.
 

Yeah he is especially sports betting, that is why he loves football.
Besides  I have already made it known to him so I don't think there is anything to be afraid of over here anymore, i think if you take a close look at my previous post you would see that I have already answer the question but just leave this topic to see the general opinion of other people here otherwise nothing much effectives on our two concerning my involvement to gambling.