Keeping your gambling habit a secret.

[Gozie51]

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

It is not that they are not proud of what they do but we live in a world of psychopath that people expect you to behave in certain way which is the norms and custom that people are known with.

There could be two are three reasons that I can justify that people hide such gambling habit and one is that of religion and family upbringing/background. It is like the case we treated here where a boy from religious home won $46k from sports bet but couldn't freely disclose to his parents who are religious people.

Another reason could be the marriage status. If a man is married and the wife doesn't like gambling, while the man does, it is likely that the man will continue but will hide it from the wife. I have seen a man who hides his gambling habit from the wife but other people know about it, sometimes the woman criticize gamblers and vouch for his husband that he doesn't involve in such unrewarding venture but people would laugh at her ignorance.

Another reason could be what people will say, that is the society especially when they don't know you are gambling. If you are a prig then you are likely to be hiding your gambling habit.

[gabbie2010]

We live in a society where people have different views about something and these views could be drawn based on different constituent like personal sentiment, religion, ideology and experience. And speaking of gamble there are those that view it as an irresponsible activity to embark on and whoever is into it is tag as irresponsible guy, for some it beyond being irresponsible but a sin something that is evil,  while some others out of an ugly experience of a loved one that got ruined by it due to extreme addiction.

In my country gambling is always discouraged by religious leaders during their preaching though they emphasized more the implication of being addicted to gambling and how it would ruin their life, however due to low income earned by a lot of youths they shunned and disregarded sermons of those preachers who kicked against gambling because they needed extra source of income to supplement their take home pay though majority of those youths gambled mainly on soccer bettings.

These factors has made a number of gamblers to keep their gambling habit a secret doing all they could not to let friends and family  know they gamble. And it does seem like they ain't proud of what they're doing.

But why continue in what you're not proud of by keeping it secret cause maybe you're worried about what people may say, how their thoughts about your person might change. Or how you might loose ties with someone you hold dear to. And many other reasons that follows.

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

The availability of online gambling sites had made it easier for gamblers who would have been blacklisted if they choose to bet at a physical shop or kiosk, with online casinos, betting app etc gamblers has the freedom to gamble anonymously without any interference of course as a gambler I am proud of what I am doing in as much as I earned extra income from it, my wife is aware of my soccer bettings though I gambled responsibly.

[pawanjain]

I think it's mostly because of the fact that they enjoy gambling but are reluctant to disclose it to others because they know that others won't encourage them to do it.
It's when we know what we are doing is not really encouraged by others but still we choose to do it is when people make that thing a secret.
We can't really judge people because of this. It's not about being proud of something but enjoying it.

[Hispo]

In my case, I have not talked about any of my dices sessions to my family, it is because I rather find it to be irrelevant, since I have not turned gambling into a very strong habit I do everyday, I am rather a casual gambler and casual drinker.

Though, this thread and other posts I have written today have made me conspired to tell them about my casual activities, just for them to know I trust them and also so they can check on me when they believe there is something wrong happening to me.

I think most of gamblers experiment shame, I would bet there is an study about it somewhere on the internet.

Interesting thoughts Hispo.

You did right because, you know, prevention is better than cure. In my case I'm also a very casual gambler so, although my family knows that I play from time to time, I don't tell them every time since I also believe that it is irrelevant. But this is the first step to develop an addiction: underestimation.

So I might think about it twice and don't feel shy or ashamed when I do it, so maybe I should be even more transparent with them.

I believe that the shame starts when one losses an amount which would make our family upset about us and our gambling activities. For example, if I lost 1$ in dices, it would be irrelevant to my family and I could say to them easily about that loss. However, things change when the quantity increases and becomes hundreds or even thousands.

The person may feel like trying to chase the losses, so the family members won't even notice what happened, which eventually only leads to more potential loss.

[kamvreto]

In my case, I have not talked about any of my dices sessions to my family, it is because I rather find it to be irrelevant, since I have not turned gambling into a very strong habit I do everyday, I am rather a casual gambler and casual drinker.

Though, this thread and other posts I have written today have made me conspired to tell them about my casual activities, just for them to know I trust them and also so they can check on me when they believe there is something wrong happening to me.

I think most of gamblers experiment shame, I would bet there is an study about it somewhere on the internet.

Interesting thoughts Hispo.

You did right because, you know, prevention is better than cure. In my case I'm also a very casual gambler so, although my family knows that I play from time to time, I don't tell them every time since I also believe that it is irrelevant. But this is the first step to develop an addiction: underestimation.

So I might think about it twice and don't feel shy or ashamed when I do it, so maybe I should be even more transparent with them.

I believe that the shame starts when one losses an amount which would make our family upset about us and our gambling activities. For example, if I lost 1$ in dices, it would be irrelevant to my family and I could say to them easily about that loss. However, things change when the quantity increases and becomes hundreds or even thousands.

The person may feel like trying to chase the losses, so the family members won't even notice what happened, which eventually only leads to more potential loss.

The potential for greater losses is likely to occur, it will even make matters worse. When you've lost a few hundred dollars in gambling, that's a warning to stop for a moment and think about what you're going to do to make it back, not by topping up over and over and hoping to hit the jackpot. This will disrupt psychology, and will certainly have a negative impact on all sectors. Even problems like this do not only occur in gambling, but also in futures trading with high leverage.

[Weawant]

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

There could be different reasons why people keep their gambling life a secret. It could be because they're a private people and don't want to let their life out to the public records for judgement as some society aren't yet civilized to the point which they won't see gambling as a bad thing.

Some society discourage people from gambling as they consider it to be destructive and not biblical and this are society that has some much respect for religion like the muslim brothers. While some society don't allow the female gander to gamble so they don't do it openly.

Some people both man and woman hide their gambling life because of the discrimination that comes from been seen as a gambler. People think everybody gambling is addicted and losing money so they stay away from them which is why those gambling hide it from others.

[noormcs5]

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

There could be different reasons why people keep their gambling life a secret. It could be because they're a private people and don't want to let their life out to the public records for judgement as some society aren't yet civilized to the point which they won't see gambling as a bad thing.

Some society discourage people from gambling as they consider it to be destructive and not biblical and this are society that has some much respect for religion like the muslim brothers. While some society don't allow the female gander to gamble so they don't do it openly.

Some people both man and woman hide their gambling life because of the discrimination that comes from been seen as a gambler. People think everybody gambling is addicted and losing money so they stay away from them which is why those gambling hide it from others.

There can be two reasons why gamblers will want not to disclose that they are gambling.

The number 1 reason can be society. In this case, the gambler may be living in a society where gambling is not considered a good thing and he does not want other people to know that he is gambling.

The number 2 reason can be the pressure from the family who do not want him to gamble. It can be his wife forcing him to stop gambling or his parents (if he is unmarried) asking to stop gamble.

[CarnagexD]

I think it's mostly because of the fact that they enjoy gambling but are reluctant to disclose it to others because they know that others won't encourage them to do it.
It's when we know what we are doing is not really encouraged by others but still we choose to do it is when people make that thing a secret.
We can't really judge people because of this. It's not about being proud of something but enjoying it.

i get the same idea. same though as i read the thread. Seems like most folks have a soft spot for gambling but feel a bit shy to admit it openly. I guess they're worried that others might frown upon it or give them a hard time.

it is that whole "doing something even when it's not the most popular choice" that turns it into a secret affair. And hey, who are we to judge, right? It's not always about waving a flag and being proud, sometimes it's just about having a good time doing what you enjoy, no matter what the peanut gallery says.

[SatoPrincess]

We live in a society where people have different views about something and these views could be drawn based on different constituent like personal sentiment, religion, ideology and experience. And speaking of gamble there are those that view it as an irresponsible activity to embark on and whoever is into it is tag as irresponsible guy, for some it beyond being irresponsible but a sin something that is evil,  while some others out of an ugly experience of a loved one that got ruined by it due to extreme addiction.

These factors has made a number of gamblers to keep their gambling habit a secret doing all they could not to let friends and family  know they gamble. And it does seem like they ain't proud of what they're doing.

But why continue in what you're not proud of by keeping it secret cause maybe you're worried about what people may say, how their thoughts about your person might change. Or how you might loose ties with someone you hold dear to. And many other reasons that follows.

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

Isn’t that the same case for every addiction? No one is proud of an addiction, it could be masturbation, drugs, pornography,or gambling. There is a guilt that comes from being unable to resist an act that you have promised yourself never to do again. It’s not easy to stop, I think the best way to overcome addiction is to find a support group and work your way towards recovery step by step.

[Dzwaafu11]

We live in a society where people have different views about something and these views could be drawn based on different constituent like personal sentiment, religion, ideology and experience. And speaking of gamble there are those that view it as an irresponsible activity to embark on and whoever is into it is tag as irresponsible guy, for some it beyond being irresponsible but a sin something that is evil,  while some others out of an ugly experience of a loved one that got ruined by it due to extreme addiction.

To me, it's a normal thing, even though religiously, gambling is prohibited. We all know that, but something came up due to our environment or when you did not have any hope again, rather than seeing this as another way that you can be able to manage your financial problems, which I believe is why some people gamble and other people like me gamble because I love football and gambling makes me happy, and I don't really care what society says about what I'm doing; it's my life, and I'm not collecting money from someone to gamble, so I really view what they said about what to discourage someone from what they wish to do.

However, not only gambling, there are many other things we do today that, even if they're in a good way, people will still criticize, and that's why you can see many people today don't listen to what people say and move on with their lives. This life now, I view it in the way that if you want to succeed, don't follow what people say about what you're doing because many of them are just saying it because they don't want you to reach it, so once you know what you're doing, you're in the right place. Go on.

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

It's not about being proud, but many of these people are not even enjoying it, but they have been addicted to it from the beginning, and that is why they cannot tell anyone about it because even if they did, they would still ask them to stop it, which they can't, so I think that is why they hide their gambling experiences from themselves because they don't want anyone to know.

[Frankolala]

I think it's mostly because of the fact that they enjoy gambling but are reluctant to disclose it to others because they know that others won't encourage them to do it.
It's when we know what we are doing is not really encouraged by others but still we choose to do it is when people make that thing a secret.
We can't really judge people because of this. It's not about being proud of something but enjoying it.

Meaning you have guilt in you that is why you are keeping your gambling activities secretive from friends and family. I like it when people love me for who I am and not because of what they see me do.

I was once secretive about my gambling activities but I couldn't hide it anymore to my close friend because he is always keeping an eye on me. Since we are adult, I told him that it gives me joy and that I do it for fun. Later he didn't criticise gambling anymore because he sees that I don't behave like a gambler that do gamble excessively.

[Oluwa-btc]

We live in a society where people have different views about something and these views could be drawn based on different constituent like personal sentiment, religion, ideology and experience. And speaking of gamble there are those that view it as an irresponsible activity to embark on and whoever is into it is tag as irresponsible guy, for some it beyond being irresponsible but a sin something that is evil,  while some others out of an ugly experience of a loved one that got ruined by it due to extreme addiction.

These factors has made a number of gamblers to keep their gambling habit a secret doing all they could not to let friends and family  know they gamble. And it does seem like they ain't proud of what they're doing.

But why continue in what you're not proud of by keeping it secret cause maybe you're worried about what people may say, how their thoughts about your person might change. Or how you might loose ties with someone you hold dear to. And many other reasons that follows.

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

Whatever you do that is worth doing, make sure you do it well. Society will talk if you do and whenever you don't, so live your life and live it like it's your last. The life we live daily is also gambled without our notice.
During COVID-19, Some churches I know had the money to raise for palliatives but little did they do. Virtual betting and gambling kept the streets kicking. Why will my fellow human with evil mind's judge me for gambling? It's Crazy.

I know what to do and what to avoid in the process. Most importantly is to take profits and not be greedy pussyhole whenever you bet. I will do whatever I want freely and never hide the fact that I play internet betting I

[rahmad2nd]

The answer is very relative, depending on each individual. as you said at the beginning of this post, we live in a society where people have different views on things and we can draw these views based on various factors as you mentioned in this thread. Likewise with gambling, various people have their own views about gambling itself. there are those who keep it secret, there are also those who openly show that they like this hobby. there are various kinds that characterize society in general, and it all depends on each individual. therefore I say, then the answer will be very relative.
referring to what you said in this thread, you have explained some of the factors behind it. in this context, keeping our own gambling confidential from those around us. and in my opinion, this is a very common thing. factors that cause it, as you say and we agree

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

Interesting, I want to ask you, what should we be proud of from gambling? whether after you play gambling you become great, of course not. to be honest the concept you are questioning is, IMO, contradictory. We can interpret that pride in something that is an achievement, for example success in business. then, we are proud of what we have done.

it is commonplace to keep gambling habits secret in the midst of society, the factors that cause it, you have said it yourself in this thread. for me, gambling is not something to be proud of, but to be enjoyed as a hobby that I enjoy doing. so, I have nothing to be proud of from the gambling that I do. because gambling is a hobby, we can even keep it a secret according to our wishes. although, seasoned with various reasons behind it.

[uneng]

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

In many cases gamblers aren't proud of what they are doing, so they prefer to keep it in secret from family, friends and society, as it's seen in a negative way by the local culture, religion and traditions. So to avoid judgement and exclusion from the society, they fill in the role of what people around consider a "normal" citizen and do what is considerated improper in secrecy. Anyway, we really can't judge these gamblers, because we don't know what consequences they may face if peopel discover their hobby.

On the other hand, there are gamblers who play in secret, but not because they aren't proud. They just care about privacy more than others and don't want evil eyes from third party people over their gambling sessions, plus big winnings. For these gamblers secret is the key for business, and the less people know about their lives, the better.

[tabas]

But why continue in what you're not proud of by keeping it secret cause maybe you're worried about what people may say, how their thoughts about your person might change. Or how you might loose ties with someone you hold dear to. And many other reasons that follows.

We don't want to keep it to the public when it's about gamblnig and I think you know the answer why. It's because many families don't think that a part of them should gambling as it will cost them a lot of money and regret and could potentially lose everything on them. There are conservative families and if they know that their son/daughter have been gambling all the time, they may lose their grip on them even if it's her/his personal money from being employed.

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

Proud or not, there are things that we need to keep it to ourselves and if you don't like to be judged by your family and relatives, you won't tell this to them.

[avp2306]

But since outlook of people still negative about gambling then for sure many will keep this as secret ans they will hide such thing to anyone especially to people cannot understand that what currently they are doing is only just for fun.

This is another part behind the reason why they continue to do it despite the risks that will be received from the various factors mentioned by the OP in the contents of this topic when they are found to be related to gambling.
The ban will not apply if an activity has become an addiction.

Well if gambling cost a lot from them then they must quit and keeping it as secret is not best action to do since we know how it will end since this might cost a lot for them if they insist to keep it a secret even if they are in total bad shape.

But for sure his family members could notice it even if he decide to keep silent regarding on their activities since there will be a lot of changes happen to them. But overall it all depends on how people handle their self since they know they are fine then good but if not then they should seek proper help from people near them.

[rozak]

Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.

I don't think it's because they are not proud and it doesn't mean they are irresponsible. maybe there is a social sentiment for those gamblers in certain social circles.
we can enjoy gambling well when we are in the right place. an environment of family and friends who don't mind it all. and we can freely talk about our gambling, our wins or losses.
social environmental factors that influence how surreptitiously gamblers still play.

[Solosanz]

I don't think it's because they are not proud and it doesn't mean they are irresponsible. maybe there is a social sentiment for those gamblers in certain social circles.
we can enjoy gambling well when we are in the right place. an environment of family and friends who don't mind it all. and we can freely talk about our gambling, our wins or losses.
social environmental factors that influence how surreptitiously gamblers still play.

Yeah because not everyone is open minded person, there's many people still believe in conspiracy, myth, etc. When they see a black person, they will think he's a bad person. When they see a gambler, they will think he's not able to manage financial. When they see someone a weird cloth, they will think he's not normal and should be bullied etc. What if we, as a gambler keeping our gambling habit in secret? we will not hear them judging our activity.

[Bitinity]

I have no idea why you should correlate keeping gambling as secret with proud? Lets take other case, some food industries keep their recipes as secret. Does it mean that they are not proud of their products? Nope. Keep something as a secret is reasonable, no one want others to know everything about them because everyone has their own privacy. It is human right, isn't it?

[len01]

In my case, I have not talked about any of my dices sessions to my family, it is because I rather find it to be irrelevant, since I have not turned gambling into a very strong habit I do everyday, I am rather a casual gambler and casual drinker.

Though, this thread and other posts I have written today have made me conspired to tell them about my casual activities, just for them to know I trust them and also so they can check on me when they believe there is something wrong happening to me.

I think most of gamblers experiment shame, I would bet there is an study about it somewhere on the internet.

Interesting thoughts Hispo.

You did right because, you know, prevention is better than cure. In my case I'm also a very casual gambler so, although my family knows that I play from time to time, I don't tell them every time since I also believe that it is irrelevant. But this is the first step to develop an addiction: underestimation.

So I might think about it twice and don't feel shy or ashamed when I do it, so maybe I should be even more transparent with them.

I believe that the shame starts when one losses an amount which would make our family upset about us and our gambling activities. For example, if I lost 1$ in dices, it would be irrelevant to my family and I could say to them easily about that loss. However, things change when the quantity increases and becomes hundreds or even thousands.

The person may feel like trying to chase the losses, so the family members won't even notice what happened, which eventually only leads to more potential loss.

makes sense. TBH, I have also experienced this problem when everything turned into a bigger loss until I had to hide myself, locked myself in my room to cover my disappointment because of my big loss. because if not my family will find out that this problem will get more complicated, of course it will prohibit gambling again.
but since I got married I gamble honestly with my wife so I have no gambling activity that I hide because I never use hot money to bet and always gamble in a stable way without pursuing anything in gambling.