Looking up keeps us grounded and also reminds us what tiny of an
unimportant fart we really are
I agree with keeping grounded, but re the other statement, it remains to be seen, Fermi paradox and all (EDIT: I am not talking about an individual, but the human race as far as the meaning of "we" is concerned).
Evolution does not have a direction, so it is absolutely not predestined to produce intelligent and above all, technologically advanced (with various levels of such) species. The skies are silent and no visible megastructures are present (no cities in the sky in comparison to what you see on the Earth surface from the nearby space).
For those who are scientifically inclined: read the "Wonderful Life: The Burgess Shale and the Nature of History" by Stephen J Gould
Here is the most important part:
In his highly influential book ‘Wonderful Life’, Harvard paleontologist Stephen Jay Gould proposed that evolution is an unpredictable process that can be characterized as
“a staggeringly improbable series of events, sensible enough in retrospect and subject to rigorous explanation, but utterly unpredictable and quite unrepeatable. Wind back the tape of life to the early days of the Burgess Shale; let it play again from an identical starting point, and the chance becomes vanishingly small that anything like human intelligence would grace the replay.” (Gould, 1989, p. 45)
I disagree, but let me refine my oversimple words:
We're
the most important to us, our fate, for the time being of our species.
But as a part of the universe, we mean close to nothing. Wonders of unimaginable dimensions and (also actual) gravity are happening out there, all the time and forever, while we care about things of which most are neither really important to the universe nor relevant. We can change a lot among us humans, but we can't change a fuck in the actual real universe.
I didn't want to offend creationists or shit on humanity, though.
If this is a better way to put it short: We're important to us, but not to the universe.
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Good night from M31 (Andromeda), our neighbour galaxy.
Stacked about 35 minutes of exposure, reduced stars a bit, enhanced contrast.
Wow!!!!
I am seeing the power of having an actual telescope, versus what my naked
(nohomo) eye can see from my area of dee earths, even on a very dark and clear night.
You see "more far" out with a telescope at a higher resolution, but with limited brightness.
The game changer was the digital ability to add up information from many pictures (or streams of collected light data) into a single picture. The human eye works totally counter wise, optimized for coping with movement. Space is relatively static.
The real difference is when you look up to the stars, you actually know what you have captured out there, and where it is located. Knowing that these gigantic things are there, but you can't see it. More and more it becomes an intense feeling of awareness of the presence of this "magically invisible" universe, even by just thinking about.
Bitching and whining...
I don't want to dismiss your pebbles but you might be overthinking some of it. For example in my previous job of ~5 years my spouse was never inside my office because it was just easier for me to get outside. We had an annoying sign-in-and-get-a-temporary-badge process for visitors and also very thin walls unfit for private conversations.
And even if what you're thinking is true, it's not like you could have changed much (or anything). Don't beat yourself up about it.
Fucking Pebbles...
all I have left.That's
NOT the spirit!!!!
All he has left is the remains of what he hasn't given away (from himself), so far.
When you go into a relationship, you gotta keep not forgetting about yourself and give too much of you away to the partner. If the relationsship ends, you're still the rock you were, maybe even harder and bigger than before. The partner is not responsible for your feelings and to meet your desires, you are not responsible for the partner's.
Love and (also co-) dependency are two totally different things and one of the most fatal human confusion. Still, there is no human love possible without dependencies. It's important which dependencies are the ones that are the base of a relationship. A dilemma.
EDIT: I also don't like to say "my partner", even as i do now and then, because there is an implicit aspect of ownership within. One only owns him/herself.