Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[Yamifoud]

You either choose honesty in your relationship, or secrecy and the "I know better" stance. That's your choice.

Personally, I always choose the first one. We share bank accounts, cars, whatever and we talk about everything and make plans together. If your idea for marriage is that you keep your secrets, eventually he's going to find out because you're together all the time. You're going to let it slip somehow and then you're going to regret it because he'll know you were dishonest so you can do it again. It's easy to destroy trust and very hard to rebuild it.

One reason why some couples get separated is due to keeping secrets. I don't think it is a shameful act if we tell our partner about it and it is a part of the relationship to let our partner what we have done. And while we are talking about gambling, it should not be hidden because it already involves money and that should need approval from our partner. It is really a big mistake not to tell it and you're right, that is another form of dishonesty and that would be the start of big trouble and assumptions that there is more that is hidden.

[rahmad2nd]

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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I'm not sure, if I have the right advice to you. however, if you are a woman, especially if you are married, you should know that the habit of keeping secrets will usually have a bad impact. Likewise, if the situation were the opposite, how would you respond if your husband secretly liked to gamble. what is certain is that if things are kept secret, they will usually invite an unpleasant response, especially if they are known indirectly. in other words, for example, if you are caught secretly gambling.
in fact, I don't know you, not even your husband. so, you yourself can assess your own husband's characteristics. in your opinion, is your husband a typical neutral person or someone who upholds rights and freedoms? If that's the case, you can immediately open up to your husband. but with the condition, you have to explain it and take the time for it. so that there are no misunderstandings or missed information, prepare in advance the ideal words that will be used in your discussion with your husband. then, you can share your story and tell the truth. give him confidence, that you are just doing it for fun and nothing more. also give your husband an understanding about gambling, that in essence you gamble not to seek wealth, get additional income, but rather for entertainment and do it for fun but with certain limits. Tell your husband that the money you spend as gambling capital does not interfere with basic needs or does not use money that should not be used for gambling. You have to give him understanding from various points of view, that way your husband will understand and comprehend what you are doing.

Note, what I said was aimed at husbands who really don't know gambling or can be said to be lay people. However, if your husband is the type who thinks gambling is something wrong or something like that, your job will take time to give him insight and understanding first. Try not to be suspicious, so let it flow like you're having a discussion. most importantly, avoid arguments.
By the way, I hope what I say can help you, especially if you can do it more creatively.

[Juse14]

You either choose honesty in your relationship, or secrecy and the "I know better" stance. That's your choice.

Personally, I always choose the first one. We share bank accounts, cars, whatever and we talk about everything and make plans together. If your idea for marriage is that you keep your secrets, eventually he's going to find out because you're together all the time. You're going to let it slip somehow and then you're going to regret it because he'll know you were dishonest so you can do it again. It's easy to destroy trust and very hard to rebuild it.

One reason why some couples get separated is due to keeping secrets. I don't think it is a shameful act if we tell our partner about it and it is a part of the relationship to let our partner what we have done. And while we are talking about gambling, it should not be hidden because it already involves money and that should need approval from our partner. It is really a big mistake not to tell it and you're right, that is another form of dishonesty and that would be the start of big trouble and assumptions that there is more that is hidden.

Yes, it is true what you said, that the woman must tell her gambling activities to her husband. Because he is no longer a child, if he has to play with secrets. Both of them are old enough to be able to understand each other.

And here I don't know for sure the main reason OP decided to gamble, perhaps because she didn't get enough attention and affection from her husband. OP decided to look for other pleasures, namely gambling. But whatever the reasons behind it, however, as a wife, you need to tell them about the gambling activities you do, because no matter what position you are in, you are already married, where you are already part of your husband's responsibilities. So what the wife does, the husband will be responsible for it, both in this world and in the afterlife.

[romero121]

There's nothing wrong. It is a way to give the husband the free mind to gamble and keep him under the radar. This also makes the husband know his limits and gamble than just going on the flow and losing. Transparency between the two will increase love, and the same used to give moral support. Even if the husband have experienced a massive loss the wife will stand for him and console. This will make life better than just losing and thinking unwanted things.

[tech30338]

There's nothing wrong. It is a way to give the husband the free mind to gamble and keep him under the radar. This also makes the husband know his limits and gamble than just going on the flow and losing. Transparency between the two will increase love, and the same used to give moral support. Even if the husband have experienced a massive loss the wife will stand for him and console. This will make life better than just losing and thinking unwanted things.

Man should be respect by telling them what is going on since you are the wife, you should not hide this things to him if you get addicted to gambling and he found out , your family is loosing money he will think that you are cheating, and might end bad for the both of you and your child if you have, your responsibility is for your family and being responsible is telling your husband this things.

[Fundamentals Of]

You tell her of course. Why hide it? You are husband and wife so I guess the two of you should be fully open about each other's activities, hobbies, experiences, etc.

Why do you even hesitate to share it with your husband? Are you afraid that he will get mad at you or he will stop giving you a share of his income?

I think there's no problem sharing it with your husband because you are a responsible gambler. And then you two discuss how you should handle it.

Hiding it doesn't help. It would be a bigger trouble if he catches you gambling with him not having even a little clue that you have been doing it secretly.

[abel1337]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I support gender equality, no matter what gender you are, I personally believe that you should still say that you are doing gambling to your husband given that gambling is an hazardous thing that could possibly lead to addiction, it would be better that your love ones are supportive on the things that you love to do. Though this depends on the person you are telling because we all have different views and opinion about gambling, your husband might be anti-gambling because of the experience he had that you didn't know. He might tell you to stop doing gambling at worst. Evaluate yourself on how much you know about your husband, you are the only one who can understand the possible reaction of your husband.

It's your call fbut personally with the context that you gave, I don't see nothing harmful on saying that you are engaging on gambling activities.

[rojan]

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

I think you are very happy in married life because your wife rules you a lot and seems to love you. If you gamble without listening to your wife it is not right for you. Because gambling is bad addiction it can ruin your life. My  Ex girlfriend's husband was addicted to gambling and lost all his money in gambling and committed suicide. Now I am thinking of marrying my ex girlfriend I think my ex girlfriend can keep me away from gambling.

[Su-asa]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

He is your partner and should know everything that is happening with you, he has a right to be aware of your current interests and so I think you should let hime know. He will be interested in what has made you get an interest in gambling, so you will also have to explain that to him too. Women who gamble are looked at somehow as not responsible in some places, so if you do not tell him now and he finds out later that you are a gambler, he may not be happy and may develop an impression about you that you are already becoming irresponsible with gambling.

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

It is equal, as some men don't like gambling so some women don't also like gambling.
Generally, people don't like gamble because their misconceptions won't let them believe that gamble is safe, if they don't gamble with loan money or selling their personal belongings to gamble.
The reason why some people don't want to gamble is because how they have seen some gamblers that have do a lot of things so that they can gamble, some have sold their houses and lot more of their properties to gamble.

[Hirose UK]

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One reason why some couples get separated is due to keeping secrets. I don't think it is a shameful act if we tell our partner about it and it is a part of the relationship to let our partner what we have done. And while we are talking about gambling, it should not be hidden because it already involves money and that should need approval from our partner. It is really a big mistake not to tell it and you're right, that is another form of dishonesty and that would be the start of big trouble and assumptions that there is more that is hidden.

I agree with you and indeed hiding things that should be known to each other can lead to misunderstandings and in the end disputes that lead to destruction will definitely occur.
As couple, husband and wife must be able to understand and complement each other so that whatever one of them lacks, there will be someone who can complement it, and when problem occurs, the solution or solution must be done together.
Gambling in most countries does not have prohibitive regulations and most countries have legalized gambling, so when see or know about gambling activities, think it can be accepted well.
The most important thing is openness, honesty and also being able to understand each other, so whatever is done if it does not exceed the normal limits of woman, I sure husband will be able to accept it well.
A husband is responsible figure and is leader in family so that when he doesn't like what his wife is doing, advice and suggestions will definitely be given, and even guided to better path.

After all, we as men prefer and respect every honesty expressed from our respective wives.
This is form of affection for wife, namely being able to accept all shortcomings and also forgive and guide wife.

[Jody.Drummer]

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

I think you are very happy in married life because your wife rules you a lot and seems to love you. If you gamble without listening to your wife it is not right for you. Because gambling is bad addiction it can ruin your life. My  Ex girlfriend's husband was addicted to gambling and lost all his money in gambling and committed suicide. Now I am thinking of marrying my ex girlfriend I think my ex girlfriend can keep me away from gambling.

True, he has a wife who is very caring and concerned about him, I think it seems like his wife has a good understanding in the overall point of view of gambling, she can really conclude that in gambling there are more negatives than positives, if you understand what gambling really is then you will also have the same point of view as that woman, we can see many examples and maybe even you are also aware of the fact that in gambling losses usually always dominate more than wins that only come occasionally and with this means that if you can't stop or just limit it then you will lose money slowly in a certain amount.

So I think if you are experiencing the same scenario as that family where the wife is against gambling then I think it's better to reconsider, don't let you experience problems in your family relationship with your partner just because of gambling which is really an activity that is not recommended because of the many dangers that might befall you. On the other hand, like your story that your ex-girlfriend's husband committed suicide and that is the bad impact of addiction that makes a person suffer from many problems that make him depressed to do things out of control.

[Dimitri94]

There's nothing wrong. It is a way to give the husband the free mind to gamble and keep him under the radar. This also makes the husband know his limits and gamble than just going on the flow and losing. Transparency between the two will increase love, and the same used to give moral support. Even if the husband have experienced a massive loss the wife will stand for him and console. This will make life better than just losing and thinking unwanted things.

Man should be respect by telling them what is going on since you are the wife, you should not hide this things to him if you get addicted to gambling and he found out , your family is loosing money he will think that you are cheating, and might end bad for the both of you and your child if you have, your responsibility is for your family and being responsible is telling your husband this things.

If husband cannot trust his wife then there will be no peace in the family. A wife should share everything from gambling to her husband. As OP mentions, the wife is not an addicted gambler. But she may feel shy that her husband might think badly of her if he knows about her gambling. But she should also know that if her husband knows about gambling behind her back, it may create a bad attitude towards her. So if the woman informs her husband about her gambling before he knows it, there will be no rift in their relationship.

[junder]

You tell her of course. Why hide it? You are husband and wife so I guess the two of you should be fully open about each other's activities, hobbies, experiences, etc.

Why do you even hesitate to share it with your husband? Are you afraid that he will get mad at you or he will stop giving you a share of his income?

I think there's no problem sharing it with your husband because you are a responsible gambler. And then you two discuss how you should handle it.

Hiding it doesn't help. It would be a bigger trouble if he catches you gambling with him not having even a little clue that you have been doing it secretly.

I agree with you, because as husband and wife of course they have to be open with each other, not by keeping things a secret from each other, including gambling, because even if one of them gambles, if it doesn't disturb their family relationship then it's possible that the other party will too. I won't mind it, but if the other party is against activities that can be done, such as gambling, and he tells you to stop and stay away, that's because he doesn't want anything bad to happen to himself and his family relationships.

I think it's normal for the husband to be angry because gambling shouldn't be done, because gambling has an extraordinary impact, and being angry doesn't mean it's without reason, but it's a sign that the husband loves his wife so he doesn't want anything bad to happen. hit their family. That's right, just hiding it won't help her, but it will only make the problem bigger because the husband doesn't know about her habit, and it's worse if the husband finds out about it from someone else like his wife's friend. , if it's like this, in my opinion, there will be big problems in a family, and of course this shouldn't happen, because this could lead to divorce.

[johnsaributua]

It has to be, it's not about being responsible in admitting something because it's a habit, whatever is done especially if it has become a fairly frequent activity, if it's a form of acknowledgment and if it's not done it becomes a mental burden, that's right. As long as you don't use emergency money or your own money (from work) for your personal needs, I'm fine with it.

You're a good wife for wanting to maintain honesty and it's not too late as long as you haven't stopped gambling.  Honesty is valued more by me than knowing everything that is hidden and known from others. Gambling is practically the same as you describe, although in reality it is enough to start the money you want to play and stop with enough profit even if the vapo or loss is a little bit the point is to manage expectations, and if the prediction is of course even though the general discussion but similar to speculation. Because in each country, gambling may be a tradition even though it is packaged in each game, either among humans or the system in the mobile app.

I don't think your husband will be disappointed for too long with your decision to tell the truth, although there is the potential for him to be a little pensive because he is afraid that you have crossed the line, or will increase your time schedule for working hours and taking care of the family at home, worried that you have a lot of energy. But I think you will still be accepted and become a wife in the house as long as you gamble within reasonable limits and do not harm the whole house

[Z_MBFM]

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

I think you are very happy in married life because your wife rules you a lot and seems to love you. If you gamble without listening to your wife it is not right for you. Because gambling is bad addiction it can ruin your life. My  Ex girlfriend's husband was addicted to gambling and lost all his money in gambling and committed suicide. Now I am thinking of marrying my ex girlfriend I think my ex girlfriend can keep me away from gambling.

I am very happy in my married life like op because my wife takes good care of me and always tries to keep me away from bad activities like gambling. I used to gamble in front of him for some time and he didn't say anything but he followed my activities now he doesn't let me gamble. He realized that I was slowly becoming addicted to gambling. My wife started speaking against my gambling from the day she came to know that I took a loan from the bank and squandered the money by gambling. Glad to hear you are still keeping up with your Ex girlfriend.  he he he

[AicecreaME]

It is equal, as some men don't like gambling so some women don't also like gambling.
Generally, people don't like gamble because their misconceptions won't let them believe that gamble is safe, if they don't gamble with loan money or selling their personal belongings to gamble.
The reason why some people don't want to gamble is because how they have seen some gamblers that have do a lot of things so that they can gamble, some have sold their houses and lot more of their properties to gamble.

Gambling doesn't need gender. It isn't exclusive to men nor women. Anyone who wants to gamble as long as they are at the right age and have the means to do so if free to bet and play. The same way people could also avoid gambling because they have their own decision to begin with. Some men and women might not really like the idea of gambling, and that's the truth. This is mostly because of their own misconceptions of gambling and also because of the negative connotation of it. We can't really blame them for having such idea because it is somehow true that gambling can be a scary thing depending on the person's ways of handling it. It will really boil down on how a person can control his emotions and urges to avoid falling into the trap of gambling addiction.

[maydna]

If husband cannot trust his wife then there will be no peace in the family. A wife should share everything from gambling to her husband. As OP mentions, the wife is not an addicted gambler. But she may feel shy that her husband might think badly of her if he knows about her gambling. But she should also know that if her husband knows about gambling behind her back, it may create a bad attitude towards her. So if the woman informs her husband about her gambling before he knows it, there will be no rift in their relationship.

Husband and wife must trust each other, but hiding a wife's gambling activities from her husband can cause problems between husband and wife. A wife should not be ashamed of her husband because that is what she does, and it is better if she is honest with her husband so that there is nothing to hide from her husband. Her husband might be able to provide a solution to what his wife is doing. A good husband will not want to see his wife fall into gambling and will do something to get his wife to leave gambling. There are still many fun activities they can do, and it's not gambling where if you gamble, there will definitely be risks that must be faced. And that risk can be greater if there is no responsibility. And before bigger problems occur, the wife should immediately admit her gambling to her husband.

[rojan]

I am very happy in my married life like op because my wife takes good care of me and always tries to keep me away from bad activities like gambling. I used to gamble in front of him for some time and he didn't say anything but he followed my activities now he doesn't let me gamble. He realized that I was slowly becoming addicted to gambling. My wife started speaking against my gambling from the day she came to know that I took a loan from the bank and squandered the money by gambling. Glad to hear you are still keeping up with your Ex girlfriend.  he he he

Gambling is good but I think it is very stupid to gamble with a loan from the bank. Because the loan you gambled with did not work properly. I think if your wife was not by your side, you might have lost all your money in these few days. Gambling would ruin the back. So I would tell you that if you are going to do something big, you should consult your wife first so that you don't get into any big danger. I think your wife wouldn't want you to have any big problem. So it will be good for you if you share everything with your wife.

[knowngunman]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

How about if you refuse to let him know and he later finds out himself? Have you considered how his reaction would be? You know your husband very well more than anyone and you can guess his stand on gambling entirely or women involved in gambling. Just coming across the post now and I believe you have gotten series of opinions already. I did not read through all the pages, I don't know if someone has given similar opinion like the one I am about to give. I would advise you to initiate a conversation with him about gambling gradually and from that discussion you can be able to know his stands. If it's positive, you can continue with the discussion and tell him what you are doing and if the reaction is negative, don't bother telling him and stop gambling before he finds out to avoid problems.

For me, women shouldn't be involved in gambling no matter how conscious you're in maintaining a good gambling habit but it's not really a good idea for a woman to be involved in gambling or gambling related activities due to some certain reasons because if a woman gets involved in gambling, her duties as a wife will begin to fade because she might not be too focused on her family again.

You might have other reasons why you choose to have this opinion but if it is because of the above stated reason, I will disagree with you because it is not convincing enough and besides, the poster already gives insight on how she's managing her gambling habits. I understand where you are heading to based on how delicate women emotions can be but gambling is not a respecter of any gender and I see it unfair to conclude that women are more susceptible to its effect than men. What is necessary is gambling education and the risk involved to both gender not gender stereotyping to exclude female gender from gambling space. They should be allow to enjoy their right as well but I also do not support extreme gambling for women. It must have a limit because women can not handle frequent tension associated with gambling.

[Mahanton]

I am very happy in my married life like op because my wife takes good care of me and always tries to keep me away from bad activities like gambling. I used to gamble in front of him for some time and he didn't say anything but he followed my activities now he doesn't let me gamble. He realized that I was slowly becoming addicted to gambling. My wife started speaking against my gambling from the day she came to know that I took a loan from the bank and squandered the money by gambling. Glad to hear you are still keeping up with your Ex girlfriend.  he he he

Gambling is good but I think it is very stupid to gamble with a loan from the bank. Because the loan you gambled with did not work properly. I think if your wife was not by your side, you might have lost all your money in these few days. Gambling would ruin the back. So I would tell you that if you are going to do something big, you should consult your wife first so that you don't get into any big danger. I think your wife wouldn't want you to have any big problem. So it will be good for you if you share everything with your wife.

It is really just that putting a gun into your head if we do speak about getting up some loan and then you do really gamble out of those funds completely on which simply you arent that making use of it into more worthy manner. It might really that sound that impossible but there are actually people who do really make out such step and really make out such decision due to extreme or severe gambling addiction and this is why they do really end up on having this kind decision and later on they do make out those kind of regrets because of too much debt on which they do make themselves getting wrecked because of too much loan.

Basing up into the situation or condition then it would really be that advisable that you should really be telling things into your husband because once you do make yourself that
being secretive then it would really be that possibly be creating that kind of conflicts because lying is never been that a good thing for a relationship.
it would be always best that everything should be told and be transparent.