Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[DabsPoorVersion]

Okay i have also seen your view towards this but the point is that he knows that i am into this forum as well earning little via sig promotion, so I think it is better to let him know than keep shuts. However, we've both discussed it and he didn't give any negative feedback towards my involvements rather he was saying that "Na so the hustle don carry me reach"?. So indirectly i understand as a woman I shouldn't go above my limits and bands, and i don't even plans to gamble regularly talks less of becoming an addicted gambler. Btw Who told you that women don't gamble is there any law by our Federation that stated women shouldn't gamble in our country or something similar?

That's a good sign I guess, by hearing that from your partner means that he understand you and trust you in terms of limiting yourself, as long as there's no problem that will raise I guess that words from your partner is an indication that he's giving you the green light just do your responsibility not to dwell that much to avoid any problem to come out.

Gambling is gambling and the bad after effect is something that can ruin your relationship so better to always put that above in any decision making that you'll going to do while playing/gambling.

Yes I don't take it as a career or as a must and a must do something without undermining my limits I can't even gamble with the mindset of making a living chasing rewards from gambling and secondly people tends to channel their efforts and thinking on becoming very rich through gambling with this mindset they will always get addicted to turns into serious issues among themselves. When people understand the values of a responsible gambling then they will always learn to set a limitation for themselves without looking out whatever profit they will make or that is to come, when they play or bets any game they should look their limits to save their home.

That is a good thing for you. Another positive result is that you can finally talk with your husband regarding your gambling habits. At least you already have his consent, you can do gambling without being worried about what will be the opinion of your husband about it. As long as you know your limitation, and you don't think that your gambling activities will be a problem between you and your husband in the future, you will be a responsible gambler.

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[noormcs5]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Well, I do not know about your relationship with your husband and how much you both have mutual understanding but still in an ideal family situation husband and wife should not hide anything between them and both should have the big heart to accept each other choices and opinions.

I guess, if you think that you can convince your husband and he won't be angry with you, you can tell him that you gamble without telling him. It can be much worse if he discovers himself that you are involved in gambling but the intensity of his reaction will be much less if you, yourself tell him that you're an occasional gambler.

Again I would repeat try to make your relationship open with your husband so that you do not need to hide anything. It will be good for both the husband and the wife.

[swogerino]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

It depends.If he is a pussy all house and church and is afraid of all what people might perceive as unhealthy activities it is better to not tell him that you are involved in such activities.In case he is a real man then even if you tell him I don't think he will make a big mess about it and most likely accept what you have been doing,maybe he will start giving some advices and monitor you more than before but overall I don't think it will be a big problem for him.In the end as you see depend on the type of guy your husband is.

[Jody.Drummer]

That's a good sign I guess, by hearing that from your partner means that he understand you and trust you in terms of limiting yourself, as long as there's no problem that will raise I guess that words from your partner is an indication that he's giving you the green light just do your responsibility not to dwell that much to avoid any problem to come out.

Gambling is gambling and the bad after effect is something that can ruin your relationship so better to always put that above in any decision making that you'll going to do while playing/gambling.

Yes I don't take it as a career or as a must and a must do something without undermining my limits I can't even gamble with the mindset of making a living chasing rewards from gambling and secondly people tends to channel their efforts and thinking on becoming very rich through gambling with this mindset they will always get addicted to turns into serious issues among themselves. When people understand the values of a responsible gambling then they will always learn to set a limitation for themselves without looking out whatever profit they will make or that is to come, when they play or bets any game they should look their limits to save their home.

That is a good thing for you. Another positive result is that you can finally talk with your husband regarding your gambling habits. At least you already have his consent, you can do gambling without being worried about what will be the opinion of your husband about it. As long as you know your limitation, and you don't think that your gambling activities will be a problem between you and your husband in the future, you will be a responsible gambler.

Yes, if their husbands really give permission to engage in gambling activities then I think there will be no problems in the family relationship between her and her husband, but I just hope that she will be able to maintain her husband's trust by having a good approach and way of gambling so that things don't happen in the future. And maybe I would advise her to remain firm in applying awareness, caution and vigilance to her gambling involvement because as we know that this activity has a lot of things that look tempting that can certainly change one's perspective and mindset such as the temptation of winning.

It is not uncommon to find gamblers who eventually fall into the addiction phase even though they initially had boundaries and control, as I said above that there are so many things that can tempt you and that means anything is possible and it cannot be denied that you might become one of the next victims. So my advice is to maintain awareness and firmness on the precautions you have in place to keep you safe.

[Casdinyard]

Could be a new way for you and your husband to bond over something really. But I say you guys should proceed with caution. I've seen one to many a story about families being ruined by gambling all because they couldn't check themselves or control their urges and impulses.

It's so easy to lose track of your own self when you're enjoying the company of other people, especially those that you really care about. Even though you're gambling pretty responsibly there's a pretty good chance that you guys may fall in too deep when the both of you start your gambling spree and lose on a couple of games. Both should have a way to check on each other or at least be responsible enough on their own to quit gambling when they are already aggravated with the results of their sessions. As I said this could be a new way for you two to really have fun when other means of enjoying yourselves aren't available at the moment. Both of you teaming up or going against each other on certain games like poker and dice are a real way to connect and enjoy each other's companies even at the comfort of your home. Just need a little precaution and care to make sure you guys don't get addicted to gambling. And of course, you should let him know about it and be honest with him as well so trust can be built between you guys.

[uneng]

It depends.If he is a pussy all house and church and is afraid of all what people might perceive as unhealthy activities it is better to not tell him that you are involved in such activities.In case he is a real man then even if you tell him I don't think he will make a big mess about it and most likely accept what you have been doing,maybe he will start giving some advices and monitor you more than before but overall I don't think it will be a big problem for him.In the end as you see depend on the type of guy your husband is.

Even if she doesn't tell him, he will know about this secret at some point. It's impossible to hide a gambling routine, because it directly interferes on the financial life of the couple. The husband will notice there is money missing, so he will ask the wife where she has been spending it. If she lies, it will get even worse, as the husband will become highly suspicious of her and will start looking for left tracks of the money. He just need to check bank account's history to see deposits made at casino platforms.

If she decided to lie, then I fear it's the end of the marriage, because he won't trust her anymore, doesn't matter the situation. And without trust, no marriages can exist, at least in a true way, although there are people who decide to remain together solely for formal reasons, to not disappoint the society or not be criticized by people around.

To tell the truth is the best alternative, despite the consequences.

[coinerer]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

He is your partner and should know everything that is happening with you, he has a right to be aware of your current interests and so I think you should let hime know. He will be interested in what has made you get an interest in gambling, so you will also have to explain that to him too. Women who gamble are looked at somehow as not responsible in some places, so if you do not tell him now and he finds out later that you are a gambler, he may not be happy and may develop an impression about you that you are already becoming irresponsible with gambling.

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

[Doan9269]

Honestly as couples, we should be able to know ourselves well and be also accountable on each other, there's no how we can make a decision on our own without involving our partner, of your wife is just making a discovery of you being a gambler now over the time being you both have been together then you're a cheat and not to be trusted, there's no point hiding for your wife whom you're or what you do as long as you're being confident about it, so such woman can rake on her husband more than enough if she got to discover such.

[bitzizzix]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

It depends.If he is a pussy all house and church and is afraid of all what people might perceive as unhealthy activities it is better to not tell him that you are involved in such activities.In case he is a real man then even if you tell him I don't think he will make a big mess about it and most likely accept what you have been doing,maybe he will start giving some advices and monitor you more than before but overall I don't think it will be a big problem for him.In the end as you see depend on the type of guy your husband is.

All the OP's points mentioned are correct, and if all the points are actually done well there is no problem.
However, the problem with the points mentioned by the OP is that there are no points of important obligations that the wife must carry out in taking care of the household, husband, children and other important needs. And if these points are implemented along with the points mentioned by OP, then overall it will be safe. And I'm just afraid that everything won't go well, or maybe there are some wifely obligations that have been neglected.
And I personally would forbid my wife from gambling, and I have no problem with her gambling responsibly, having fun and so on. And I'm worried that my wife will neglect some of her work or obligations and also be a bad example for the children.

[Quidat]

Honestly as couples, we should be able to know ourselves well and be also accountable on each other, there's no how we can make a decision on our own without involving our partner, of your wife is just making a discovery of you being a gambler now over the time being you both have been together then you're a cheat and not to be trusted, there's no point hiding for your wife whom you're or what you do as long as you're being confident about it, so such woman can rake on her husband more than enough if she got to discover such.

A relationship without having no secrets is much better and much preferred rather than on having a partner which does have those hidden things or secrets on each other.
You would really be that definitely be ending up on having that kind of possible arguementation on the time that one of you would really be caught up something on doing the things
which arent supposed to be done or simply that the other isnt really that liking specially on doing gambling on which on the time that you do get caught then it would surely be a
problem and this is why it would be always best that you should really be honest most of the time. This is why its better to tell him rather than on getting you caught.

[BitcoinPanther]

All the OP's points mentioned are correct, and if all the points are actually done well there is no problem.

I think there is one missing there and that is being a responsible wife/partner.  I think it won't matter for the husband if his wife is engaged in gambling as long as the wife still do her part in the family.  Even if the wife done all those listed things stated by @OP if she is irresponsible when it comes to her task in the family, the husband will mind his gambling activity.

However, the problem with the points mentioned by the OP is that there are no points of important obligations that the wife must carry out in taking care of the household, husband, children and other important needs. And if these points are implemented along with the OP's points raised then there is absolutely no problem, and will ensure that the wife's important obligations are not compromised, perhaps some are overlooked.

I believe the husband will be ok with the gambling involvement of his wife as long as the obligation of his wife is not compromised due to gambling activities.

And I personally would forbid my wife from gambling, and I have no problem with her gambling responsibly, having fun and so on. And I'm worried that my wife will neglect some of her work or obligations and also be a bad example for the children.

This is confusing, you will forbid your wife from gambling even though you have no problem if she gamble responsibly and I do not think that a gambling wife will be a bad example to the children as long as she do her responsibility and prioritized it over her gambling activity.

[bitzizzix]

This is confusing, you will forbid your wife from gambling even though you have no problem if she gamble responsibly and I do not think that a gambling wife will be a bad example to the children as long as she do her responsibility and prioritized it over her gambling activity.

What is mentioned is in my opinion and it all depends on the husband, even though the points mentioned by the OP and the point of his obligation to carry them out well are his rights and I am just giving my opinion.
However, I personally say that I will not let that happen because there is a possibility that several points of the wife's obligations will be neglected, especially in the long term.

I hope you understand what I mean.

[Mia Chloe]

This question doesn't really have a universal answer. The first question is if the husband is a gambling hater. Often times when husbands find out their wives are gamblers they usually get very angry with them especially because they feel their wife may be an addict who had been hiding it from them for a very long time.

A wife should understand if the husband is a gambling hater or he actually tolerates the act  before beaking the news to him. This will prevent an unnecessary argument or misunderstanding between the couples.

[Antotena]

Come to think of what OP said, I have not seen a woman or a lady that has a gambling addiction, could this be because of their nature of because we have few of them in numbers that gamble? But we have many of them that come to land based casino to have fun and play all sort of games and yet you never seen them depressed like the way guys do or even show this obsession with gambling, it's always the makes that want to gamble and more money or maybe the nature of man because they are risk takers and are seen as the providers.

If you are married, your husband has every right to know what you do and every of your activities, I'm speaking from religion views and not some western marriage of a thing where everybody does their thing. In Africa, you must tell your husband what you do because he bears your full responsibility and anything thag happen to you. There is nothing bad if you tell your husband that your gamble and you do it from your phone, that will save you from explanations any day you win large amount of money and that will prepare him so you don't get addiction because he will also be watching you closely.

[darkangel11]

You put yourself in a bad position OP. It's like you feel that you're doing something wrong and making things worse by not telling him. First of all, ask yourself if gambling is a bad thing. Is he opposed to it? Doe he feel like it's a sin? What are the things that stop you from telling him?
I'm asking about all this because if you had a new hobby, like arranging flowers, and you'd spend some of your money on it, would you tell him? If the answer is yes, what's stopping you from telling him that you gamble? Are you afraid he'll leave you for it, or demand that you stop? If it's not a sin and he's not a recovering addict, or someone who hates gambling for no reason, just tell him. What's the worst thing that can happen?

[Orpichukwu]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

There should be some level of trust and honesty between husband and wife, and if it's my wife in question, I will like for her to tell me everything, even if I will not like it. At least hearing it from her will go a long way for me.
 
And secondly, you said you are not using his money, and I believe he is also aware of your activities in this forum, which means you are exposed to a lot of information that can guide your part in responsible gambling, and you are also in a casino campaign that might need you to know more about what you are advertising here in the forum, so you might not even get a negative response from him as you might think as things turn out better than we expect them to be sometimes.

[Chilwell]

And if you just keep it a secret, it's fine. This is my preferred choice if I am to put my feet in your shoes. This is like you are just browsing websites, you happen to land on casinos because they are related to cryptocurrency.

I can never argue with you since everyone has their own way of thinking, and I assumed that whatever others said about something was accurate because they had a reason for it. When it comes to two best friends, they believe things should be done transparently to build trust; husband and wife are far more than best friends because they live and do things together; I don't believe gambling can be done secretly because of the danger involved; as you said, if the wife decides to keep it a secret, what if the husband later notices? I believe the first thought that will come to his mind is that his wife is keeping it a secret, and this alone will reduce the trust he have for her.

As for me, I don't like gambling, despite the fact that I would appreciate it if she told me, and even though I can stop her, if she tells me, I will know what to do to avoid problems with her gambling habit.

[hedgeh0g]

I can never argue with you since everyone has their own way of thinking, and I assumed that whatever others said about something was accurate because they had a reason for it. When it comes to two best friends, they believe things should be done transparently to build trust; husband and wife are far more than best friends because they live and do things together; I don't believe gambling can be done secretly because of the danger involved; as you said, if the wife decides to keep it a secret, what if the husband later notices? I believe the first thought that will come to his mind is that his wife is keeping it a secret, and this alone will reduce the trust he have for her.

As for me, I don't like gambling, despite the fact that I would appreciate it if she told me, and even though I can stop her, if she tells me, I will know what to do to avoid problems with her gambling habit.

There is even an expression that is appropriate here - everything secret sooner or later becomes clear. And the wife will definitely find out, but the main thing is from whom and when. These could be the husband's friends from whom he borrowed money and did not return it. After this, any wife will be surprised and think that maybe he is not telling anything other than this. Although until this moment she was sure that there was not a single secret from each other. This could be the first crack in your strong alliance. Someone will try to forgive such behavior, but remembering it every day will not be able to bear it anymore and ultimately the union will fall apart. The husband should have dared earlier and said everything directly. After stories like this, it’s better to think about whether it’s worth hiding anything about each other...

[livingfree]

You have to follow your intuition and what you think is right. We as men, sometimes we're also hiding our activities like gambling to our wives because we don't want them to know that we're on it.

Or there will be a point of our lives that they might look for the extra money that we have but then, they will have no clue that it's already been spent on gambling and already have lost.

But if you're conscience tells you to tell your husband for him to be aware of it, do what is necessary based on your intuition.

[coolcoinz]

You either choose honesty in your relationship, or secrecy and the "I know better" stance. That's your choice.

Personally, I always choose the first one. We share bank accounts, cars, whatever and we talk about everything and make plans together. If your idea for marriage is that you keep your secrets, eventually he's going to find out because you're together all the time. You're going to let it slip somehow and then you're going to regret it because he'll know you were dishonest so you can do it again. It's easy to destroy trust and very hard to rebuild it.