Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble?

[Egii Nna]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Two things are involved. One is, did your husband understand how gambling works or not? The school question is: even if he doesn’t view gambling in a positive manner, if he wishes to start gambling, will he be able to control his emotions and finances? If you get these two answers, you are covered by the case study. This is your husband, so you are expected to know many things about him, which include his reaction to things that he doesn’t like. You will find it easy to know if he likes gambling or not. 
 
For instance, you will have a discussion with both of you about the fact about the fact that you saw a film that was fully focused on gambling and you found out many things from there, so what is his view about gambling? So from here, he will be able to express his feelings about gambling. You don’t tell him that you are the one doing the gambling because if he hates it, he will definitely be angry with you. That is why sometimes you have to use some strategies to ask other people for ideas without their knowing. 

[HONDACD125]

Two things are involved. One is, did your husband understand how gambling works or not? The school question is: even if he doesn’t view gambling in a positive manner, if he wishes to start gambling, will he be able to control his emotions and finances? If you get these two answers, you are covered by the case study. This is your husband, so you are expected to know many things about him, which include his reaction to things that he doesn’t like. You will find it easy to know if he likes gambling or not. 
 
For instance, you will have a discussion with both of you about the fact about the fact that you saw a film that was fully focused on gambling and you found out many things from there, so what is his view about gambling? So from here, he will be able to express his feelings about gambling. You don’t tell him that you are the one doing the gambling because if he hates it, he will definitely be angry with you. That is why sometimes you have to use some strategies to ask other people for ideas without their knowing. 

You probably didn't read the OP because you have missed the context of the topic. The topic isn't about the wife telling her husband that he should gamble, but it's about the wife telling her husband that she gambles, which means that the wife gambles but the husband doesn't know, and now the wife is asking whether it is good if she tells him about it or not.

In my opinion, it all boils down to the trust thing. You never know what he might think after he comes to know that you have been hiding this from him this whole time, and this might create trust issues between the two, but if you don't tell him and he comes to know from somewhere else or himself, that would be even more heartbreaking because I can't even imagine that my partner would hide something from me and I would come to know about it from someone else.

[Egii Nna]

Two things are involved. One is, did your husband understand how gambling works or not? The school question is: even if he doesn’t view gambling in a positive manner, if he wishes to start gambling, will he be able to control his emotions and finances? If you get these two answers, you are covered by the case study. This is your husband, so you are expected to know many things about him, which include his reaction to things that he doesn’t like. You will find it easy to know if he likes gambling or not. 
 
For instance, you will have a discussion with both of you about the fact about the fact that you saw a film that was fully focused on gambling and you found out many things from there, so what is his view about gambling? So from here, he will be able to express his feelings about gambling. You don’t tell him that you are the one doing the gambling because if he hates it, he will definitely be angry with you. That is why sometimes you have to use some strategies to ask other people for ideas without their knowing. 

You probably didn't read the OP because you have missed the context of the topic. The topic isn't about the wife telling her husband that he should gamble, but it's about the wife telling her husband that she gambles, which means that the wife gambles but the husband doesn't know, and now the wife is asking whether it is good if she tells him about it or not.

I read what the OP wrote well, which is why I wrote what you see in a bit. I didn’t understand the concept of the topic, but I was taking advantage of the strategies that she can follow in order to tell her husband, and if she knows that her husband is the type of person who hates gambling, she shouldn’t tell him because he will stop her from doing the gambling, and if that happens, she will find it hard to stop. Because based on what she wrote, she already has a good understanding of gambling, and she wants to use this opportunity to inform him if he will be interested in joining because that is the main subject of the topic, so with consideration, you are supposed to know that she is willing to invite her husband to gambling because she thinks it might be very helpful for them. 

[Lanatsa]

I have never had a problem with it. When I started dating a girl and the relationship took hold I would immediately tell her that I play poker. I explained it to her in a calm way so that she would understand because many people associate gambling with problems, vice and things like that. So far I haven't had any problems, but gambling behind your husband's back when you've been with him for years and one day he comes out of the blue, I don't know how it will look like.

And you won't have any problems, because that's how things are done, we can't stop doing what we like for a woman or any woman, since it's our essence, it's what we are, therefore what you did is what every man should do, there are circumstances where those things are hidden perhaps for fear that they won't like it and I think that is a lack of courage on the part of a man, one should always be what one is, and if she doesn't accept it then nothing can be done, she's not the right one, I've seen cases where those things are hidden and sometimes it's a reason for breakups, it's very ugly to see those things, especially in close friendships, and that happened to a friend from university, a very good friend of mine, when he was feeling bad, drinking a lot of alcohol, I saw him in a tavern and he told me the whole story and obviously it was because she didn't like him going to the casino, that he said he was going to look for women and spend money, so I told him: "There are more than 5 billion women in the world and you die for one, just one?" After he understood the magnitude of my words I felt that he changed and began to feel better, and a week later he found another woman, and he looked for me and said, you were right, there are all these women, and one is better than the other, there are many and I ahhh well, and the worst thing is that there are guys who kill themselves, commit suicide just to lose 1 woman.

One of the main issues or potential problems on a relationship is on the moment that the other one would really be keeping up secrets or dealing up with things on which they do know that their partners would really be hating. Lets say that you are already married on which we know that when it comes to finances or money then both sides should really know about the money that been spent no matter how small it would be.
If you wife have decided to make out some sports betting or dealing up with gambling and spending up money in secret but since your husband didnt notice it out then you have decided on keeping it silent.
I would really be rather be saying that it would be better that you should really be making those steps on telling it into your husband or your wife on what you are dealing on with.
In a relationship, its never been good when you are really that hiding something yet this would really be questioning out about your honesty and loyalty on which we know that this is really that
an important trait to have in relatioships.

[Dewi Aries]

A household is a situation where you depend on one income which is usually used to meet all your and your family's living needs, while we know that gambling is an activity that requires a gambler to allocate a certain amount of money, or in the sense that money is a requirement to be able to involved in gambling, meaning this is a habit that can increase family financial expenses, and of course I think it's better to tell our partner about the habits we have, I think if your habit doesn't involve a certain amount of money then it doesn't matter if you don't. tell your partner, but because it is clear that gambling is an activity that involves money then of course it is better for you to tell your partner that you are involved in gambling.

On the other hand, I understand that some of the points you said OP uphold good responsibilities as a gambler, but that doesn't mean it's impossible for you to end up falling and being carried away unconsciously by an impulsive approach to gambling, which of course can lead to You are risking much more money than usual, which means it can certainly threaten the financial balance in your family, so of course I think it's better to be open with our partner, especially since this is a habit that involves money.

[Mr.right85]

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

I don’t know how come am seeing this thread for the first time, perhaps I didn’t give it much attention but, I was smiling all the while I was reading through the OP. Having to find someone who doesn’t really have an idea of gambling, gains interest and feels, you can actually control it from the very first impulse. Well, I really hope it does work that way with you but it’s been since January and out of curiosity, I’m tempted to ask;
Just how have you been fairing since then?

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Two things are involved. One is, did your husband understand how gambling works or not? The school question is: even if he doesn’t view gambling in a positive manner, if he wishes to start gambling, will he be able to control his emotions and finances? If you get these two answers, you are covered by the case study.

I don’t see why you shouldn’t speak up on your concerns in a marriage, it’s a marriage, you both are in it and should it matter to you, you get yo discuss it as a family. I’m sure he would understand it isn’t about selfish interest but, for the common good of both and the rest of the family. Habit on the rise, you discuss how to archive control.

[Forsyth Jones]

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What's the problem with your husband knowing about your side activity, as long as you strictly follow the observations he mentioned to maintain good practice in gambling? Of course, depending on your country and culture, tastes, opinions and marital issues may be different.

But do you like it or do you do it for profit? Well, it doesn't matter much, but is it bringing you a positive financial result? Even if you participate in campaigns here on the forum? What's wrong with him knowing that? I think women should also have their hobbies, tastes and opinions.

[alegotardo]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

The marital relationship between you, but in my religion a couple must fully trust their partner, and that includes the fact that we don't keep secrets.
You should ask yourself: How much could this secret rock my marriage if he finds out some other way?

Another reason for you to tell him this is that it will certainly help you avoid falling into addiction, as the money you spend on games will probably be money that would come from your family income, right? Isn't it right for him to know how this money is being spent and help you spend it responsibly?

[Cryptoprincess101]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Two things are involved. One is, did your husband understand how gambling works or not? The school question is: even if he doesn’t view gambling in a positive manner, if he wishes to start gambling, will he be able to control his emotions and finances? If you get these two answers, you are covered by the case study. This is your husband, so you are expected to know many things about him, which include his reaction to things that he doesn’t like. You will find it easy to know if he likes gambling or not.
 
For instance, you will have a discussion with both of you about the fact about the fact that you saw a film that was fully focused on gambling and you found out many things from there, so what is his view about gambling? So from here, he will be able to express his feelings about gambling. You don’t tell him that you are the one doing the gambling because if he hates it, he will definitely be angry with you. That is why sometimes you have to use some strategies to ask other people for ideas without their knowing.

You made good points here but it is not good for a married woman to get involved in gambling activities that's just it because women becomes more emotional than men so no matter how a woman can control her emotions in gambling, she can't completely bear a loss because as a woman a day may come when you can decide to use the money given to you by your husband for family up keep and gamble since you have knowledge about gamble it will make you to act in conviction sometimes especially if it involves a woman who bets on sports because she can basically see a game that she feels it will play according to her prediction just like when a smaller club meets a bigger team and she wants to make a single event bet because she's so sure of the outcome of the event she can decide to gamble with the money given to her by her husband and might end up losing it.

Even if a woman had a conversation with her husband to find out if he is comfortable with gambling or not, it doesn't change the fact that the wife is a gambler and even if the husband doesn't like gambling but she won't be able to quit her gambling habits because it's hard for people who have been involved in gambling activities to quit, the only thing she can do is to minimize her gambling rate but she definitely is not going to stop after inquiring from her husband if he likes gambling and finds out that her husband don't like gambling. And even if the husband is okay with gambling how will it sound to know that his wife is a gambler if he later finds out. A woman can gamble especially the ones that are not yet married but for a married woman it's not advisable.

[ethereumhunter]

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Two things are involved. One is, did your husband understand how gambling works or not? The school question is: even if he doesn’t view gambling in a positive manner, if he wishes to start gambling, will he be able to control his emotions and finances? If you get these two answers, you are covered by the case study.

I don’t see why you shouldn’t speak up on your concerns in a marriage, it’s a marriage, you both are in it and should it matter to you, you get yo discuss it as a family. I’m sure he would understand it isn’t about selfish interest but, for the common good of both and the rest of the family. Habit on the rise, you discuss how to archive control.

When it comes to marriage, husband and wife needs to openness in anything so there will be no misunderstand especially if one of them wants to playing gambling. However, they know that gambling can makes them lose everything they have even their marriage gets the risks too. If one of them can't control their emotions and finances, that will makes them lose the money and that can triggers to gets more problem than just losing their money.

When someone often playing gambling and finally marriage, he needs to reduce his gambling activity because he doesn't lived alone but he has partner and they needs to sit together and discuss many things including about gambling. They can't lie to their partner because of their habit because that can impact to their marriage and even their life can gets the risks. It's worth to discuss to our partner so they can gives suggestion to us because we are not lived with our partner.

[Kelward]

if it is bothering you that you are keeping a secret from your husband, perhaps it is good to tell him about your gambling activity, being transparent to your spouse is a great way to keep the relationship healthy. but then, what will you do if your husband has a problem that you are gambling, will you quit or will you ignore him?

I'm an advocate of not keeping secrets in a marriage, spouses should be open about their desires and what they engage in to their partners. If you enjoy gambling, there's no need to keep it a secret from your husband, unless you plan to hide the information forever. It'll be nice if he hears it from you rather than learning it from third parties, he'll feel betrayed and it might affect your relationship negatively. Communication is paramount in relationships so you need to educate him about the difference between gambling responsibly and addiction, I'm sure that he loves you and he'll understand.

Being in cryptocurrency and visiting this gambling section will make anybody to understand what responsible gambling is all about. The person can change the perspective of people who are skeptical about gambling, including their spouses.

[TopTort777]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

[MainIbem]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

[TopTort777]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

Add "respect" to the list of the attributes to make it full Sometimes a husband or wife must accept that hobby, passion or something their second half is interested in. Dont like wife gambling, tell it her, but not straight, but give some tactical hints, try to monitor her gambling spending's and etc. There is always something that your second half does not like or accept from you also, but he/she keeps silent about it or give little hints. Anyway, compromises can always be found. And it is important not to be silent about something you dont like or want to keep in secret.

[sompitonov]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

I also did not want, as a husband, for my wife to hide anything from me, especially gambling stories. I would be furious if I woke up one morning and discovered that our family was in debt to creditors or family friends. I think it was unpleasant for absolutely everyone, it was like a very serious deception.

Although, if you look from the other side, after confessing to your husband, he can leave his wife, but this is a very difficult question, because maybe he was going to do it anyway, and this confession became a trigger. After this, this wife may regret her action all her life and understand that she should not tell the truth, but rather deceive for her own benefit or something like that.

[Zoomic]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

Add "respect" to the list of the attributes to make it full Sometimes a husband or wife must accept that hobby, passion or something their second half is interested in. Dont like wife gambling, tell it her, but not straight, but give some tactical hints, try to monitor her gambling spending's and etc. There is always something that your second half does not like or accept from you also, but he/she keeps silent about it or give little hints. Anyway, compromises can always be found. And it is important not to be silent about something you dont like or want to keep in secret.

I am just trying to process the possible reasons that will make a wife to gamble and hide it from her husband. Wives are expected to know their husbands, what they like and what they dislike before making any decision. A wive who hides her gambling lifestyle from her husband already knows the husband is against gambling but she still chose to disrespect him. Respect is very important in every marriage either from the man or the woman, any party who chose to hide things from the other is already cheating and it is wrong in marriage.

Whether the husband likes gambling or not, no wife should hide gambling or any other activity from the husband, little secrets like this ruins trust in marriage.

[stomachgrowls]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

I also did not want, as a husband, for my wife to hide anything from me, especially gambling stories. I would be furious if I woke up one morning and discovered that our family was in debt to creditors or family friends. I think it was unpleasant for absolutely everyone, it was like a very serious deception.

Although, if you look from the other side, after confessing to your husband, he can leave his wife, but this is a very difficult question, because maybe he was going to do it anyway, and this confession became a trigger. After this, this wife may regret her action all her life and understand that she should not tell the truth, but rather deceive for her own benefit or something like that.

As a husband then hiding something from me is a no good thing specially if this one talks about gambling whereas finances would really be that affected but if she talks about its extra money then it would be fine but i do always prefer on knowing everything or some sort of honesty and transparency on which we know that this is something that makes relationship even more stronger. In wives point of view then it would really be that the same which we dont really like that something is really that being hidden on which everything should be known and that the recipe for long lasting relationship which being honest and be transparent on whatever things that we are involving with then we should really let our partners do able to know on what we are doing and not really that making them blind.

It woud realy be always important that y ou should realy be mindful about your partners feelings on the moment that they do find out that you are really that keeping something
which arent that they do like. Its better to have at least do have that kind of tranparency and telling everything on which you are getting involved with.

[hedgeh0g]

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

I also did not want, as a husband, for my wife to hide anything from me, especially gambling stories. I would be furious if I woke up one morning and discovered that our family was in debt to creditors or family friends. I think it was unpleasant for absolutely everyone, it was like a very serious deception.

Although, if you look from the other side, after confessing to your husband, he can leave his wife, but this is a very difficult question, because maybe he was going to do it anyway, and this confession became a trigger. After this, this wife may regret her action all her life and understand that she should not tell the truth, but rather deceive for her own benefit or something like that.

The fact is that we do not know the full picture of the relationship between husband and wife, and there may be subtleties, so I personally would never be able to advise anything in such a situation. Of course, many can help with advice, but they can also do harm, and we shouldn’t forget about that)

I think that most of their advice here would be for the wife to tell her husband about her passion for gambling, because everything should be open, but the fact is that in life sometimes a sweet lie is better, I have been convinced of this several times in my life. Because concealment can save the marriage and in a few years they may not even remember about gambling. I want to say that in life sometimes everything is not so obvious and before doing something, you need to think about it several times.

[Roseline492]

I also did not want, as a husband, for my wife to hide anything from me, especially gambling stories. I would be furious if I woke up one morning and discovered that our family was in debt to creditors or family friends. I think it was unpleasant for absolutely everyone, it was like a very serious deception.

What you are saying is true because in every marriage sincerity is one of the most important thing, though we know that sometimes people have reasons they choose not to tell there husband but I realized that is not the right way to go about it because one of the things that hurts so much is when they learn about things from people about there spouse and sometimes it possibly lead to marriage separation because when there is know trust the marriage is bound to fail, though I know that the reason why most women decides not to tell there husband about there gambling habits is because of the hatred the husband would have had on gambling but still that shouldn't be a reason someone will decide not tell him.

[o48o]

The fact is that we do not know the full picture of the relationship between husband and wife, and there may be subtleties, so I personally would never be able to advise anything in such a situation. Of course, many can help with advice, but they can also do harm, and we shouldn’t forget about that)

I think that most of their advice here would be for the wife to tell her husband about her passion for gambling, because everything should be open, but the fact is that in life sometimes a sweet lie is better, I have been convinced of this several times in my life. Because concealment can save the marriage and in a few years they may not even remember about gambling. I want to say that in life sometimes everything is not so obvious and before doing something, you need to think about it several times.

I don't even know what you mean by such subtleties that would prevent communication or honesty about such things. Other than if they have an agreement that they don't have to be open about everything to each other. Which is fine, but i guess it's more a matter of why not. Because what op is doing is her own business, sure, and she don't have any obligations in my view to report everything to her husband, especially when it's not causing any problems.

But if i would be the OP, i would ask myself, what's my motivation about hiding this specifically. Why wouldn't i mention about it? Is it fear of judgement or something worse? Because then i would have to double think about the marriage, and what are we hiding from each other and why. Everyone can have their secrets, but if the reasons for not sharing are getting too heavy, then i would rethink my situation.

If that gambling would be a problem, then only thing i can see worth not being open in a healthy marriage is that if that partner is abusive, and that gambler is afraid of her/his violent partner. But at that point the whole marriage would be divorce-ready anyway, and maybe there would be larger issues to focuse on.