Keeping your gambling habit a secret.

[klidex]

In fact, it's also a good idea for the family to know about the gambling activities we do. at least our wife. So there is a clear allocation of money for household needs and also for playing at the casino. Maybe when we provide good understanding, family can actually be a control so that we don't lose too much beyond the limits of our abilities.

You have a good point here only if you can really manage yourself I mean if you will not fall into addiction for sure you will be able to sustain the needs of your family and just allocate portions of your money for your gambling session, but we don't know what gambling can impact to you when you got attached too much and engage that deep, it can always lead you to addictions.

With that, even how good you are in hiding your participation it will be brought out by your actions. Most of the time, addicted gambler turned things into an un-controllable situation.

I think this all depends on each gambler's thinking because there are gamblers who have logical thinking or think broadly and can allocate their time and money for their family's needs, but on the other hand, these gamblers fail to hide their gambling activities.
Because there are some gamblers who want to brag about showing other people that if they bet a large amount or get a big win, then share it publicly with other people to fulfill their vanity needs, even though if they can think positively, such traits will be very bad in the long run. .
It would be better to always gamble under the circumstances or gamble responsibly to avoid addiction and keep the gambling hidden from other people for comfort in the long term because when we get a big win it is enough for us to know so that other people don't ask for a share of the winnings

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[maydna]

Not secret but not broadcast either, its nobodys business but your own really much like many activities.   IF you mean secret from your family especially your wife who you split finances from then yea I would prefer not to have to do that but I understand if many people do avoid that aggravation if its not really needed to do.   The only real reason you have to disclose gambling is when you fail to control or  balance your finances then likely its problem for you and everyone around you unfortunately.

Indeed, more gamblers who initially kept their gambling activities secret were revealed after their finances started to get messy and involved people around them. It's like borrowing from friends and family just to gamble with the assumption that it will pay off when you get a monthly salary or win from gambling.
and of course it will disrupt the family's finances. and it would be very bad if such gambling activities continued. forcing yourself to continue playing even though you have run out of capital.

In fact, it's also a good idea for the family to know about the gambling activities we do. at least our wife. So there is a clear allocation of money for household needs and also for playing at the casino. Maybe when we provide good understanding, family can actually be a control so that we don't lose too much beyond the limits of our abilities.

That's right, an addicted gambler will do anything to be able to gamble, I once saw an addict who looked very anxious and confused, financially he was previously well off and his family looked happy. However, the more I got here, I started to think that he was an addict because what I saw before was now the opposite, his family was also feeling the impact. And it can be concluded that it is very terrible if someone is addicted without realizing it, he will lose all his possessions and this can cause problems for himself and his family.

The impacts experienced by gambling addicts will be felt by those closest to them or their families. Therefore, if they have gambling activities, they should talk to the people closest to them to find out about it and help control their finances. If the person is married, he can control his finances because he has a wife/husband who will help him so he doesn't experience gambling problems. But it's a different story if the husband/wife finally sees that gambling is fun and joins in gambling too. That will cause big problems for the household because they might get involved in a serious gambling addiction without self-control. So if someone can control himself and knows his limits, he can hide his gambling activities from others. But if not, he can talk to other people about his gambling activities and ask for help to control his gambling activities.

[bittraffic]

Not secret but not broadcast either, its nobodys business but your own really much like many activities.   IF you mean secret from your family especially your wife who you split finances from then yea I would prefer not to have to do that but I understand if many people do avoid that aggravation if its not really needed to do.   The only real reason you have to disclose gambling is when you fail to control or  balance your finances then likely its problem for you and everyone around you unfortunately.

Indeed, more gamblers who initially kept their gambling activities secret were revealed after their finances started to get messy and involved people around them. It's like borrowing from friends and family just to gamble with the assumption that it will pay off when you get a monthly salary or win from gambling.
and of course it will disrupt the family's finances. and it would be very bad if such gambling activities continued. forcing yourself to continue playing even though you have run out of capital.

In fact, it's also a good idea for the family to know about the gambling activities we do. at least our wife. So there is a clear allocation of money for household needs and also for playing at the casino. Maybe when we provide good understanding, family can actually be a control so that we don't lose too much beyond the limits of our abilities.

That's right, an addicted gambler will do anything to be able to gamble, I once saw an addict who looked very anxious and confused, financially he was previously well off and his family looked happy. However, the more I got here, I started to think that he was an addict because what I saw before was now the opposite, his family was also feeling the impact. And it can be concluded that it is very terrible if someone is addicted without realizing it, he will lose all his possessions and this can cause problems for himself and his family.

The impacts experienced by gambling addicts will be felt by those closest to them or their families. Therefore, if they have gambling activities, they should talk to the people closest to them to find out about it and help control their finances. If the person is married, he can control his finances because he has a wife/husband who will help him so he doesn't experience gambling problems. But it's a different story if the husband/wife finally sees that gambling is fun and joins in gambling too. That will cause big problems for the household because they might get involved in a serious gambling addiction without self-control. So if someone can control himself and knows his limits, he can hide his gambling activities from others. But if not, he can talk to other people about his gambling activities and ask for help to control his gambling activities.

So now even his family is judging him.

Of all the people in the world who you think will not look at your faults will not see you with disappointment. Let's say they (the family) audit the amount you lost in gambling because after all, they know you are playing all the time. They may think right now that, you could have bought a Tesla car with the amount instead of just playing. 

Now they may visit your apartment from time to time checking you whether you play as to not let them know you gambling habits.

[o48o]

Unfortunately many people live in a black and white world in which either something is completely good and if it is not then it is assumed to be bad, the majority of gamblers out there will never suffer any repercussions from their hobby, just as someone can enjoy a few drinks and they will not become an alcoholic, however for those intolerant people since the chances exist for a person to go down the wrong path then gambling must be bad and it should be banned, even if such practices have shown to damage society at large.

I don't think that majority see that as a problem, even though i understand that some people want to hide their gambling because of other judging (like myself). Secrecy comes a problem if you are hiding the fact you are playing your family's money, or money that isn't yours to gamble with. Even if they were "sure" bets.

These people are the ones that act as cautionary tales, and bad examples. No one wants to hear about people playing and having fun and cutting early. People are often jealous so they rejoice when someone gets too close to sun and burns. So those stories are way more enjoyable to people then stories where people are just doing ok.

You can see this happening in crypto all the time. People are just waiting for them to crash, so they can say, look, we were right, it was like gambling and you lost.

[Westinhome]

I don't think that majority see that as a problem, even though i understand that some people want to hide their gambling because of other judging (like myself). Secrecy comes a problem if you are hiding the fact you are playing your family's money, or money that isn't yours to gamble with. Even if they were "sure" bets.

These people are the ones that act as cautionary tales, and bad examples. No one wants to hear about people playing and having fun and cutting early. People are often jealous so they rejoice when someone gets too close to sun and burns. So those stories are way more enjoyable to people then stories where people are just doing ok.

You can see this happening in crypto all the time. People are just waiting for them to crash, so they can say, look, we were right, it was like gambling and you lost.

The gambler most hide the gambling involvement because only due to the judge of the person based on the gambling involvement.Now the society think the gambler doesn’t take care of their family.Even though the gamblers fully care their family buy making some division of their salary.The people made their rough words which is not the acceptable one.Secondly you may be accused of using the family money in the gambling,even though you had planned the gambling and doesn’t use the monthly expenses in the gambling.The gambler should not get jealous on the winning of their friend in the same gambling.If they want,they can get loan from their friends and make some good gambling and winning from their own game.

[Aikidoka]

Not secret but not broadcast either, its nobodys business but your own really much like many activities.   IF you mean secret from your family especially your wife who you split finances from then yea I would prefer not to have to do that but I understand if many people do avoid that aggravation if its not really needed to do.   The only real reason you have to disclose gambling is when you fail to control or  balance your finances then likely its problem for you and everyone around you unfortunately.

True, the worst problem you can encounter is getting addicted to gambling and losing a lot of money because of it which can lead to real trouble. IMO the best thing to do is to be open with your family and your tell about your gambling activities and you shouldn't hide it. Things tend to get worse when you hide such stuffs like that and if they find out, it can lead to a lot of troubles, sometimes even resulting in divorce or major problems within your family.

[bittraffic]

Not secret but not broadcast either, its nobodys business but your own really much like many activities.   IF you mean secret from your family especially your wife who you split finances from then yea I would prefer not to have to do that but I understand if many people do avoid that aggravation if its not really needed to do.   The only real reason you have to disclose gambling is when you fail to control or  balance your finances then likely its problem for you and everyone around you unfortunately.

True, the worst problem you can encounter is getting addicted to gambling and losing a lot of money because of it which can lead to real trouble. IMO the best thing to do is to be open with your family and your tell about your gambling activities and you shouldn't hide it. Things tend to get worse when you hide such stuffs like that and if they find out, it can lead to a lot of troubles, sometimes even resulting in divorce or major problems within your family.

Of course when you defaulted utility bills, its definitely time to pause and think through. But as long as you manages to make it and you spend the money that your wife has allocated for you, there is no need for her to know how you spend the money or your gambling activity.

Wives talk to other wives. They even talk how big your dick is. So your habit is just another that will make them despise you.

[zuzie]

The impacts experienced by gambling addicts will be felt by those closest to them or their families. Therefore, if they have gambling activities, they should talk to the people closest to them to find out about it and help control their finances. If the person is married, he can control his finances because he has a wife/husband who will help him so he doesn't experience gambling problems. But it's a different story if the husband/wife finally sees that gambling is fun and joins in gambling too. That will cause big problems for the household because they might get involved in a serious gambling addiction without self-control. So if someone can control himself and knows his limits, he can hide his gambling activities from others. But if not, he can talk to other people about his gambling activities and ask for help to control his gambling activities.

So now even his family is judging him.

Of all the people in the world who you think will not look at your faults will not see you with disappointment. Let's say they (the family) audit the amount you lost in gambling because after all, they know you are playing all the time. They may think right now that, you could have bought a Tesla car with the amount instead of just playing. 

Now they may visit your apartment from time to time checking you whether you play as to not let them know you gambling habits.

Yes, maybe it's like that, it's not easy for a family to be prepared to accept the impact of a gambler's defeat, they think that gamblers must be punished for their mistakes, I once saw a husband who kept his gambling a secret from his wife, he played for about a year. for years and he spent tens of millions in total, when the defeat came, the wife became suspicious, the husband never gave him money for daily needs, and he started telling his wife that he had actually lost a lot in gambling. Of course this will make his wife and children sad, because he is not honest that he is a gambler.

[TopTort777]

I can appreciate your perspective. Since you earned it, it's your money. What right does anyone else have to dictate how you use or spend it? But have you ever given it any thought as to why people might be concerned? Yes, it's none of their concern, but occasionally, it's more about you than it is about the money. It's one thing to gamble responsibly, but if you're getting so into it that you have to vehemently announce, "I don't care," it makes me question. I occasionally gamble, but I'm aware of the risks. Hey, it doesn't make it right or bad if no one has expressed disapproval or celebrated. It just indicates that they haven't expressed any opinions. Perhaps they're waiting on you to make a realisation. Just keep in mind that controlling yourself, not the other way around, is more important than worrying about the money

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

[AicecreaME]

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

I agree with this especially the last part.

It could be a good idea to keep your gambling habit a secret to avoid the unsolicited advices from the people that you aren't close to begin with. However, it also has its pros such as being supported and guided with your decision making whenever you are betting and playing. It's a good thing to have someone to look after you because sometimes we have a tendency to go astray even if we were firmed in our decision before to just gamble moderately and responsibly. There will be times especially to those people who are prone to be pressured by external factors to be lost in their way and hence, having your closest ones that know your habits can help you be in track in a healthy way, without suffocating you.

[Fiatless]

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

I was one of the persons who believed that we should keep our gambling life secret to avoid stigmatization from the public. But after reading your post I think it will be good to show close relatives and friends that you are a responsible gambler. I believe most of them will understand your explanation as much as it is not affecting your finances negatively. As you said, it is these people who will help to identify when you are over-gambling or suffering from gambling addiction.

People should know the cause of your problems so that they can offer help. Most people who are fighting gambling addiction become depressed when they don't get help from people. However, relatives might not know the cause of the problem because they are unaware that such a person gambles. From now on, I will seek means to intimate some of my trusted relations about my gaming life.

[Vladv26]

I believe most people who keep their gambling habit a secret do it because they don't want to face the truth. They are most likely addicted to gambling, they are losing a lot of money which in turn starts affecting their personal life. So they just keep it hidden, a secret which they won't reveal even to themselves.

Speaking with other people about your gambling habit should not be a problem as long as you are in control, you are aware of your decision to gamble and you are responsible for the amount of money you spend gambling. But when gambling becomes an addiction you start losing control, you start spending more and more money and therefore you don't like speaking with other people about it because that would bring the truth to the surface and you would have to face it.

[Z390]

These is always someone in our life that we can't do anything without them knowing, I think those type of people means a lot to us, they deserve to know because if one day you turn into an addict, you can rest assured that they will be there to save you from falling deep into addiction and probably ruining your own life in the process.

There is nothing bad about keeping your gambling addiction a secret, but that should depend on the environment you living in and the type of people that are living in your home, some people have haters around them all the days of their lives, if they know what you are into they will use that against you, they will wait for your failure and take advantage of the situations.

Some people are blessed with good people around them, whatever happens in their lives these set of people will come forward to the rescue, but precaution is better than cure, it's better to fight against gambling addiction than expecting someone else to stop you from getting addicted to gambling.

[madnessteat]

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

I was one of the persons who believed that we should keep our gambling life secret to avoid stigmatization from the public. But after reading your post I think it will be good to show close relatives and friends that you are a responsible gambler. I believe most of them will understand your explanation as much as it is not affecting your finances negatively. As you said, it is these people who will help to identify when you are over-gambling or suffering from gambling addiction.

People should know the cause of your problems so that they can offer help. Most people who are fighting gambling addiction become depressed when they don't get help from people. However, relatives might not know the cause of the problem because they are unaware that such a person gambles. From now on, I will seek means to intimate some of my trusted relations about my gaming life.

Hiding a gambling addiction can really play a cruel joke at a time when a gambler will need the help of loved ones. I do not understand why many people adjust to the opinions of society. Society by and large does not care about us and it is well seen by the huge number of beggars in any country in the world. Live as you want, as long as you do not break the law and do not forget about your loved ones, because in reality only they can help you.

[Fredomago]

The impacts experienced by gambling addicts will be felt by those closest to them or their families. Therefore, if they have gambling activities, they should talk to the people closest to them to find out about it and help control their finances. If the person is married, he can control his finances because he has a wife/husband who will help him so he doesn't experience gambling problems. But it's a different story if the husband/wife finally sees that gambling is fun and joins in gambling too. That will cause big problems for the household because they might get involved in a serious gambling addiction without self-control. So if someone can control himself and knows his limits, he can hide his gambling activities from others. But if not, he can talk to other people about his gambling activities and ask for help to control his gambling activities.

So now even his family is judging him.

Of all the people in the world who you think will not look at your faults will not see you with disappointment. Let's say they (the family) audit the amount you lost in gambling because after all, they know you are playing all the time. They may think right now that, you could have bought a Tesla car with the amount instead of just playing. 

Now they may visit your apartment from time to time checking you whether you play as to not let them know you gambling habits.

Yes, maybe it's like that, it's not easy for a family to be prepared to accept the impact of a gambler's defeat, they think that gamblers must be punished for their mistakes, I once saw a husband who kept his gambling a secret from his wife, he played for about a year. for years and he spent tens of millions in total, when the defeat came, the wife became suspicious, the husband never gave him money for daily needs, and he started telling his wife that he had actually lost a lot in gambling. Of course this will make his wife and children sad, because he is not honest that he is a gambler.

It's hard for the family and for sure it's not an easy way to accept that but there's no one who can understand or who need to understand the situation than the love one that he have, with your example that amount is really huge, though there's nothing that can do to bring that money back, but the help from the family and love ones in terms of start quitting to avoid more damages is something that needed to work out.

A kind of secret where things will reveal itself, just the same with usual addicted gamblers. When there's nothing left, it will be notice of how they act and how they will try to find ways to continue playing.

[yazher]

True, the worst problem you can encounter is getting addicted to gambling and losing a lot of money because of it which can lead to real trouble. IMO the best thing to do is to be open with your family and your tell about your gambling activities and you shouldn't hide it. Things tend to get worse when you hide such stuffs like that and if they find out, it can lead to a lot of troubles, sometimes even resulting in divorce or major problems within your family.

There are no other people who can truly help you except your own family because your loss is their loss as well and no families want to see their loved ones suffering also they want to offer some help once they know you are in deep trouble. other people wanted to seclude their problem which cost them a huge negative impact on their life in the future because they ended up hitting the dead end without even thinking about the fact that others have some solutions to their problems. When it comes to gambling, it's fine to tell your family that you are getting addicted so that they can assist you to help yourself to cure it in any way possible.

[gunhell16]

I don't think that majority see that as a problem, even though i understand that some people want to hide their gambling because of other judging (like myself). Secrecy comes a problem if you are hiding the fact you are playing your family's money, or money that isn't yours to gamble with. Even if they were "sure" bets.

These people are the ones that act as cautionary tales, and bad examples. No one wants to hear about people playing and having fun and cutting early. People are often jealous so they rejoice when someone gets too close to sun and burns. So those stories are way more enjoyable to people then stories where people are just doing ok.

You can see this happening in crypto all the time. People are just waiting for them to crash, so they can say, look, we were right, it was like gambling and you lost.

The gambler most hide the gambling involvement because only due to the judge of the person based on the gambling involvement.Now the society think the gambler doesn’t take care of their family.Even though the gamblers fully care their family buy making some division of their salary.The people made their rough words which is not the acceptable one.Secondly you may be accused of using the family money in the gambling,even though you had planned the gambling and doesn’t use the monthly expenses in the gambling.The gambler should not get jealous on the winning of their friend in the same gambling.If they want,they can get loan from their friends and make some good gambling and winning from their own game.

Most people nowadays don't have a good overview of gambling. That's why other gamblers hide their gambling habits because they avoid having problems with their family or for other reasons. That's why there are people who, when they find out that you gamble, immediately think badly of you.

But they don't know that perhaps the only reason a gambler is able to hide it is because they avoid what others can say. Although there is no secret that cannot be revealed, it will evaporate and evaporate. In my opinion, it's probably okay to do that as long as you don't neglect any responsibilities to your family or trample on other people, and besides, it's a gambler's money.

[noormcs5]

Not secret but not broadcast either, its nobodys business but your own really much like many activities.   IF you mean secret from your family especially your wife who you split finances from then yea I would prefer not to have to do that but I understand if many people do avoid that aggravation if its not really needed to do.   The only real reason you have to disclose gambling is when you fail to control or  balance your finances then likely its problem for you and everyone around you unfortunately.

True, the worst problem you can encounter is getting addicted to gambling and losing a lot of money because of it which can lead to real trouble. IMO the best thing to do is to be open with your family and your tell about your gambling activities and you shouldn't hide it. Things tend to get worse when you hide such stuffs like that and if they find out, it can lead to a lot of troubles, sometimes even resulting in divorce or major problems within your family.

Of course when you defaulted utility bills, its definitely time to pause and think through. But as long as you manages to make it and you spend the money that your wife has allocated for you, there is no need for her to know how you spend the money or your gambling activity.

Wives talk to other wives. They even talk how big your dick is. So your habit is just another that will make them despise you.

It becomes extremely hard for anyone to hide gambling activities within the home. For example, for a husband, it is almost impossible to hide that he is gambling (even if he is using his own money) as his wife can catch him gambling online on his system or mobile. Yes, you can keep your gambling habit hidden from friends or relatives but it becomes extremely difficult to hide it from the people living at your home.

So in my opinion, it is better to talk to your family, take them in confidence that you are gambling, only allocating certain funds, and show them the profits earned.

[TopTort777]

But controlling yourself does not equals to keeping something in secret. Gambling responsibility does not equal to keeping gambling in secret also. If someone want to look responsible, is scared that his gambling might turn into addiction, then is is even better to announce that you gamble, than hide it. People around might notice addiction and try to help. 

Notice how on the first pages of this topic people supported that it is better to hide such hobby or way to spend time, and how we talk about addiction, wife/husband spending fortune and other problems. A lot of problems we have in our lives are due to keeping something in secret, lack of communication and keeping everything inside than putting it on public. I bet you have lots of example in your life when you would better have told something than kept that in secret or was silent about something.

Instead of keeping something in secret, better surround ourselves with right people.

I was one of the persons who believed that we should keep our gambling life secret to avoid stigmatization from the public. But after reading your post I think it will be good to show close relatives and friends that you are a responsible gambler. I believe most of them will understand your explanation as much as it is not affecting your finances negatively. As you said, it is these people who will help to identify when you are over-gambling or suffering from gambling addiction.

People should know the cause of your problems so that they can offer help. Most people who are fighting gambling addiction become depressed when they don't get help from people. However, relatives might not know the cause of the problem because they are unaware that such a person gambles. From now on, I will seek means to intimate some of my trusted relations about my gaming life.

Important point is - just to show, just to make people know what you do at free time. By saying "should not keep gambling in secret", I did not mean that I must shout and tell everyone that I gamble, not to boast and taunt people with things I would buy if I win jackpot. Just to make people know what you do. And most important, it is your hobby and you use your money on it. As some relatives, friend or people around might not support that you gamble, yet they see you from the side. But that is their opinion, you have your opinion. You are not here to change their, they dont have right to influence on yours.

[bayu7adi]

In my area, individuals aged 21 or older don't attract extra attention when engaging in gambling. When someone loses or wins in gambling, the best course of action is often to keep it low-key to prevent it from becoming a significant issue down the road. For those who aren't addicted, it can be discreetly managed without affecting their financial situation.

For individuals who are addicted to gambling, it's no longer possible to keep it hidden or secret. Even their families become aware of it. Warnings often arise from other family members, but there's no positive change in sight.

I've never dealt with gambling on a local platform because I prefer casinos from abroad. I also don't openly share my casino gaming with people around me, but when they talk about their gambling experiences, I'll certainly tell them. It's not about keeping it a secret, but it's also not about openly disclosing it.