Keeping your gambling habit a secret.

[maydna]

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So now even his family is judging him.

Of all the people in the world who you think will not look at your faults will not see you with disappointment. Let's say they (the family) audit the amount you lost in gambling because after all, they know you are playing all the time. They may think right now that, you could have bought a Tesla car with the amount instead of just playing. 

Now they may visit your apartment from time to time checking you whether you play as to not let them know you gambling habits.

Shh, don't tell his family

Well, they might think that perhaps it's time to reduce their gambling activities so they can buy a Tesla car

Especially after discovering that he had lost so much throughout the year that they could have bought a new house if he hadn't gambled at all.

This could happen so they can control you from gambling more often. Perhaps they will also check their bank account to see their financial position this month and next.

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[Blitzboy]

I can appreciate your perspective. Since you earned it, it's your money. What right does anyone else have to dictate how you use or spend it? But have you ever given it any thought as to why people might be concerned? Yes, it's none of their concern, but occasionally, it's more about you than it is about the money. It's one thing to gamble responsibly, but if you're getting so into it that you have to vehemently announce, "I don't care," it makes me question. I occasionally gamble, but I'm aware of the risks. Hey, it doesn't make it right or bad if no one has expressed disapproval or celebrated. It just indicates that they haven't expressed any opinions. Perhaps they're waiting on you to make a realisation. Just keep in mind that controlling yourself, not the other way around, is more important than worrying about the money

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

Get over it if you're gambling and believe its okay to keep things secret. Gambling is a pit that can suddenly pull you down; it's not some exclusive club you belong to. Being secretive about it? That is a one-way trip to chaos and problems.

I've read pages of people thinking its smarter to be stealthy about their habits. That is absurd! People close to you are the ones who provide you with a lifeline when you're struggling with addiction. But guess what? They cant if they dont know

Trust me, life's too short for games - and not the betting kind. If you have problems, own up to them. Get help. And for goodness' sake, quit thinking silence is golden. Sometimes, its just plain toxic.

[RockBell]

In my area, individuals aged 21 or older don't attract extra attention when engaging in gambling. When someone loses or wins in gambling, the best course of action is often to keep it low-key to prevent it from becoming a significant issue down the road. For those who aren't addicted, it can be discreetly managed without affecting their financial situation.

For individuals who are addicted to gambling, it's no longer possible to keep it hidden or secret. Even their families become aware of it. Warnings often arise from other family members, but there's no positive change in sight.

I've never dealt with gambling on a local platform because I prefer casinos from abroad. I also don't openly share my casino gaming with people around me, but when they talk about their gambling experiences, I'll certainly tell them. It's not about keeping it a secret, but it's also not about openly disclosing it.

There is a age you get to in my own region engaging in too much of gambling will show how irresponsible you are especially when you are poor they feel it will make you situation your worst since some actions are taking out of desperation to leave poverty which are very reckless decision. The majority will not keep quiet, and the only time they will do so is when they lose money, and if it is sports, they will make excuses about how one game ruined the entire ticket, which may include lying to cover up their loss. And not to be held accountable for how they failed. And those who are addicted will always leave their wins open in order to pique the curiosity of others, and instead of managing the entire thing, they will see an opportunity to make more money while disregarding prudence.

[Silberman]

In my area, individuals aged 21 or older don't attract extra attention when engaging in gambling. When someone loses or wins in gambling, the best course of action is often to keep it low-key to prevent it from becoming a significant issue down the road. For those who aren't addicted, it can be discreetly managed without affecting their financial situation.

For individuals who are addicted to gambling, it's no longer possible to keep it hidden or secret. Even their families become aware of it. Warnings often arise from other family members, but there's no positive change in sight.

I've never dealt with gambling on a local platform because I prefer casinos from abroad. I also don't openly share my casino gaming with people around me, but when they talk about their gambling experiences, I'll certainly tell them. It's not about keeping it a secret, but it's also not about openly disclosing it.

People these days are too eager to volunteer information about themselves that no one even asked for, and sometimes this can carry them problems they could have avoided by simply keeping their mouths closed, and gambling is one of those topics, as even if the majority of gamblers out there can gamble in a responsible way, there are a few people out there that cannot do it, this produces a bad image for gamblers in general and if you reveal to a person like that you gamble and that person has some influence over your life then they may cause you problems down the line.

[Lanatsa]

In my area, individuals aged 21 or older don't attract extra attention when engaging in gambling. When someone loses or wins in gambling, the best course of action is often to keep it low-key to prevent it from becoming a significant issue down the road. For those who aren't addicted, it can be discreetly managed without affecting their financial situation.

For individuals who are addicted to gambling, it's no longer possible to keep it hidden or secret. Even their families become aware of it. Warnings often arise from other family members, but there's no positive change in sight.

I've never dealt with gambling on a local platform because I prefer casinos from abroad. I also don't openly share my casino gaming with people around me, but when they talk about their gambling experiences, I'll certainly tell them. It's not about keeping it a secret, but it's also not about openly disclosing it.

People these days are too eager to volunteer information about themselves that no one even asked for, and sometimes this can carry them problems they could have avoided by simply keeping their mouths closed, and gambling is one of those topics, as even if the majority of gamblers out there can gamble in a responsible way, there are a few people out there that cannot do it, this produces a bad image for gamblers in general and if you reveal to a person like that you gamble and that person has some influence over your life then they may cause you problems down the line.

Society or even people around you or close to you would really be might having that negativity towards gambling because it do always reflect out about gambling addiction and this is something that would really be the most common  impression of people around which it isnt limited only into those things mentioned earlier but majority have that kind of bad views towards Gambling and this is why some people would really be that skeptical on showing up on things like doing gambling thing because they dont really like on getting bashed or would really be that having bad views on them because of what they are doing. This is why some would really be keeping it a secret but there are people who doesnt really care about others views since its their money then they could do all things that they do want.

Its a matter of choice because in my part i do really keep it a secret not because of minding about other peoples comments or views but rather i do really avoid for me not to be caught with my wife
because she would definitely be scolding me about the money that being spent on leisure but rather she would be speaking about priorities which i would say its a normal reaction
but making out those limitations are really bit that tight on the neck.

[zuzie]

It's hard for the family and for sure it's not an easy way to accept that but there's no one who can understand or who need to understand the situation than the love one that he have, with your example that amount is really huge, though there's nothing that can do to bring that money back, but the help from the family and love ones in terms of start quitting to avoid more damages is something that needed to work out.

A kind of secret where things will reveal itself, just the same with usual addicted gamblers. When there's nothing left, it will be notice of how they act and how they will try to find ways to continue playing.

A family based on love and affection will easily disappear due to the mistake of one of the family members, it is not easy to forget this incident.
If the husband apologizes because he has made a big mistake in the family by losing gambling without his wife's knowledge, of course this is a betrayal of dishonesty in the household, and if the husband apologizes, one day this mistake will be brought up by the wife in the future.
Yes, it is true that everything that is hidden will definitely be discovered, even if we try our best to keep it a secret, who knows when it will be revealed. The next step is to think clearly whether to stop or continue doing it.

[Fredomago]

It's hard for the family and for sure it's not an easy way to accept that but there's no one who can understand or who need to understand the situation than the love one that he have, with your example that amount is really huge, though there's nothing that can do to bring that money back, but the help from the family and love ones in terms of start quitting to avoid more damages is something that needed to work out.

A kind of secret where things will reveal itself, just the same with usual addicted gamblers. When there's nothing left, it will be notice of how they act and how they will try to find ways to continue playing.

A family based on love and affection will easily disappear due to the mistake of one of the family members, it is not easy to forget this incident.
If the husband apologizes because he has made a big mistake in the family by losing gambling without his wife's knowledge, of course this is a betrayal of dishonesty in the household, and if the husband apologizes, one day this mistake will be brought up by the wife in the future.
Yes, it is true that everything that is hidden will definitely be discovered, even if we try our best to keep it a secret, who knows when it will be revealed. The next step is to think clearly whether to stop or continue doing it.

Better to admit and accept that fault to start finding ways to fix the problem, if you continue you are again putting your life and your family's life in a big possible problems, getting addicted not just harming you but also those people who are surrounding you, they are not also just financially affected but emotional as well, as they know that there's problem that still exist and they will carry that from time to time.

[xSkylarx]

In my area, individuals aged 21 or older don't attract extra attention when engaging in gambling. When someone loses or wins in gambling, the best course of action is often to keep it low-key to prevent it from becoming a significant issue down the road. For those who aren't addicted, it can be discreetly managed without affecting their financial situation.

For individuals who are addicted to gambling, it's no longer possible to keep it hidden or secret. Even their families become aware of it. Warnings often arise from other family members, but there's no positive change in sight.

I've never dealt with gambling on a local platform because I prefer casinos from abroad. I also don't openly share my casino gaming with people around me, but when they talk about their gambling experiences, I'll certainly tell them. It's not about keeping it a secret, but it's also not about openly disclosing it.

People these days are too eager to volunteer information about themselves that no one even asked for, and sometimes this can carry them problems they could have avoided by simply keeping their mouths closed, and gambling is one of those topics, as even if the majority of gamblers out there can gamble in a responsible way, there are a few people out there that cannot do it, this produces a bad image for gamblers in general and if you reveal to a person like that you gamble and that person has some influence over your life then they may cause you problems down the line.

That person is definitely wanting criticism as he wants to share his gambling activity. There will always be a person who will criticize your gambling habits even if you have fully controlled yourself because they are only based on the bad image they see on TV and from other people who have told them. That is why they always think that gambling is a bad thing for people.

It is better to keep quiet and not share a thing with people that you do not know, because most of the time they tend to say curse words at you and try to advise you to stop doing it without any basis.

[stomachgrowls]

It's hard for the family and for sure it's not an easy way to accept that but there's no one who can understand or who need to understand the situation than the love one that he have, with your example that amount is really huge, though there's nothing that can do to bring that money back, but the help from the family and love ones in terms of start quitting to avoid more damages is something that needed to work out.

A kind of secret where things will reveal itself, just the same with usual addicted gamblers. When there's nothing left, it will be notice of how they act and how they will try to find ways to continue playing.

A family based on love and affection will easily disappear due to the mistake of one of the family members, it is not easy to forget this incident.
If the husband apologizes because he has made a big mistake in the family by losing gambling without his wife's knowledge, of course this is a betrayal of dishonesty in the household, and if the husband apologizes, one day this mistake will be brought up by the wife in the future.
Yes, it is true that everything that is hidden will definitely be discovered, even if we try our best to keep it a secret, who knows when it will be revealed. The next step is to think clearly whether to stop or continue doing it.

Trust is the most important part when it comes to marriage on which if you dont like for yourself to get your marriage that having doubts like forever then better not keep secret. This is the most dangerous thing that you would do ever because once you do get caught then your wife would really be losing trust and we know that once it is broken then it cant really be going back into its original state or just like before the thing happens.
This is why if you do decide to keep it a secret then it would really be risky but if you do choose up that way then do your best not to get caught because if you do then it would be over.

Gambling isnt bad as long you do know your limits if you do tend to make use of amounts which isnt really that compromising your family savings.This is why if ever you do into that huge spending then better make your wife do really be able to know on what you are doing or spending because money is really important specially to women.This is why its better to say if ever you do decide on spending more but its not really something ideal
i should say.It would really be that good that you would rather spend it on your family needs that with gambling.

[ethereumhunter]

A family based on love and affection will easily disappear due to the mistake of one of the family members, it is not easy to forget this incident.
If the husband apologizes because he has made a big mistake in the family by losing gambling without his wife's knowledge, of course this is a betrayal of dishonesty in the household, and if the husband apologizes, one day this mistake will be brought up by the wife in the future.
Yes, it is true that everything that is hidden will definitely be discovered, even if we try our best to keep it a secret, who knows when it will be revealed. The next step is to think clearly whether to stop or continue doing it.

If the family relationship is very close, it may take time to forgive the mistakes of one of the family members because, after all, he is a member of the family and each person in the family must have received kindness from that person. Indeed, it hurts if we find out about his mistakes but he is still human, we are also humans who may often make mistakes and they can even be worse than what he did. But if it is a family relationship, for example, a husband or wife, I think some husbands or wives are still willing to forgive their partner for gambling but that is very rare. If it's time for the secret to be revealed, it will still be revealed no matter how we cover it up because that's how the story goes.

[TopTort777]

I can appreciate your perspective. Since you earned it, it's your money. What right does anyone else have to dictate how you use or spend it? But have you ever given it any thought as to why people might be concerned? Yes, it's none of their concern, but occasionally, it's more about you than it is about the money. It's one thing to gamble responsibly, but if you're getting so into it that you have to vehemently announce, "I don't care," it makes me question. I occasionally gamble, but I'm aware of the risks. Hey, it doesn't make it right or bad if no one has expressed disapproval or celebrated. It just indicates that they haven't expressed any opinions. Perhaps they're waiting on you to make a realisation. Just keep in mind that controlling yourself, not the other way around, is more important than worrying about the money

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

Get over it if you're gambling and believe its okay to keep things secret. Gambling is a pit that can suddenly pull you down; it's not some exclusive club you belong to. Being secretive about it? That is a one-way trip to chaos and problems.

I've read pages of people thinking its smarter to be stealthy about their habits. That is absurd! People close to you are the ones who provide you with a lifeline when you're struggling with addiction. But guess what? They cant if they dont know

Trust me, life's too short for games - and not the betting kind. If you have problems, own up to them. Get help. And for goodness' sake, quit thinking silence is golden. Sometimes, its just plain toxic.

Sure you have quoted right person? As I am the one who push the idea that gambling habit should not be kept as a secret As there is nothing special about it, whether it is just a hobby, a way to spend time or have fun. I also find it absurd to hide it from someone, as there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is legal, this isnt bad thing to do.

[bettercrypto]

It's hard for the family and for sure it's not an easy way to accept that but there's no one who can understand or who need to understand the situation than the love one that he have, with your example that amount is really huge, though there's nothing that can do to bring that money back, but the help from the family and love ones in terms of start quitting to avoid more damages is something that needed to work out.

A kind of secret where things will reveal itself, just the same with usual addicted gamblers. When there's nothing left, it will be notice of how they act and how they will try to find ways to continue playing.

A family based on love and affection will easily disappear due to the mistake of one of the family members, it is not easy to forget this incident.
If the husband apologizes because he has made a big mistake in the family by losing gambling without his wife's knowledge, of course this is a betrayal of dishonesty in the household, and if the husband apologizes, one day this mistake will be brought up by the wife in the future.
Yes, it is true that everything that is hidden will definitely be discovered, even if we try our best to keep it a secret, who knows when it will be revealed. The next step is to think clearly whether to stop or continue doing it.

Better to admit and accept that fault to start finding ways to fix the problem, if you continue you are again putting your life and your family's life in a big possible problems, getting addicted not just harming you but also those people who are surrounding you, they are not also just financially affected but emotional as well, as they know that there's problem that still exist and they will carry that from time to time.

As long as we don't ignore our daily obligations, especially if we are family members or the breadwinner, I do not see anything wrong with hiding our love of gaming. Because some people don't want others to know that they gamble because it's their job.

It's also possible that they're keeping it a secret because they don't want to ruin their family or cause another argument with their husband; either scenario is possible. There are thus several explanations for why it is kept a secret.

[Stedsm]

TBH, I don't give a damn when it comes to sharing with people about my gambling habits but I only do that with my friends as I know I can trust them that they won't speak about the same to others even if we fight with each other some day. However, keeping your gambling habits a secret has nothing to do with not having proud on what we are doing because you are respecting your rules towards privacy and you're not breaking it by not saying anything about your gambling habits to anyone, which is also a good thing to do.

[Jody.Drummer]

Of course when you defaulted utility bills, its definitely time to pause and think through. But as long as you manages to make it and you spend the money that your wife has allocated for you, there is no need for her to know how you spend the money or your gambling activity.

Wives talk to other wives. They even talk how big your dick is. So your habit is just another that will make them despise you.

It becomes extremely hard for anyone to hide gambling activities within the home. For example, for a husband, it is almost impossible to hide that he is gambling (even if he is using his own money) as his wife can catch him gambling online on his system or mobile. Yes, you can keep your gambling habit hidden from friends or relatives but it becomes extremely difficult to hide it from the people living at your home.

So in my opinion, it is better to talk to your family, take them in confidence that you are gambling, only allocating certain funds, and show them the profits earned.

Yes, it's like no matter how good you are at hiding something or wherever you hide a carcass, over time it will smell, just like gambling in a family as you said here. Surely one day his wife or child will find out what his husband is doing even though they use their own money, but I think they will be in a position to run out of money and then ask his wife for a little money for all kinds of reasons, and well on average, problems in the family will slide there, and it is not uncommon for it to end in divorce because of worsening economic factors.

Well honestly I agree with you, talking about something will be the best way to solve any problem, especially gambling which can really damage the family economy, I think your wife will also not be too angry at you, and there you can both focus on finding solutions to this problem.

[TopTort777]

As long as we don't ignore our daily obligations, especially if we are family members or the breadwinner, I do not see anything wrong with hiding our love of gaming. Because some people don't want others to know that they gamble because it's their job.

It's also possible that they're keeping it a secret because they don't want to ruin their family or cause another argument with their husband; either scenario is possible. There are thus several explanations for why it is kept a secret.

Can you give some explanations why gambling should be kept in secret? I know only 2: greed and safety. Wish not to share, or wish not to get robbed for example. But these two works only if you win a lot of money.

Keeping in secret to save family? The fact that there is a secret (not exactly about gambling hobby) between family members is a first step for family to ruin. And why a person should hide that he works in gambling industry? Is it illegal or something to be ashamed of? I see nothing bad of having a work and paying taxes. There is no job to be ashamed of. Each work that is legal is important and valuable.

[FanEagle]

This would be the first step to making big bad decisions, if you hide a small amount, you might as well hide a big amount as well. That just means that you are willing to hide it as long as you are not caught, and you do not know how much would be too much and you will keep on trying to gamble more and more without getting caught until you finally do, and that is why it is a big deal.

I think it would be a big deal if you are not careful and I believe that we are going to end up with something that will be a bit of a problem. Hopefully people will end up with something that would be a lot more careful, and if you do that then you are going to end up with something that will make it a bit harder for them to handle, just tell it to someone you know, a close person, and it will be better.

[Altryist]

Yes, it's like no matter how good you are at hiding something or wherever you hide a carcass, over time it will smell, just like gambling in a family as you said here. Surely one day his wife or child will find out what his husband is doing even though they use their own money, but I think they will be in a position to run out of money and then ask his wife for a little money for all kinds of reasons, and well on average, problems in the family will slide there, and it is not uncommon for it to end in divorce because of worsening economic factors.

Well honestly I agree with you, talking about something will be the best way to solve any problem, especially gambling which can really damage the family economy, I think your wife will also not be too angry at you, and there you can both focus on finding solutions to this problem.

Hiding anything from your family is very stupid, even if you want to keep it from your child (teenager) that you are gambling, thus protecting him from getting involved in gambling too early, but keeping it a secret from your wife is completely pointless, and sooner or later it will still become known, but because there were secrets, the relationship could deteriorate. It seems to me that if it does not harm the family, then there is nothing wrong with it.

[Wakate]

TBH, I don't give a damn when it comes to sharing with people about my gambling habits but I only do that with my friends as I know I can trust them that they won't speak about the same to others even if we fight with each other some day. However, keeping your gambling habits a secret has nothing to do with not having proud on what we are doing because you are respecting your rules towards privacy and you're not breaking it by not saying anything about your gambling habits to anyone, which is also a good thing to do.

Gambling habit is something we need to keep to ourselves or else we might hurt people that are around us especially those that care about us. There are some persons that don't like it when they hear that there love ones do gamble for a living. It might look like a taboo but there is nothing we can do about. Gambling is not supposed to make us do things that are not ethical just like some people do anything to make money in the society. We need to watch ourselves and make the right decisions so that we are not going to go astray.

[zuzie]

As long as we don't ignore our daily obligations, especially if we are family members or the breadwinner, I do not see anything wrong with hiding our love of gaming. Because some people don't want others to know that they gamble because it's their job.

It's also possible that they're keeping it a secret because they don't want to ruin their family or cause another argument with their husband; either scenario is possible. There are thus several explanations for why it is kept a secret.

Yes, it is true that obligations to one's own family must always come first, but I also often see a husband using money for his family's needs, for example spending money on gambling, and this will actually create new problems in the family. Because he couldn't manage his finances when gambling.
And at that time his wife began to find out that he was a gambler, even though he was trying to cover up his gambling to his wife, over time he would definitely be found out, because one day he lost, there would definitely be a fight in his family.

[Fredomago]

TBH, I don't give a damn when it comes to sharing with people about my gambling habits but I only do that with my friends as I know I can trust them that they won't speak about the same to others even if we fight with each other some day. However, keeping your gambling habits a secret has nothing to do with not having proud on what we are doing because you are respecting your rules towards privacy and you're not breaking it by not saying anything about your gambling habits to anyone, which is also a good thing to do.

Gambling habit is something we need to keep to ourselves or else we might hurt people that are around us especially those that care about us. There are some persons that don't like it when they hear that there love ones do gamble for a living. It might look like a taboo but there is nothing we can do about. Gambling is not supposed to make us do things that are not ethical just like some people do anything to make money in the society. We need to watch ourselves and make the right decisions so that we are not going to go astray.

Exactly, better decision making and avoiding things that may harmed not just us but more on the side where people around us is also needed to be considered, being engage into gambling is not an easy task to stop, there are people who got addicted and have that big problem which includes their relationship with their close friends and love ones, something that we really don't want to happen to us, we can avoid things if we wisely choose our decision not to engage that deep with gambling.

As long as we don't ignore our daily obligations, especially if we are family members or the breadwinner, I do not see anything wrong with hiding our love of gaming. Because some people don't want others to know that they gamble because it's their job.

It's also possible that they're keeping it a secret because they don't want to ruin their family or cause another argument with their husband; either scenario is possible. There are thus several explanations for why it is kept a secret.

Yes, it is true that obligations to one's own family must always come first, but I also often see a husband using money for his family's needs, for example spending money on gambling, and this will actually create new problems in the family. Because he couldn't manage his finances when gambling.
And at that time his wife began to find out that he was a gambler, even though he was trying to cover up his gambling to his wife, over time he would definitely be found out, because one day he lost, there would definitely be a fight in his family.

You can't cover anything if you already using money that allocated to something important, that kind of gesture only proves that addiction is already present, since you can't control yourself and you are already willing to use money that should be used to a much important thing compared using it with your gambling activities.