Do you blame someone for your gambling losses?

[Fredomago]

Court sentences mother, son to 7 years imprisonment and what did they do? Court sentences mother, son to 7 years imprisonment


The mother and the son after gambling away 5.6 million naira, that is about $8,000. When the reality dawned on them, they gave false information in petition, accusing someone of fraudulently transferring the fund from their Opay account to the sport betting account without their authorization.

Could this be a case of making someone pay for what they didn't eat or a case of double standard.

Bet as you can sustain and not allow your emotions have a better part of you.

Gambling is real and the addiction is real but the case of mother and son is surprising to me
 It used to be son and the mother or the parents act as check on their son by threatening to report to the agencies. I mean in the countries like the one described by Op. Some times Father and son works and conivr together but I am surprised of the case of mother and son.
It could be that the son misled the mother and I can say that the judge was just lenient on them for the reduced cost to order.

They both give the consent of trying to blame someone with the gambling addiction/participation. Either it's a mother and son or a father and son duo the action are the same, trying to point fingers to someone but the truth is they are the one who really perform the action and they both lose the money as the court see the weight of their claims.

It's a lesson to be learned that addiction can really hurt your finances to the point that you'll be able to do something that is not how a normal person can do.

[ethereumhunter]

With that reasoning out, they've already denied it that it's not their fault. But even if they will deny it, they've already been sentenced and that's more than enough for them.

Hopefully, the punishment can make them realize what they did was wrong. And they also want to make up for it after getting out of prison.

That should how it must be but, there's now that doubt that it won't be as exact as what we're thinking because they might just go back and again, blame it again to the others and anything if they've been caught and got a losing streak.

If they can't do their best to make amends, no one will be able to help them and just leave them in jail for a long time. If they did it again and got caught, no one would care about it and just leave it be. They should be able to change for the better later and regret their mistakes.

[ultrloa]

Sad to hear what happened here. But yeah, there are people that would blame others if they lose their money when gambling. And then there are people that would claim that lost they money "by mistake' or someone stole their money (which actually happened in this story that you posted), but it was actually them. When they lost, they realized what has happened, and now they somehow wants to get their money back. Happens more at online casino where players claim that they account was hacked, the game was bugged or straight blaming the casino saying their games are rigged. Not something very unsual.

These people that you mentioned are in denial. They can't seem to accept the fact that they have lost the game and they have lost the funds they bet on especially if the amount is a huge one. Sometimes people tend to blame others for their own doing because they don't want to carry all the burden such as the regrets and losses that came from the miscalculated or impulsive decision they have made. If you are close with someone that possess this kind of mindset, you should give them a heads up about their actions. But if they won't do something about it or if ever they lash out on you because of your concern about them, it's time to cut them off before you also fall victim into their dirty tactics.

Just deserve all the people are not equal in behavior or actions, there are also differences among gamblers. Some blame others to hide their own failures. But you must be careful when dealing with such gamblers otherwise you too can be found guilty anytime. There are many gamblers who do not blame others when they lose at the wits of others. They know very well that since he will not give anyone the loss or profit share of gambling, he will not blame anyone. A gambler conducts gambling with his own money so should not be influenced by the words of others.

Blame fest? Nah, it's a shame fest, folks! Gamblers, so eager to dodge their blunders, they'll do anything to dump blame elsewhere. Here's the deal: gambling? You're the captain, the mastermind. Nobody else calls the shots, nobody else accountable for the highs and lows. So, why not embrace your choices? Own your gambling odyssey. Tough? Sure. But way better than the blame circus and pulling others into the mess, right?

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

[Negotiation]

As far as gambling is concern nobody is to be blamed in losses of an individual bettor take for instance if you play sports bet you know when choosing an odd nobody directs you on what to do first of all you consider to choose the team that is in their peak at the moment, when the fail to deliver are you to blame anybody when you know that you personally make your selection.

I get your point mate and the truth  be told that most times as a person,  there have been some cases that at some point, we tend to regret our losses and which we made another option rather than the very own that was chosen.
Whatever the case might be, mkst gamblers if not all already know that we are solely  responsible  for all our actions but there are cases when we wish we can blame anyone  for our losses.

You're right usually when gambling sites get hurt by advice from others without practicing it themselves, many people blame it. But when it comes to gambling, it is better to consider yourself rather than blame others. Many people use their intelligence information and analytical skills to win one bet after another. There will be less regret for losses here because later one will win by applying one's intellect.

[gabbie2010]

I think they're just trying to save themselves from huge losses but what they did have brought them into a worse situation. The truth will always prevail no matter how we cover up our mistakes. Blaming someone else isn't a good idea and it couldn't even save us from our huge losses. We are only dragging ourselves to bad situations more. It will be better to control ourselves or just accept losses in case we lose our funds since that's a part of gambling. We can't blame others if we are the ones who are making wrong decisions.

Infact they are very lucky that the money belongs to both of them had it been it was a loan or borrowed money used to gamble they could have forfeited there assets and properties to repay the loan and probably sentence to prison, this is a risk not worth taken at all after losing the whole $8,000 they tried to blame someone else in a false claim, honestly the judge even gave them an option of fine which I believe is a soft landing and was very lenient with them, unfortunately they duo are not ready to accept their losses after gambling with the whole money probably anticipating winning a much more money, they could have gamble with part of the money but they were very greedy.

[molsewid]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

[EarnOnVictor]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

Loss is not a total failure and failure with experience derived from it even weighs more than success at times. It is so unfair of anyone to blame someone for their losses, although this particular case on this thread is different. These people are pathetic scammers, they are wicked actually and want to indirectly scam the company, thinking that a thorough investigation would not be carried out.

Neither did they think that it could reach the level of finding themselves behind bars.

[madnessteat]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

Personally, I do not see the point in blaming someone else when I make a mistake, because only by understanding the reason for a mistake can we learn not to make it. In my opinion you have told correctly, that search of guilty around itself is a defense mechanism of the person, but only I in such situation would prefer not to be deceived, because only possessing the true information it is possible to estimate soberly world around us and to interpret these or those events.

[carlisle1]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable.

Yes, that's mostly embedded to us as human nature, things that we don't want to be accountable, and we wanted to point our fingers
to blame someone just to satisfy our guilt.

We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

And we can't remove that in fault finder even it's your own mistake you will always find ways to throw those blame to other people
just to stay and continue what you are doing with your gambling habits.

[dezoel]

I have seen several people who gamble on the advice of others and are very happy when they win. If suddenly they lose, they blame the person whose advice they gambled on. Never get hot while gambling if you lose your head.  If you make a rash decision then you will lose all your money. If you can gamble with your thoughts then it will be very good for you. But I think those who are totally involved with Joya have no peace in their life and are always depressed.

Yeah, such people exist and I've seen them too, and you won't believe how annoying such people are. And some are even worst than that, when they are gambling, if you are around, they will ask for your advice or suggestion and when you suggest something and they place a bet based on that if they win, they praise you and be happy, but when they lose, they simply blame you for that.

Even if they don't say it in front of you, they will say it to someone else in your absence and that makes you way too angry but you decide to just leave them and don't give them any attention the next time when they are around.

[nullama]

~snip~
Yeah, such people exist and I've seen them too, and you won't believe how annoying such people are. And some are even worst than that, when they are gambling, if you are around, they will ask for your advice or suggestion and when you suggest something and they place a bet based on that if they win, they praise you and be happy, but when they lose, they simply blame you for that.

Even if they don't say it in front of you, they will say it to someone else in your absence and that makes you way too angry but you decide to just leave them and don't give them any attention the next time when they are around.

Yeah, many gamblers will try to blame someone else for their own action, and also explain unknown phenomena (winning in a roulette, etc) with some weird explanation like they won because they had a beautiful girl next to them, or whatever.

It's all fun and games while they are winning, but it becomes rather nasty when they lose. And many gamblers lose it all in a night, and can get quite destructive. Best to stay far away from that negative force, otherwise you might end up in a bad situation.

[Nrcewker]

People taking lives for money, and you think someone cannot blame ? I don’t know about the case mentioned in the OP, but most of the time, if people losses huge amount of money they blame on other person. Directly or indirectly they point the second person and some how made him responsible for the losses. If instead of the loss, if the bet goes for win, then they will praise the second person, but if by chance the bet goes to loss, then for the whole rest of the life, they gonna abuse him. So if it’s your money,then you should bet on your calls only.

[BobK71]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

I agree with you. There are many gamblers who blame others as a way of comforting themselves after losing. Such a trend is seen among many gamblers. As the number of such gamblers is high, they are more or less everywhere.They cannot bear that defeat alone. A gambler should welcome win or lose. Gambling by blaming others can't guarantee a win so why blame others? There is a lack of awareness among those who practice such behavior. If you can't win by blaming others, what's the advantage?

[Distinctin]

As far as gambling is concern nobody is to be blamed in losses of an individual bettor take for instance if you play sports bet you know when choosing an odd nobody directs you on what to do first of all you consider to choose the team that is in their peak at the moment, when the fail to deliver are you to blame anybody when you know that you personally make your selection.

I get your point mate and the truth  be told that most times as a person,  there have been some cases that at some point, we tend to regret our losses and which we made another option rather than the very own that was chosen.
Whatever the case might be, mkst gamblers if not all already know that we are solely  responsible  for all our actions but there are cases when we wish we can blame anyone  for our losses.

I guess those who are blaming others for their losses in gambling are actually not responsible gamblers because they put the blame on others when everything they do in the first place is actually from their own will and decision. Though in some instances, gamblers may blame others, maybe in the case for tipsters whom they actually believe that they will really win the game without doubts.

[Fatunad]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

I agree with you. There are many gamblers who blame others as a way of comforting themselves after losing. Such a trend is seen among many gamblers. As the number of such gamblers is high, they are more or less everywhere.They cannot bear that defeat alone. A gambler should welcome win or lose. Gambling by blaming others can't guarantee a win so why blame others? There is a lack of awareness among those who practice such behavior. If you can't win by blaming others, what's the advantage?

Pointing out your fingers into someone is totally insensible or something which does have no point. What if you do blame up someone because of your losses? Are you taking back those things or just simply trying out to ease the pain and emotion or rage that you do feel inside? It is really a typical but in the sense that there's no way on taking back things up once again which means there's no point on doing so.
You would really be just creating some possible ruckus or trouble around.On the time that you would be pointing out fingers then whats next?

In regarding on the situation which had been stated on OP, then its impossible that there's someone who could have the access of their card.Once there is really some unrecognized or unauthorize transactions
whether on your bank account or credit or debit/card then it would be definitely be sending out those alerts which the situation wont really become that worst or would be having that
huge spending or slice of the money they do have. I cant really just believe such story imho.

[abel1337]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

I agree with you. There are many gamblers who blame others as a way of comforting themselves after losing. Such a trend is seen among many gamblers. As the number of such gamblers is high, they are more or less everywhere.They cannot bear that defeat alone. A gambler should welcome win or lose. Gambling by blaming others can't guarantee a win so why blame others? There is a lack of awareness among those who practice such behavior. If you can't win by blaming others, what's the advantage?

Pointing out your fingers into someone is totally insensible or something which does have no point. What if you do blame up someone because of your losses? Are you taking back those things or just simply trying out to ease the pain and emotion or rage that you do feel inside? It is really a typical but in the sense that there's no way on taking back things up once again which means there's no point on doing so.
You would really be just creating some possible ruckus or trouble around.On the time that you would be pointing out fingers then whats next?

In regarding on the situation which had been stated on OP, then its impossible that there's someone who could have the access of their card.Once there is really some unrecognized or unauthorize transactions
whether on your bank account or credit or debit/card then it would be definitely be sending out those alerts which the situation wont really become that worst or would be having that
huge spending or slice of the money they do have. I cant really just believe such story imho.

Yep it's insensible as if they are the cause of how you lose on your gambling session. I'm guessing that they are just steaming out the anger and frustrations they have inside to reduce the pain of losing such money but yeah it's not a right way of blowing steam on someone especially if they didn't do anything to cause the losses. It also just make the situation worst and I don't think that doing it is right at the first place. If you can't manage your loses, Asses yourself first on how did you end up on that point and reflect. Blaming other don't really do anything good.

[AmoreJaz]

People taking lives for money, and you think someone cannot blame ? I don’t know about the case mentioned in the OP, but most of the time, if people losses huge amount of money they blame on other person. Directly or indirectly they point the second person and some how made him responsible for the losses. If instead of the loss, if the bet goes for win, then they will praise the second person, but if by chance the bet goes to loss, then for the whole rest of the life, they gonna abuse him. So if it’s your money,then you should bet on your calls only.

well, the OP's story is that the suspect himself used the money for gambling and lost it and yet, they accused of someone siphoning their funds without their knowledge. they thought they can get away with it but nope. they are the ones who should be blamed because it is them that used their funds.
i can understand that if your friends made a bet and you split up with the payment of the bet, and you followed the bet of your friend and lost. somehow there will be blaming part on this. but if you agreed on such bet, so it is also on you.

[BobK71]

As far as gambling is concern nobody is to be blamed in losses of an individual bettor take for instance if you play sports bet you know when choosing an odd nobody directs you on what to do first of all you consider to choose the team that is in their peak at the moment, when the fail to deliver are you to blame anybody when you know that you personally make your selection.

I get your point mate and the truth  be told that most times as a person,  there have been some cases that at some point, we tend to regret our losses and which we made another option rather than the very own that was chosen.
Whatever the case might be, mkst gamblers if not all already know that we are solely  responsible  for all our actions but there are cases when we wish we can blame anyone  for our losses.

I guess those who are blaming others for their losses in gambling are actually not responsible gamblers because they put the blame on others when everything they do in the first place is actually from their own will and decision. Though in some instances, gamblers may blame others, maybe in the case for tipsters whom they actually believe that they will really win the game without doubts.

Yes, In accordance with the OP's direction they are blaming others for getting out of that situation when they lose after betting themselves. However, their cleverness is easily caught by others. Although they claim to be innocent, they themselves are guilty of nature. There are some gamblers who cannot bear their losses. Then they try to be humanely lighter by blaming others. But there is no advantage by blaming others but only to spoil the gambling environment.

[Fatunad]

Some people do that to escape the feeling if being guilty in their own negligence and mostly they blane the casino as rigged one since they want to create situation maybe a part of revenge that they are scam and each result is manipulated that's why they lose.  Not everyone can easily handle the situation and good for people who can accept immediately on what they are receiving and try to become more better on next time around.

Actually, it is a defense mechanism. In order for a person not to be felt accountable or if don't want to be responsible for his or her losses he will blame other people or some other things just to make himself feel better and comfortable. We should be the one who will be accountable for everything that we are doing especially when we are betting and when we lose too much because of our greed then we should not point it to other people or to the current scenario we are facing.

I agree with you. There are many gamblers who blame others as a way of comforting themselves after losing. Such a trend is seen among many gamblers. As the number of such gamblers is high, they are more or less everywhere.They cannot bear that defeat alone. A gambler should welcome win or lose. Gambling by blaming others can't guarantee a win so why blame others? There is a lack of awareness among those who practice such behavior. If you can't win by blaming others, what's the advantage?

Pointing out your fingers into someone is totally insensible or something which does have no point. What if you do blame up someone because of your losses? Are you taking back those things or just simply trying out to ease the pain and emotion or rage that you do feel inside? It is really a typical but in the sense that there's no way on taking back things up once again which means there's no point on doing so.
You would really be just creating some possible ruckus or trouble around.On the time that you would be pointing out fingers then whats next?

In regarding on the situation which had been stated on OP, then its impossible that there's someone who could have the access of their card.Once there is really some unrecognized or unauthorize transactions
whether on your bank account or credit or debit/card then it would be definitely be sending out those alerts which the situation wont really become that worst or would be having that
huge spending or slice of the money they do have. I cant really just believe such story imho.

Yep it's insensible as if they are the cause of how you lose on your gambling session. I'm guessing that they are just steaming out the anger and frustrations they have inside to reduce the pain of losing such money but yeah it's not a right way of blowing steam on someone especially if they didn't do anything to cause the losses. It also just make the situation worst and I don't think that doing it is right at the first place. If you can't manage your loses, Asses yourself first on how did you end up on that point and reflect. Blaming other don't really do anything good.

If its just for the sake of steaming out your anger and frustration then it isnt the right way on doing so on which you would blame out someone on the mistakes that you have done which it doesnt really make no sense.
There's no one who should really be blamed out into your condition but only into yourself.It isnt really just right to make out some argumentation or quarrels into someone basing on what you have done.
Its your action then it is really that there's no one should really be blamed on but you. In speaking about easing out the pain or the anger then there's lots of options for you to take. You could
really pull out yourself into that gambling session and call it a day without having any words to say and as much as possible it would be ideal that you should really be that avoiding other people discussion
because most likely you would really that get irritated on the time that you would be facing up someone. So its better to avoid rather than on starting up some possible conflicts which i dont really
like for it to happen.

[Silberman]

Yep it's insensible as if they are the cause of how you lose on your gambling session. I'm guessing that they are just steaming out the anger and frustrations they have inside to reduce the pain of losing such money but yeah it's not a right way of blowing steam on someone especially if they didn't do anything to cause the losses. It also just make the situation worst and I don't think that doing it is right at the first place. If you can't manage your loses, Asses yourself first on how did you end up on that point and reflect. Blaming other don't really do anything good.

One of the most common humans reactions is denial, whenever people receive some sort of bad news the very first thing they do is to deny that such a thing even happened, and it is not until they have no other choice but to accept the reality in front of them they finally decide to do it, the people described on the OP lost their money against the casino, but since this was not part of their plans they simply thought they could deny the reality and find a way to get their money back, and now they are realizing that doing such a thing can bring grave consequences to themselves.